Not posting your pregnancy on social media

I personally don't post daily or ever on social media as a precautionary measure for our children based on our business involvement. I do understand not wanting to share this immediately with the world though as most complications present themselves in the first trimester. I would advise waiting until the second trimester if you want to release this info to the public so that you can deal with any issues or grievances within your family and find peace if there are any complications that arise. I see nothing wrong with waiting or not disclosing to the open public. It does not mean you are not excited. It just means you want and respect privacy amongst your own family.

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I am not sure of your reasons for being so active on social media (if you are an influencer etc). But it is customary for people to wait until the first trimester is over or they are visibly showing to share this personal information for some of the reasons you stated. At the end of the day, you will do whatever you are most comfortable with. I personally, would never feel obligated to share or do anyrhing because of a gaggle of internet strangers.

I’m 17w, I did think that at the beginning but as time has gone on I still have not done so. I have been in hospital twice from bleeding and I did think that was the reason t the beginning but like I said I’m now 17w and I’m just feel like I don’t want to say anything but then I’m worried I’d give birth and people will be like what? Wait, when did you have another baby?

Hi Caroline, another UK mammy to be awake in the early hours 🙄 I'm not particularly active on social media although I do post on occasion. I've not mentioned my pregnancy publicly at all and I'm 31 weeks! I think it's personal preference and I decided it wasn't something I wanted to announce other than to family and friends. I do find social media can be quite fake and to be honest I couldn't be bothered with friends of friends or acquaintances pretending to be happy for me when they've not bothered with me for years otherwise. I sound like a right misery, I promise I'm not 🤣 xx

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I’m actually really happy to hear that actually a lot of you guys that are commenting saying you have not posted about the pregnancy on social media. I just had a mini panic attack last night with crazy moods asking my OH on it and his answer like most men is it’s up to you baby. Which was Actual no help at all with my hormonal self last night x

I made a post about it at 26 weeks, you can let people know when you feel like you want to. It's normal to want to keep things private, not everyone should have access to you and your business 24/7

We have told family. Husbands mom even asked why it isnt on facebook. Like because idk if i want it on facebook? Duh. I know friends that have struggled with fertility, and as one of those people that has struggled, it sucks when people seem to post about their pregnancy every day, so my heart is also with those friends of mine. I may post after we know the sex (which is jan 11) but i still havent decided to put it on SM

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I think as long as you are tasteful about it, as in not like, over doing it, she will be happy and understanding for you. I feel that my friends will feel that way for me as well, but i definitely will not be posting all the time about it. I honestly thought of just doing a gender reveal with my family, and then making one post basically, and that being it. My prayers are with your friend though. Earlier this year, my aunt went through breast cancer. She is recovering from chemo now.

Thank you. I do actually have a friend that had stage three ovarian cancer this year and she had half of it cut out, and she had her eggs frozen the year before and she’s planning to have ivf next year. I don’t know how I’m going to break her the news I’m pregnant as she called me when she was going through cancer and telling me as well 😭 I guess subconsciously I didn’t post is another reason as you pointed out here x

I am right there with you. I have no desire to announce it on social media. I don’t feel the need to. It’s too much and peoples opinions could add more anxiety or stress than needed.

Its okay 👌 I didnt make an announcement until the month i was due. Don't worry about other people's feelings. It's not wrong. Focus on you, love. You're doing great!

Keep it to yourself the world need not know

I didn’t post anything on social media till 32 weeks and it wasn’t even an announcement. Just a picture with my boyfriend. The most important people already knew so it didn’t matter.

there’s nothing wrong with being private . my son is 18months and i never posted my belly on social media nor my son at that matter till this day . no one would think i’m a mother of 3 i’ve become very private and protective over my children and family over the years

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Oh yes, I have a 13 year old girl and even though I post daily, I’ve only posted about her twice. I agree that it should be private, I guess because I post daily about life, creams, beauty, clothes, food, home Cooking ... basically my life, it’s just drawing the line between my public life and my private family life. And I guess me at 2.30am last night had a mini break down 😌 but yes I think I’m going to keep this matter private to family and very close friends I speak to only x

We didn’t announce on social until I was 26 weeks, mainly as I was made redundant in the summer and was looking for a job so didn’t want it to ruin my chances. Social media isn’t for everyone, and having worked in celeb PR I’ve seen first hand how dangerous it can be. It’s totally your call to make :) x

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Thank you sweet! I guess i got so wrapped up with social media, I wasn’t too sure but seeing how it’s normal for everyone not to announce it on social media here makes me feel normal that I haven’t yet, and I guess I won’t for the whole of my pregnancy x

I didnt announce that I was pregnant on social media at all. I posted a picture of my daughter a couple of days after she was born and I did have comments from people saying they didnt even know I was pregnant, but they were people I hadn't even spoken to over the 9 months previous so why would they know. I think part of why I didnt announce it was incase something happened to my baby whilst I was pregnant and then being put in the awkward position of people asking what had happened x

We haven’t posted anything on social media but have told all the important people and telling others as and when we see them/message them. I feel quite strongly about not plastering my unborn child all over the internet, will probably do a small post when baby is born but of something abstract like their feet, just because I don’t think messaging around lots of individual people will be top of our priority list! 😊

Every pregnancy is different and it's how it makes you feel. I'm pregnant and haven't posted about it either. But I am conflicted and trying to figure out if I should or not. Mostly because I'm having a very difficult pregnancy and it has been the complete opposite of what pregnancy is "suppose to be". I feel very heavy for women who are going through these same issues and think their alone. Because honestly it took me a while and I felt alone all the time. I was given bad news appointment after appointment and there was no joy in knowing I was pregnant. Now at 18 weeks I'm finally okay with knowing that my experience is mine and I shouldn't feel guilty that I wasn't able to enjoy the last 17 weeks. I want to encourage other women that pregnancy doesn't have to look and feel like a fairytale and that it doesn't mean there is something wrong with them. So I'll keep praying about it and then make my decision. But don't feel bad if you just want to keep this part of your life to those who matter most❤

I'm currently 35 weeks and was the same, I didnt announce it on social media at all, I told family and close friends and that was it. My mum really wanted to post it but I said no. Its your life and you do as your comfortable with. I just didn't want everyone knowing my business tbh.

I think its the most special and precious secret to keep. We only told close friends and family and I never posted anything on social media until I was 32 weeks. I only posted then because I had my baby shower and I didn't want anyone else to spread the news before i could. This was just my personal preference as I wanted to keep hold of our precious news as long as I could and to be honest its no one else's business. You just do what ever you think is right xx

No your not crazy because I haven’t put it on social media either. I felt bad about it too but there is a handful of my friends that I didn’t know was pregnant until the baby was born. Some thing are me at to be private and it’s not for the world to k ow everything.

I told everyone, including social media at that 12 week safe mark and I completely regret doing it lol. Sometimes I wish I had told absolutely no one because people can be so annoying with pregnancy 😅 Being bombarded with questions and unsolicited advice and people touching my bump without my permission, etc. I wish there had been a way that I could’ve kept the whole thing a secret with my husband

I didn't post anything on social media until after my daughter was born and I was careful that my bump was never showing so that no one could guess. I'd already told the family and friends who were important to me and didn't think random Facebook friends from high school needed to know. It's completely your choice though, whatever you feel comfortable with

🙋‍♀️ 19 wks and also not posting. I don’t even know why... maybe it’s anxiety that something could go wrong after, maybe I just want this little lockdown nugget all to myself, or maybe I’m worried the dog will get jealous to see something besides her on my Insta lol. Who knows!? I’m watching all my friends between 11 and 15wks post and I’m like “I WILL TOO” and then I just... don’t lol. I just had a private ultrasound done last week so my spouse could see this little jumper (he’s not allowed at the hospital ultrasounds) and really thought I would, but maybeeeeee after my anatomy scan at 21 weeks? Or maybe I’ll just be like “here’s this baby” in May. I honestly don’t know lol... you aren’t alone

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Awww yep that’s how I feel! I’m going for a gender reveal scan tomorrow!! It’s sooo exciting!!

I 100% didn’t announce it on social media. I told family and a few close friends. Some didn’t know till gone 20 weeks. As awful as it sounds I would hate to plaster it around and then something awful happen. I’m not one for baby showers either. I’ve known 3 friends have stillborns this year and it’s frightened the life out of me even more and to keep it even more private. Don’t feel the pressure and do what you feel is right x

I didn’t post either I’m 29 weeks and decided we will do a big surprise once she’s here x

I didn’t post until I was 30 weeks, only told a handful of people before that.

I'm 21weeks and I don't put it on my social media. My family and close friends know. Its totally fine and normal.

You’re not crazy at all. I myself post daily on my social media and kept it a secret to most of my following on social media for almost 6 months. Then I found the courage to just be open about it. Wether you decide to post about it or not is totally your choice ❤️❤️

Also haven’t posted on socials about mine and don’t plan to. (I’m definitely not the type to have a big gender reveal and I’m even on the fence about a baby shower.) Instead, I told a few people at a time and made the announcement in my Christmas cards for most. My husband would be too shy to tell people if I didn’t send the cards 😅 It feels manageable for me this way. As others said, definitely do what feels right for you. These days it’s easy to forget we are still entitled to our privacy and keeping our own secrets amongst the people we want 😀