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I had a daughter at 22 and waited 11 years for two more kids. I had more energy and less patience and now it’s reversed.
I had my first at 39. I was tired sure but not "geriatric" LOL. If your healthy I think having a child later in life is fine. I'm planning to have another child asap because yes I'm "older" 42 and I realize the risks
Woman are having babies in their 50s now LoL. And a lot of woman like my grandmothers had there last babies at 40 and 45. 35 is still young.
I had my kids at 36 and 38, married for 8 years prior to the kids and so glad I waited! I got my education, was financially stable and my husband and I had time together, just the two of us! Sure I work full-time, juggle everything and get little sleep, but I would not change my decisions for the world. I feel like I went in “pre-seasoned” because of my age. Being an “old mama” has been awesome!
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Had mine from 25 to 34 . I had my 5th at 34.
I am in no way a geriatric mom! I don’t care what doctors say! I chose to wait to my baby and it was the best decision I ever made! I’ve been endurance training so that i can keep up with her but it is completely worth it! I wouldn’t change a thing. I was 36 when I had my daughter and I knew that I wanted her and was ready for the responsibility and time that a baby requires. I am much more patient and understanding than when I was traveling the world in my 20’s. We aren’t old, we’re just fine and our children won’t ever care! They just know that we are their momma’s, their safe place, their unconditional love and that is all that matters.
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Hah this is so the same for me but I’m yet at have my boy at 41. Getting there. My hubby says that’s it which I agree but I sometimes wonder if I would go for #2. Guess I’ll see what one brings first 💕
I got pregnant at 40 and had my baby boy at 41.. didn’t find my perfect mate till then! So it’s really all in God’s timing not our own . I think things happen how there meant to be! Couldn’t be happier! Now if I can convince my husband to have one more.. lol
I’m 32 I just had my first child and I’m not even considering having another one for at least another 4-5 years!! I guess I’ll be a “geriatric” mum too!!
I had my first at 34. Very happy I waited because I want to do everything with my child. I love having him around.
This article very much resonates with me! I always felt young and gorgeous, before I got pregnant with my first baby at 38. I was 39 when she was born and will be 41 when my second is born in a few weeks. As soon I was pregnant, every medical professional I came into contact with, reminded me how ancient I am and how many more risks there are. It grinds you down in the end and now I feel old. A midwife cane into my room to take my BP after my first daughter and I heard another shout ‘she’s of advanced age’. Jeez.
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That is just awful! You are surrounded by the wrong doctors. My doc never said a thing. She said as long as you are healthy and we keep checking and the baby is healthy you are just fine. Medical science has come a long way and people have to start thinking about things differently. It was reassuring to hear and I think doctors need to be more cognizant of their words. 40 is not geriatric. They need to get over it. Life expectancy has changed dramatically, you can’t tell me that a woman’s fertility hasn’t. In the end, it is all God’s plan. Don’t allow others to make you feel old when you are still young and vibrant.
Totally agree, my first obgyn made a comment about how I was putting this baby in danger because I was 36, so I fired her! The next 2 (I moved 4 weeks before my due date) never even mentioned my age and qualified my pregnancy as “stellar” :). They use midwifes at the hospital and it was the same great experience, everyone healthy and happy!
I think we need to start a 40+ new moms group!
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Yes! Thanks
I had my youngest last year at 39 and didn't have the experience of being made to feel too old. I guess that's one of the great things about utilizing nurse-midwives. They do a lot of things differently, though. :)
Had my 1st at 26 and my second at 31. I don’t think we should call moms geriatric until they are maybe in their 50s-60
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I don’t think anyone should ever call a mom geriatric. No one labels the men. Women get old but men become silver foxes. It’s a horrible double standard and pregnancy is hard enough when you have problems. Being a mother is the toughest job in the world but the most rewarding and satisfying. Doctors need to get a grip and address the real issues if there are any and not label moms to be.
Check out "Fortyish mommas club" on Facebook. A new community just for us 40(ish) baby mommies (35+). A closed group to connect with other "mature" mothers.
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I just looked for that group n dont see it!
So 36 is OK. I did feel very old at the doc's office, especially with the extra monitoring. But outside of there, the public could hardly see my belly and thought I was way younger.
Geriatric and proud! I had babies at 37 and 41. I’m 43 now and feel like I have better wisdom and resources to take care of them. My only regret is that I will not be around for most of their adult lives.
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Amen! I feel so much better now than if I had our little guy when we were younger. Its like he'll get the better version of me rather than the younger.
I'm so glad to hear more stories of us older moms. Age can be a choice. I want another one after having our first. Am so loving it, but was/am concerned about waiting to much longer.
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45 with 18 month old very active little boy 😍
If I had a baby in my 20s my mom would have keeled over. I was expected to go to college and launch a career. Then suddenly I was 30 and needed to find a husband and have babies by 35. I mean if you think about it, there’s a very small window when it’s both socially and medically acceptable for women to have kids.
Agree! I think having a long time of just being a couple helped us know what we wanted our marriage to evolve into once we entered parenthood, and even be more conscious of protecting it