Newborn mother needs advice!!

My daughter has been doing the same thing! Shes almost 6 weeks old now and the only way I can get her to sleep is by swaddling her! Calms her down instantly and shes asleep within 10 minutes.

Yes swaddling definitely helps... thanks guys

My baby is 4 month old and he started to do the same thing, before I could just lay him down drowsy and he would go to sleep by himself, now it’s really hard to get him to sleep at anytime, he’ll fight to stay awake and cry until he falls asleep. I’m really tired and frustrated. I hope this will pass soon. I’m going to try the Magic Sleepsuit, I heard good things about it.

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Okay yes she is the same way. Ugh!!

Update: I found out that my baby’s teething, I got some teething remedies and he’s SO much better!! I know your baby is only 10 weeks old, but some babies start teething really early, you might wanna check if that’s her problem too.

That’s sounds pretty normal, not that being normal makes it suck any less. But babies don’t start developing their circadian rhythm until 3 months and before then they tend to be more nocturnal. Hopefully the coming weeks get better since you’re nearing the 3 month mark.

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Thank you. She sleeps pretty well at night, she doesn't fight sleep like during the day. I can tell she's tired but has a hard time sleeping.

My little girl is 15 weeks, she will have a nap for around an hour at 3pm and 10 minuets again around 6pm, bed at 9pm and has done since about 6 weeks. Some babies hate routine and others relish in it🤷🏻‍♀️ she won’t take actual naps and gets really grumpy if I try to force her. At first I was only doing stuff whilst she was sleeping but when she started being awake more I put her in a baby carrier and just got on with it. Sometimes they just don’t sleep😂 little bugs

Mine was a great mapper until about 2 months old. He got terrible and it took me at least 20 minutes to get him down, just for him to wake about 30 minutes later. It’s seemed to be a phase that he’s somewhat grown out of. He is 6 months old now and will go down a lot easier, and every other nap is about 1.5+ hours.

My little one was the same way from about 3 to 5.5 months. Naps were horrible. Sometimes I tried for 45 minutes to get her to sleep for a 30 minute nap. And never longer. It was like clockwork. But when she hit the 6 month mark she started to sleep longer cycles. I read that at that age they are able to connect sleep cycles (they have to learn that) which leads to longer naps. She is now 13 months and has 2 naps,each 1-1.5 hrs and sleeps 11-12 hrs at night. It's a phase and it will pass. Just hang in there mama!

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Thank you! Good to know!

I fed my baby to sleep, everyone tells you not to and they’ll be too attached but now my baby is the most independent little thing ever and doesn’t let me feed her to sleep. During the day we snap in swings, I know you’re not supposed to but her naps are about an hour each and I check on her every few minutes We fought naps for months but we’re still in swing Guess we’ll see what happens when we’re too big

Try walking around with her and taking her outside, when my baby cries where I can’t help him, he always stops the moment I take him outside.

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Ok!

I don’t have any advice and just wanted to send along encouragement! The first months are so tough - especially when it comes to sleep - and it gets better! You’ve got this momma!

Im having the same issue!!! My 7 week old will only sleep good on their belly and I dont like him sleeping that way... i cant get nothing done!!

Unfortunately, your baby is right at the age for a sleep regression. Routine is super important, but it’s really just something she has to grow out of. Do whatever you have to do to get her (and yourself!) as much sleep as possible, and know it won’t last forever!

Try swaddling! My son hates it at first but it was the only way he took long naps! Also try a white noise machine! Good luck!!!!!!

Does she by any chance have reflux or gerd? Mine was the same and couldn't sleep due to pain. Maybe try craniosacral therapy or chiro. Then some babies just don't sleep when you want them to. My first was a cat napper only 10 minutes to 15 minutes through out the day.

Hey Momma! Yup. That's perfectly normal and good! :) It's a stage of development. Have you tried investing in a baby carrier? That was a lifesaver for me at that stage, because it's like he would only nap if he was on me, and the carrier freed up my hands so I could do stuff while my little man napped. :) No worries. It is just a stage. *hugs* You'll figure out what works for you guys!!

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Thank you very much

Agree this happened to me too - my baby had to be on me (or driving in the car) to nap. Around 2 weeks ago (she’s 13 weeks now)we started cry it out for naps - I swaddle her, give her pacifier, turn on the shussher, and it usually takes about 10 min for her to settle and fall asleep. This is after she gives me sleepy cues (yawning, rubbing eyes, fussiness). I use the Glow app to track her naps and notice between 1.5-2 hrs is when she does the cues

Yes I have 13 wk old and she does the same thing! I thinks it's a phase! She will grow out of it!

What always worked for me (I had a reflux and colicky baby) was walking into another room to rock her until she would nap. Sometimes they need a change of scenery

Try to sticking to a meticulous schedule, preferably one recommended by the pediatrician. This really helped me gain my sleep back, and my little one as well!

Mine has sleep issues, holding a pacifier in her mouth while she’s wrapped in a soft blanket and rocking her has helped so far

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Ya she likes when I hold her pacifier in too haha she sucks aggressively

Try putting baby down exactly 1 hour after she wakes. It’s possible by the time you try for a nap it’s too late and she’s over tired.

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*one hour after she wakes for the day I mean.

Ok

Watch for sleep cues and or try putting baby down after exactly 1 to 1.5 hours as baby can only stay awake 1 - 1 Hour 45 minutes at this age. I learned if my LO yawner more than twice she got a second wind and it was harder to put her down. I read the baby whisperer sleep book. I didn’t adopt all, but it was a helpful read. Regardless, go with your gut. You know your baby and in the end, it’ll all work out. (I hesitate to suggest parenting books because I think they sometimes make us feel like there is only one right way or we’re not doing things right, please know that this is NOT true!)

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Just tried this exactly one hour after she woke up and she is sleeping peacefully! I'm so happy!!!

Yay! So glad. I think sometimes they don’t realize they’re tired or would rather play, of course not realizing the downside! 😁hope your little continues to sleep well.

Buy the Baby Wise book! It's amazing. My son has been on a schedule since he was born. He's 2 months and sleeps through the night.

How long after she wakes are you putting her to sleep? It should like she is over tired. If it’s longer than 1.5 - 2 hours try putting her down before that.

Swaddle and elevate her head. Talk to your doctor about using a sensitive formula instead (unless you’re BF) 💕

Hey! I took the Taking Cara Babies newborn sleep class and it was literally life changing!! At the very least, attempt following her on Instagram, she has SO many good tips.

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Ok thanks!!

Take your baby for a walk every single day before a nap, they need that sensory stimulation. They get just as bored as we do. I’m a new mama, but I’ve been a nanny for 10 years. My child’s been sleeping through the night and has two naps a day since a month old. Routine for two weeks (sleep training) will shape their sleeping habits. Once she learns how to self sooth and sleep, you can change it up. Read some sleep articles if that helps.

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Hailey, come to our house! 11 month old refuses the crib, night terrors and only power naps (20 min or less) during the day😅😩

I had the same problem in the beginning I gave her a bottle rocked to sleep and singed her a song also given them warm baths also help

This can be a developmental thing for age. When my little onr was this age she would fall asleep on me while feeding but as soon as I put her down she waw wide awake. They like mumma at this age. If you have a carrier or sling it will be your best friend. It doesn't last forever. If you haven't already, download the Wonder Weeks app

If she’s still really fussy you might want to look into silent reflux. My daughter has this. It’s reflux but she doesn’t spit up - it makes it up her throat enough to cause pain. The doctor can give you meds to try and see if this helps. Good luck!

Maybe your baby has colic ? You should try Gripe water . It works like magic .

Might be teething early

If the swing or bouncy chair didn’t help I would use my baby wrap and just carry on with my daily stuff I needed to do and 9 times out of 10 my son would just fall asleep on me and I could still get things done. Win win! Sometimes they just need to be close to your heart and body warmth for comfort. My wrap was honestly a life saver for a while. It’s all a phase and will pass, stay strong mama ❤️

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I agree with the wrap. I pretty much had to wear my baby for the first 4 months.

Check out the app “wonder weeks”. It helps to track their developmental ‘leaps’ so you know when a tricky time is coming. You can also learn what baby is working on developmentally In the app. I definitely agree with pp on having a sleep schedule and a routine- for example, when my son wakes up he eats, then we have exciting play/Tummy time, then less stimulating play like talking or singing, change diaper, read him a book, turn on white noise, put him into swaddle, sing a short song and lay him down. Before bedtime at night, it’s a similar routine but we play for longer and it includes a bath. I make sure not to do anything stimulating between bath and bedtime and book when it’s nap time. That way, they associate both with sleeping. The most important thing to do is find what works for you, and be consistent. Baby will learn to associate whatever that routine is with bedtime. They’re so smart 😴🤓

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Yes this! The wonder weeks app is a lifesaver! I believe around 10 weeks is actually one of the leaps

Usually car rides do it for my baby try that

Could be gas? Gripe water?

I have the same issue with my little man right now.

I am having the exact same problem with my 6 month old. We are currently transitioning the cot too so I try and get her to have her naps in there, currently using baby sleep bags and projectors but she only really likes to go to sleep on me or her dad 😔 and she does get very worked up about going to sleep on an eve! Let’s hope it’s just a phase 🤞

If we really can’t get my son to sleep we give him a warm bath. Even if he screams through it at the end he’s tired himself out and at least we got him all clean.

Mine did the same thing have u tried giving him a warm bath then feeding him after .. that is my goto routine for mine she is more relaxed after a bath❤️ if that doesn’t work then try putting him in a carrier I used to just clean and stuff with her in the carrier and then I’d look down and she’s eventually be asleep .. just got to work around it for the time being.. but it’ll get better

My daughter did the same thing for about a week. My dad said she was probably starting to teeth (based on the fact that she was chewing on everything all the time too). What worked for me was getting her nice and cozy swaddled up and nurse her in the rocking chair until she got sleepy, then I would keep rocking until she finally got in a deep sleep and carefully move her to the crib. It would take SO LONG sometimes and sometimes she would just wake up as soon as I’d set her down, so I would just have to hold her and rock her the whole time she napped just so she could get some sleep and be less cranky. Eventually she started sleeping better once she had enough sleep. Ive been told a well rested baby sleeps better/easier than and overtired one. Good luck!!

My baby is doing the very same thing!! Her doctor said it’s normal for your baby to be fussy from 6 weeks till 12 weeks and she said that 8 weeks is the peak of the fussiness and it should be better by 12 weeks

Newborns and naps can be tricky. I recently just wrote a post on newborns and sleep on my blog at getbabysharp.com. You can also find me on Instagram @getbabysharp or like my Facebook page at Get Baby Sharp. Hopefully you find my post helpful!

I was pretty much the same at 10 weeks! Everything changes at 11 weeks. I’d advise warm baths. Massage. Breastfeeding in bed. During the day put her on the swing and put Dave and ava or baby sensory on tv to make him tired

Going for a walk in pram may help

I use a birth ball(yoga ball) to sit on it with the baby and gently jump or move. Best ever solution for us. Another one is sitting on an office chair and travelling around the room. Number 3, going out in the garden for a while. All the best xx

Baby massage chair

Seriously Best Buy ever ! My daughter slept through the night the first time in that thing

Have you tried contact napping