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Nursing in public covered or uncovered?

Nursing the second time around been a completely different experience than with my first. My first child was pre pandemic, we were going to restaurants, parks dinner parties with friends, basically having a full life with a child. I have always respected women’s rights to nurse openly in public and with out a cover if they choose. I also respect women who choose to use a cover, in some cases these women would choose to give a bottle or nurse in a bathroom if they didn’t feel like they could be covered. This isn’t a debate between the two. My children both decided I would not be using a cover!!

I would love to know what your struggles have been as a new mom nursing in public for the first time or as second (or beyond) time moms what you have come across as different from your prior nursing experiences. How has Covid changed that? Also what are your pros and cons of nursing covers? Do you choose to cover up or nurse openly and what were your deciding factors either way?

And for anyone who would like to know the photo was taken in Glacier National Park at Avalanche Lake.

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That is such a beautiful photo!

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I nurse covered. I feel uncomfortable being exposed and I don't like attention, which you get either way when you nurse in public

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I nurse uncovered because my daughter hated having anything over her or close to her face. It’s also just more comfortable and convenient for me. I usually nurse away from people if I can tho. Anytime I’ve been out in public I either nurse in the car or try to find a space without many people around. I think it’s actually easier with covid because people tend to keep their distance and not bother you

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Gorgeous photo!

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This photo is just amazing and so beautiful! I only breastfed for a week or 2 as I had a few things stopping me unfortunately but I’d hope women would feel comfortable breastfeeding out in public I wouldn’t ever judge someone on feeding there children it’s not any different to bottle feeding a baby! I seen a woman pre lockdown breastfeeding and I could see the worry in her face so I just gave her a smile and she smiled back and I’d just wish there were more accepting people in the world 💜

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Such a beautiful photo!!
I nurse uncovered but I also don't want to make others uncomfortable so I wear layers. Outer shirt comes up and I always wear a tank underneath that comes down, so very little skin is exposed.

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I’m totally uncomfortable having my boob out, but I also couldn’t nurse with a cover. I usually would pump a bottle before we went out and she could drink expressed milk without me being uncomfortable.
One time I did get my oil changed and it took so long I had no option but to nurse in public (uncovered because baby girl wasn’t having it). And I haaaateeed it
Bunch of creepy men around 🙅🏻‍♀️

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Honestly I think whatever makes you feel comfortable is absolutely all that matters. I would be so pleased just to be able to feed

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I do both! I don’t mind being uncovered in public but it actually really bothers my husband when I do. So for his sake I’ll toss over a blanket and thankfully my little one loves to hold a blanket while nursing so it works out totally fine. Buttttt at home or MIL I never use a cover

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This is such a beautiful photo ❤️ I nurse uncovered. I wear a nursing tank under whatever shirt I’m wearing so my breast is barely exposed. I fully respect everyone who does use a cover, I just could never get behind covering my baby’s face for the comfort level of other people. We see women in bikinis that expose more breast than nursing does but it’s somehow inappropriate when a little side boob shows to feed a child?

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I nurse without a cover. My son sometimes just wants a sip and to whip out a cover just for a 20 second suckle would annoy the hell out of me. I did however invest in breastfeeding clothing or clothing easier to breastfeed in and sometimes the clothing does act as a nice cover. My family seemed to be the least supportive with bf but I was also the first to have a kid out of my siblings. Second time around all of my siblings had children and breastfed. So they were a bit more understanding and my brother stopped making stupid comments. I don’t go out in public often but if do, I’m still openly breastfeeding. My older sister always covers up and even will leave the room to go to a private room to nurse because she doesn’t want to make people feel uncomfortable and she feels uncomfortable. But she always needs help with her cover and it just seems annoying to me that I would not want to do it and thank god I don’t! Lol. Super supportive of all my moms learning to feed regardless!

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Muslins are great nursing covers which I used and I bought a nursing cover that went over my neck that was really light for the baby. I loved it

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UNCOVERED!!!!
All the way!!! I didn’t care where I was! I walked through a busy city centre feeding my daughter, sat at the bar of a very nice restaurant - not drinking of course.
Be proud hold your head up high because feeding your baby is the most incredible amazing thing a woman can do ❤️

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In the beginning, getting used to it was tricky so i used a thin muslin cloth and it worked but it was to much hassle, i was doing it to make my family comfortable and ignoring my own comfort.. If that makes sense, i have only taken my girl out 2 times since covid i have had such a good experience with the public those 2 times, i had an older woman bee line over to my table to tell me how good of a mom i am, & how happy she is. I was so nervous for an altercation but she was so sweet!!. Here recently ive posted about breastfeeding on my fb and my mil attacked me for not covering because modesty is important, i just told her that i support everyone on their journey and it shouldn't matter how you want to feed. But other than that ive had a splendid time nursing !! 13 months ☺

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I nurse uncovered, if my son needs to eat he needs to eat 🤷‍♀️

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I nursed uncovered. We live in Florida, it's hot enough. Not to mention I wanted to make sure he latched properly. When we had company at home, I stepped into my own room to feed, primarily for my own comfort. I'm other people's homes, I would turn my back to them so they would see less. But Target, winn dixie, ikea... No qualms there. The way I look at it, the shoppers should not be looking at me anyway, they should be looking at their products. Same at a restaurant. 🤷

I did have nursing dresses and t shirts that allowed me to nurse easily.

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I have a cover that I really like and made it easy for me to see my son while nursing him. I personally feel more comfortable covered up mostly because of creeps/people that’ll just stare. But I also have forgotten my cover and nursed without one with no problem! But I do REFUSE to go into a bathroom to feed my baby. I certainly would not want to eat in a bathroom myself, so why should my baby have to eat in there?

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Uncovered, my girl wont feed otherwise and she comes first xx

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Uncovered 👍

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Before having my son I really didnt see why people nursed uncovered. After having him he barely gives me a choice 😂 he snatches it off or kicks until he can see lol. I typically nurse in the car or somewhere private though. I know I dont want anyone seeing my boobs besides my son and husband. But Covid is a definite cover up for me. If im wearing a mask around strangers my baby needs to be covered as well its not about trying to make a point i just want my baby fed and healthy.

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For me uncovered... I just wip out my boob and crack on hehe however I have got some nursing jumpers for when it's cold and they are so discreet no one can tell your nursing and also have a couple of tops and dresses. I have never felt any need to cover and have only ever had a positive experience nursing in public. I am still nursing my 19 month old and now 17weeks pregnant with our second baby so will tandem feed xx

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I nursed in public. I learned very quickly that the covers are a pain in the ass. (For me!) They fall down, are hard to get on, my child did not like it over his face at all, it got hot under there 🔥

It is possible to be conservative while nursing without a cover. All they may see is skin if they are searching.

Once I nursed with my family at a crowded breakfast place and a waitress told me thier was a restroom. So I went and sat there. Which is wish I had not! I should have said, "thank you, we are comfortable here,".

Before I had my baby, I wasn't super comfortable with woman nursing openly in public because..I wasn't a mother myself yet! So I can understand others perspectives. But, this was my own. It's natural, beautiful, and a choice that noone should have anything to say about besides the mother.

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I nursed with a cover which had wire at the top which held the cover off her head and allowed me to see in. She hated having any of my boob covered at all so I had to have the whole boob out. I wouldn't have minded uncovered if it wasn't for that and the fact that she was a serial unlatcher and I also had to use a nipple shield which inevitably fire milk at whoever was closest when she unexpectedly unlatched 🤣. Needless to say we only lasted breastfeeding for 12 weeks.xx

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Uncovered. Why discomfort my own baby for a stranger’s dogmas

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Not sure if I will eventually change my mine but I am due with my first baby in July and planning to only nurse/BF at home OR in a private area. Or I guess covered if I have to in public. Idk why but I feel extremely uncomfortable with the thought of anyone seeing my boobs besides my fiancé lol!! I think I would be too anxious that people are watching!

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Thanks for all the comments, really insightful!

I would just like to point out: we spend a lot of time stressing over what other people might think/feel/say. Overall, women have generally been taught to be ashamed of their bodies and I think this comes out with the way a lot of people feel uncomfortable with feeding in public.

I'm constantly AMAZED that our bodies can not only grow and create a new life, but then also sustain that life exclusively for 6 months. And continuing in conjunction with solids for 1-2 years!! How incredible!

Boobs are more than just food. They are comfort, warmth, security. They are home to your little one.

The focus should be on that. Not about what others (particularly men) think.

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Beautiful pic !

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Uncovered. I haven’t experienced any animosity yet but I wish a mf would.

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Public!!!

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I literally never nursed in public. Didnt go out much. HOWEVER I think why not. Do your freaking thing. Baby got to eat.

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I feed un covered. I cant be bothered with covers and also find them really difficult to use... i also cluld mot care less if my boob makes people uncomfortable.... if my baby eating is uncomfortable to you then you eating is uncomfortable to me💁🏼‍♀️

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I feed covered in public.

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either or. when she was little i think it was easier with a cover but the older she got without was easier and quicker. i opted instead for more nursing frendly clothing that made it way easier to access.

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Always uncovered! Even while walking in the grocery store.

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I was shamed for using a cover! I have very large natural breasts and a small frame. It take a lot of hands and it’s uncomfortable to breastfeed for me I feel very exposed. I was 34 j for reference. I hated biting around anyone. But that’s my experence. I feel like if i had a smaller chest I would feel different.

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I always kept an undershirt on. So I could pull the under shirt over my breast and my actual shirt under it. Literally all that could be seen was my nipple and when baby latched no one could even tell I was breast feeding. Never had to cover my baby and never exposed myself.
Not saying I never feed openly in public, sometimes you just have to and never feel ashamed that you don’t want to go sit in that disgusting bathroom to feed your child 💜

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My son was formula fed but my daughter who’s one was born at the start of covid. Nursing with her was way easier and so it stuck. We didn’t go anywhere for months since it was the start of covid and no one knew anything about it. But once things opened up I nursed uncovered in public but modestly because 1. I don’t want everyone in the world to see my boobs haha 2. It’s a bonding experience for me and my daughter. But sometimes she won’t let it be modest especially when she gets distracted and rips off to smile or laugh. She’s one 😂. But I try to stay modest. It’s interesting pre mom I didn’t like that people would just whip their boobs out to feed their kids. I was like why don’t they put a cover on. Now I get it. Babies are say no in their own way😂. I only have had one negative experience this whole time especially since a lot of time I try to feed her in the car if we’re out and about easier to contain my toddler.

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Always uncovered! Around anyone or anywhere. I use the two shirt method so not much really shows anyway. My personal opinion is that society has sexualized the heck out of breasts. Their main purpose is to feed babies. Why is is okay to go to the beach and see cleavage yet a little bit of boob sticking out while feeding is “disrespectful”? Just my thoughts 😊

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Uncovered!!

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I’ll do a mix of both I’ll keep my shirt low enough to cover the top of my boob but anything she needs is exposed f

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I cover. It is for modesty/faith beliefs. But I do think women should be allowed to nurse without a cover and it doesn't bother me one bit.

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whatever makes you happy 😊

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Uncovered unless I’m creeped out by someone or some place lol

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No cover. Just pull up my shirt but I do wear nursing tanks instead of bras so my stomach is covered. I kind of hunch over to latch him and then sit up. You can’t actually see anything. Less than in a one piece swimsuit. I just nursed the whole time got my eye exam done today 😂

And my husband does not care at all. And neither do our friends. My husband respects me enough to let me do what I want and know I’m not being sexual when feeding our son.

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UNCOVERED FOR THE WIIIIIN! It’s just so freeing and loving to me and baby ♥️

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Uncovered. The biological purpose of my breasts is to feed my babies. Deal with it, world. It amuses me when people are uncomfortable with it. Such a prudish, strange thing. If you don't like it, don't stare! My kid is not going hungry while I find a dirty toilet to balance precariously on so someone's delicate sensitivities aren't offended.

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Cover if u can but baby has to eat... I'm kinda old fashioned.. no need to show it off just because it's one of our super powers.. lol 😆

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Personally, I felt uncomfortable with the idea of a nip slip. I brought a cellular breathable blanket with me until I could do it confidently and with ease ❤ it's harassment and a punishable offence to confront a woman about her breastfeeding in public in Ireland.
I will do it in public again next time around, nobody bothered me.

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I went into motherhood wanting to nurse in public with no shame/fear but the reality was a bit uncomfortable at first! I am big-chested and my babe had a tiny mouth so latching was a whole-boob-out kinda thing (at least for the first few weeks while we both got the hang of things!) and I felt more exposed than I thought I would. As I got used to it, and as we both got more experienced at nursing, I now feel much more comfortable nursing in public! I’ve even played croquet at the beach while nursing haha!
I do like to wear a tank under my clothes when I can to keep my belly from getting chilly, and I usually try to do it in a calm place where my nosy baby doesn’t get distracted, but for the most part: any time and any place!

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I literally hate feeding out hence I never done it. I personally feel so anxious about people staring. This is personal to me as my boobs are absolutely gigantic so no way of being discreet. Must admit I felt envious of those that used to feed openly and you wouldn't even know. It doesn't bother or offend me if anyone does it tho. I always used to take expressed milk out ☺️

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