Had my 1st at 26 and my second at 31. I don’t think we should call moms geriatric until they are maybe in their 50s-60
I don’t think anyone should ever call a mom geriatric. No one labels the men. Women get old but men become silver foxes. It’s a horrible double standard and pregnancy is hard enough when you have problems. Being a mother is the toughest job in the world but the most rewarding and satisfying. Doctors need to get a grip and address the real issues if there are any and not label moms to be.
I had my youngest last year at 39 and didn't have the experience of being made to feel too old. I guess that's one of the great things about utilizing nurse-midwives. They do a lot of things differently, though. :)
I think we need to start a 40+ new moms group!
This article very much resonates with me! I always felt young and gorgeous, before I got pregnant with my first baby at 38. I was 39 when she was born and will be 41 when my second is born in a few weeks.
As soon I was pregnant, every medical professional I came into contact with, reminded me how ancient I am and how many more risks there are. It grinds you down in the end and now I feel old. A midwife cane into my room to take my BP after my first daughter and I heard another shout ‘she’s of advanced age’. Jeez.
That is just awful! You are surrounded by the wrong doctors. My doc never said a thing. She said as long as you are healthy and we keep checking and the baby is healthy you are just fine. Medical science has come a long way and people have to start thinking about things differently. It was reassuring to hear and I think doctors need to be more cognizant of their words. 40 is not geriatric. They need to get over it. Life expectancy has changed dramatically, you can’t tell me that a woman’s fertility hasn’t. In the end, it is all God’s plan. Don’t allow others to make you feel old when you are still young and vibrant.
I had my first at 34. Very happy I waited because I want to do everything with my child. I love having him around.
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