Relationship with husband postpartum
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Oh man, you got me with "not set an unreal expectation of only giving". I have definitely done that this past year and am now really struggling to get my life back. It's not easy, I'm learning to be more demanding and feel less guilty because this year I have sacrificed so much for my family - especially my career and sanity. All we can do is keep trying to communicate, and hope for the best.
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Saaame 🧡
I also believe that with a few exceptions (abuse or cheating) if at some point you were truly in love with your spouse and you fall out of love, it is always possible to fall back in love if both parts put in the effort to make it work
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I want to like your comments like 20 times
Soooo true. Dating your husband is the funnest!!
I agree with everything you said! On top of that, I feel like when I share what bothers me and how some things make me feel, it helps my husband open up about things that bother him that I wasn’t aware of.
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YESS
You’re totally right!! After 5 years, I am still struggling with all of that. Sometimes it jst seems like the end, but I’m not giving up. ✨
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Don’t give up, love that!!
True this! expression is key
Beautiful family!! I sometimes just say I’m not able to talk about ‘x’ yet. He’s a waterfall, but every word I utter is taxing to me.
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Thank you 🥰🤗
What are those negative feelings?
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Any and all!! (Sad, angry, jealous, resentful)
I 👍 agree
There is this French book : “I stop complaining “ which is rooted in non violent communication and it basically says: emotions and feelings tell us something about our needs but if after listening to our needs we start complaining we actually get further away from getting our needs met. I personally think that sometimes i express my need for empathy (things are hard when big changes happen!) by complaining and I’m now trying to switch to explicit request like :” I don’t feel ok right now, would you please give me some empathy?” Sometimes my husband needs empathy as well and can’t give it to me, so if I can I make him go first or I just meditate.
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EXACTLY!!
So true ✨ we have to give others and ourselves compassion especially on our hard days. Regardless of circumstances our feelings are valid and we have the right to express them and feel safe while doing so 💜 I’m in the same boat. It’s a journey for sure. But fulfilling to see the growth.
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Love that journey for you mama 🤍
👆🏼Amen
Saying no is so liberating