Secondary infertility (with PCOS)

Anyone else on here struggling with secondary infertility because of PCOS? I have a 5 year old son and we have been trying for about 3 years in on and off with help from my ob, then a year ago started seeing fertility and I’m still not pregnant! It’s so expensive and such an emotional roller coaster! We got pregnant 2 cycles ago finally, and lost the baby very early on. They have told us we should do IVF but it would cost close to 20,000 with storing any left over embryos for future cycles. We can never save that up, and we applied for a loan but got denied. I had 3 good size follicles this month, and I normally only have 1, and I’m supposed to test on Halloween, but I’m not having any symptoms. They have kept upping my dose of Femara, I’m at 10 right now and I think that’s as high as they will go. I have to go back and regroup with my actual doctor since it still has not worked and I’m scared of what he will have to say. It’s so unbelievably hard to go through this. It’s heart breaking every cycle to get a negative for years. I just feel so lost and hopeless.

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We have been struggling with getting pregnant for a little over a year and a half. However I haven’t had a child prior. We are trying for our first. It is so heartbreaking every month. I feel broken sometimes. Like this is something as a women, I am supposed to be able to do. And trying not to feel jealous of those who try the first month and get pregnant. I know your struggle. You are not alone! 🖤

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I hope y’all get pregnant with a first!!! Cherish and document your pregnancy (if and when it happens). I did not as much as I should have because I never thought it could be my last. I’m going to warn you, if you have trouble with having a second it doesn’t become any easier. I always thought, “lord just give me one baby and I’ll be happy” I have one (we struggled getting pregnant with him). I struggle even more with trying for the second. I’m still so thankful for the one son, but I always want to give him a sibling. May I ask what is causing trouble getting pregnant?

I’m struggling to get pregnant due to PCOS. I’ve done 3 rounds of shots and nothing worked so far. I have many friends/family that got pregnant so fast I hate to get jealous but I am. I cried out in my car during a graduation party bc my cousin who was trying for 2 months announced she was pregnant. I get the heartbreak. Always here if you need to chat 🖤

Yes! Our son is almost 7 and we have been ttc our 2nd for almost 5 yrs. I am losing hope of ever having another which makes me so sad. Espessily when other friends and family keep having more babies without a problem. I am almost 40 so not much time left.

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What have you been doing fertility wise? We cant a afford IVF either and have done so many rounds of iui for our second. We got pregnant with our son with our first iui. Didnt think it was gonna take this long.

I’m so sorry! Same. So many people are having their second and third babies and as happy as you are for them, you can’t help but be a little bitter and resentful. Obviously I know it’s not their fault but everything is just so raw and feel so personal with this!

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