• I
  • Syracuse, United States
  • a year ago

Wanting to adopt

Ok so I've been needing to talk about this for a while but I have only been shot down. I was adopted. The women who I was adopted away from was awful. She saved me. She inspired me to do everything I can to be like her. Now I always wanted to one day be able to say I saved a child like my mom did me. Now I have three kids and I really want to adopt one more because I feel like that's a way I can be like my mother. But my husband wants no part in it. He won't even let me bring the thought up in conversation. it's tough. Sooo please give me advise
  • A
  • TX, US
  • 19 days ago

My mom was adopted, as well as both of her siblings. I have always wanted to adopt as well, and fortunately my husband and I had this conversation before we were married and he wants to adopt as well. I have no idea how to even start the process though, or how we would ever have the funds to do so.

  • H
  • NY, US
  • 2 months ago

I may be the odd one out but have you tried fostering?

  • M
  • OR, US
  • 4 months ago

I’d look into a conversation about fostering. I really want to adopt/foster a teenager or 3. Lol. Thankfully my husband is completely onboard. If he still is set to no, wait a couple years. Idk how old your children are currently, but if they’re younger, wait like 5-10 years. It sounds like a long time. But if that’s what you want to do, maybe he’ll be more susceptible later when your kids are more grown.

  • M
  • OR, US
  • 4 months ago

This is a little extreme but... Or just divorce him and find a new man who’s down. 🤷‍♀️😂

  • A
  • TX, US
  • 5 months ago

I’m right there with you. I was volunteering to support a teenager who is in the foster care system. He became really good friends with my son and I want to adopt him but my husband doesn’t feel the same way. I wish I had good advice but I don’t. It caused some fights in our home me trying to change his mind. I guess my only advice it not to force it. Plant the seed and see what happens.

  • S
  • Sparks, United States
  • 5 months ago

Me too! I was just contemplating all the kids I could have right now if I didn't let men influence my choice. My husband is not interested in even talking about family adoption. All my cousin's kids could be mine and my sister's that's 5 kids now my cousin just had a nother baby this week. I have been wanting to breastfeed a new baby again. Yea I didn't tell my husband I want the baby. 😩👶🏼 sorry no advice, but I had same happen it's been 7 years of regret so far. 😭

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