I think all depends on pregnancy, baby’s health and how much you work. My first was a preemie. I was on bedrest at 28 weeks, had her at 34 weeks and stayed home until she was 4 months old. My second, I was only working part time (10-15 hours a week). I went back after a month because some of it could be done at home. Now, I’ve been promoted a few times and going to be full time after the new year.
I was lucky to have a year paid in the UK with both my babies. I can’t imagine having to go back to work right away. My little one had a lot of issues and I would find that really difficult.
Most countries actually have longer and/or paid maternity leave. The US actually has one of the shortest maternity leave laws and no company in the US is required to pay you anything during maternity leave. It’s horrible in my opinion. I think it’s extremely important for new parents to take that time to develop a relationship with your little one, heal, get used to your new routine, and to just recuperate. I had to go back to work after 2 months because my husband and I separated and it was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. I was not in the right headspace at the time. I needed that time with my son but unfortunately couldn’t afford to. We are back together and I’m a stay at home mom now. It took me a few months after not working again to finally feel like myself and be the best mom I could be. My husband is active duty Air Force now and if we were to have another baby, he’d actually get 2 weeks paid paternity leave which I think is great.
This is what I’m most terrified of!!!
I want to take 6 weeks.
When it comes to 6 weeks I want to do short term disability but I wont have been at the job too long.
On top of that, I hadn’t been working at that company for a year. They hired me when I was pregnant and told me that even though I didn’t qualify for maternity leave, they’d still give it to me. So when I went back to work after being promised maternity leave regardless of the “rules” they cut my hours and sometimes didn’t schedule me and even though they knew I was a struggling single mom at the time they tried to say I wasn’t actually “allowed” to take leave and that somehow entitled them to cut my hours and not schedule me.
I am in NJ and I had 6 weeks of disability followed by 6 weeks of FDI. I went back at 12 weeks. It is a sick joke! I think women should have at least a year paid! My husband only had 3.5 weeks off - in which he had to use his personal time. Men should have at least 6 months, paid!
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