Motherhood
  • A
  • 7 months ago

Relationship with husband postpartum

As women and mothers we often facilitate talking about feelings. My husband and I communicate often. He’s receptive. He grows. I listen. It doesn’t hurt I’m trained in therapy. I help him untangle his thoughts and it allows him to breath and be a better dad and husband. Some days I’m off and need a moment. Husbands sometime read this as anger. It’s not. We’re not responsible for our husband’s happiness. I’m learning to say no when my inner voice is begging me to. Learning to not create an unreal expectation of only giving. Learning to share when something bothers me (even if it creates a bigger issue). Learning that complaining and expressing negative feelings doesn’t mean I take my husband’s hard work for granted. My feelings are valid no matter how hard he works. Am I right?
  • I
  • 7 months ago

Loving this

  • R
  • 7 months ago

Oh man, you got me with "not set an unreal expectation of only giving". I have definitely done that this past year and am now really struggling to get my life back. It's not easy, I'm learning to be more demanding and feel less guilty because this year I have sacrificed so much for my family - especially my career and sanity. All we can do is keep trying to communicate, and hope for the best.

  • A
  • 7 months ago

Saying no is so liberating

  • A
  • 7 months ago

Saaame 🧡

  • B
  • 7 months ago

I also believe that with a few exceptions (abuse or cheating) if at some point you were truly in love with your spouse and you fall out of love, it is always possible to fall back in love if both parts put in the effort to make it work

  • A
  • 7 months ago

I want to like your comments like 20 times

  • A
  • 7 months ago

Soooo true. Dating your husband is the funnest!!

  • B
  • 7 months ago

I agree with everything you said! On top of that, I feel like when I share what bothers me and how some things make me feel, it helps my husband open up about things that bother him that I wasn’t aware of.

  • A
  • 7 months ago

YESS

  • N
  • 7 months ago

You’re totally right!! After 5 years, I am still struggling with all of that. Sometimes it jst seems like the end, but I’m not giving up. ✨

  • A
  • 7 months ago

Don’t give up, love that!!

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