• J
  • Towaco, United States
  • 14 days ago

to go back to work or stay home

I’m a first time mom to my 3 month old baby girl. I was always dead set on staying home and raising my babies. Now as it’s getting closer to when I would go back I’m having second thoughts. My job offered me to work part time to make it easier for myself however the commute is the real issue. It’s not that close and it’s not easy for me to get home in a flash. The thought of getting back to my old routine a few days a week does sound nice, but a big part of me feels like I’m going to miss out on some great times with my little one. Daycare was never an option I would even consider but the more I think about it I feel like she may really benefit from it from a social aspect and educational. Anyone else go through this? Thoughts? Suggestions? A really torn momma
  • Maria
  • Oakland, USA
  • a day ago

Stay @ home as long as it's financially and emotionally comfortable for YOU! I stayed at home with my baby till he was 8 months, then I thought I was going to go insane cuz I didn't have that many mom friends or friends in general and I've always worked full time since forever. It's actually a good thing to give some distance and break from the baby. I was very lucky to find a job close to home after 8 months of being home. Go back to work when it's the right time for you. You'll know when that is.

  • D
  • New Milford, United States
  • 4 days ago

I was dead set on being 100% at home too but then my old job offered me flexible schedule, 12 hours a week (8 in office, 4 at home). Honestly, I needed a little piece of my old self to stay the same and the few hours a week give me that time to feel like me rather than just mom. My twins stay at my moms when I work. I started doing this when they were 3 months old and they’re 10 months now and they like their time with grandma and I feel much better mentally with the few hours of “old me time”.

  • H
  • New Milford, United States
  • 6 days ago

Stay home! You will never get this time with your little one back. You can always find another job later. I’m a preschool teacher & started out as a daycare worker, trust me she will benefit more from being with her mama! They really start to benefit from the daycares at around 18 months. Keep her close with you & enjoy it while you can girl! There are tons of activities you can do with her at home / groups you can bring her to meet & interact with other kids.

  • A
  • Chicago, United States
  • 7 days ago

I stay at home but I would not enjoy it so much if I didn’t know I had the choice to work or stay home.

  • K
  • Elgin, United States
  • 7 days ago

Your baby isn’t getting any playtime/social benefit from other kids at daycare at this age. Daycares love to say that-but it’s just not true. (I went to college for education) Your baby won’t actually play with another until closer to age 1. & even then it’s more like stealing toys back and forth until closer to 18mo.-2years. There’s also no shown academic benefit to preschool before age 4. They’ve done studies that show that while the kids who started earlier had their letters down faster-there was no academic difference by 2nd grade. So don’t count those as a plus for an infant. That said-if you can’t afford a nanny, or to stay home, then it is what it is. Find a loving daycare and make sure to drop in unexpectedly from time to time to check up on your baby.

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