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Ectopic pregnancy

Posting here because it’s the biggest group and I need advice and reassurance.

I’m 36 and have a 17 month old daughter. I also have Endometriosis. No history of miscarriage or ectopic before now.

Today, I spent 8 hours at A&E to be told that my pregnancy was ectopic. I was then rushed into surgery to remove the fallopian tube, possibly the ovary and the embryo in the tube as they believed I was close to rupture due to the incredibly high HCG levels.

I’ve not seen the doctor yet as I didn’t get out of recovery until 9:45pm so I’m not sure whether they’ve taken my ovary too. I won’t know until the morning.

How do I make my recovery easier? What is a must buy or must do to help myself?

Anyone who has been through similar/has similar history, feel comfortable sharing their fertility journey after? We’re desperate to bring home a sibling for our daughter

Fresh bleeding

Woke up today with fresh bleeding and it’s my first day on holiday in Spain. It’s almost like I have my period. In September I had a miscarriage when I went to Mexico and I can’t believe it might be happening again. I don’t even know what to do. I was 7 weeks yesterday 😢

Miscarriage

I was 12w6d. I got intense bleeding so I went to the ER. I found out I’ve been miscarrying. Fetus was only measuring 7w5d. I’m so extremely sad and disappointed, my emotions are everywhere. Have to wait for the fetus to fully pass now. This was my first pregnancy after 6 months of trying to conceive. Any advice on how to navigate from here? When can I start trying again? What can I do differently to avoid this again…

Two miscarriages - looking for some positive stories

I am going through my second miscarriage this year. First one was found during my early scan at 8 weeks, had stopped developing at 5 weeks and I had a missed miscarriage which was managed naturally. I am now 7 - 8 weeks pregnant and found out again at my scan yesterday that I just had an empty sac and it was declared a blighted ovum. I’m due for my d&c on Tuesday. I’m looking for some positive hopeful stories of having a successful pregnancy after two losses in a row. I do have an amazing 2 year old but was really hoping to give him a sibling one day.. told myself if third time is not the charm then I’ll stop trying.

Bad feeling

I have a bad feeling. I'm 12w4 days with my 4th pregnancy. I miscarried my second pregnancy at 12w6d, they stopped growing 2 weeks earlier. I'm hoping this anxiety and this bad gut feeling is a trauma response and not something actually happening. I've read things about people having bad feelings and it ends up a miscarriage. This is the only pregnancy I've had with no bleeding, I've had ridiculous back and hip pain which scares me because back pain is a sign of miscarriage. Every little twinge just supports my bad feeling. I have a scan tomorrow and I'm absolutely terrified. I can't do this again if I've lost this one too. My three year old keeps asking if I'm okay and I'm trying so hard not too cry in front of her... Any experiences with bad gut feelings that were wrong?

To announce to not announce on social media??!

So I’ve had two miscarriages prior to this pregnancy… I didn’t announce my first pregnancy because I lost it right away I only caught the pregnancy because I felt off but had I not taken test I would not have even known, second pregnancy I announced at 8 weeks and lost it at 9 weeks almost 10, now with this pregnancy it’s the furthest I’ve been I’m now 3 months and a half (14w1d) and I have done my NIPT test all is well thank God! I really wanna announce my pregnancy with my baby girl, but I’m scared and traumatized because of my previous miscarriages. I want to share this joy but some part of me has fear about it… any advice???!

Beta 30 , worried

Hi . I had beta hcg 48 hours ago , it was 22 , today is 30 , it didn’t doubled up , so worried. Had 2 miscarriages and 3 chemicals in the last 12 months. Please can you share your experience with me if you was in the same situation?
I will attach the photos with the pregnancy tests progression

My babies story (venting I guess and looking of anyone has been through similar)

I’m a first time mom to a baby girl. When I was pregnant they found out my baby has a mass on what they thought was her kidney. I was closely monitored and i gave birth to her at 36 weeks where they found out the mass was on her liver and she had to be flown to a different hospital since I just gave birth only my husband could go. The drive to meet them at the other hospital was probably one of the worst moments of my life. I just had her and we were already separated. After arriving at the nicu she got an mri and that tumor took up almost her whole abdomen it caused her intestines to be pushed aside and her kidneys to fuse together. It was clear that she needed surgery and the surgeon was convinced that it was cancer. Waiting for her to get out of surgery was so scary and seeing my baby intubated was so painful. During the surgery they removed her gallbladder and appendix as well. After about 14 days in the nicu we were sent home. The tumor was also completely benign. She acted like a normal baby but then started to rapidly lose weight. She lost a pound in less than a month. We ended up back at the hospital. They tried fortifying my breast milk nothing was working she was gaining very little. They ended up putting in an ng tube. We were there for 3 weeks before she started gaining consistently it was still very little but better. She is now 4 months and still weighed every week to keep an eye on her weight gain. She has really good weeks and not so good weeks. She throws up a lot some days too. She is still below the 1 percentile. Her liver labs are finally looking better so I thank God for that. Now they are talking about putting in a g tube. I guess I’m just seeing if anybody has been through similar?

Misscarriage

Pretty sure im having a misscarriage 😭

Missed Miscarriage at 9 weeks and D&C operation

Just hoping for some advice really. I went to a private scan to find out gender of baby when I was supposed to be 11 weeks but we was told the heartbreaking news that our baby had no heartbeat and stopped growing at 9 weeks, the same weekend I stopped breastfeeding my first born. Very traumatic time, I just keep replaying the moment they told us there was no heartbeat, my young daughter was also present in the room screaming at the time. Weirdly I was very anxious leading up to the scan and had stopped feeling nauseas for a week or so leading up to it which I thought was odd but no bleeding or cramping etc. so it came as a shock. Anyway it’s been an awful few days coming to terms with what has happened, on top of an awful few weeks weaning my daughter off breastfeeding and yesterday I was put to sleep whilst the d&c operation was carried out. I know this is so common but I can’t understand why this has happened to me. I am still trying to process it all and just feel so so sad considering this has all happened in the space of a weekend. Just looking for some reassuring or positive stories where people have had babies after this has happened. Thank you for reading.

I feel this is my last post

I feel so sad to put this post because pregnancy journey is giving me heart attack . As this pregnancy also turns out to be a miscarriage. 2weeka back there was a heart beat but now there is not . I don’t know what’s happening whey every time it is a miscarriage . I really want everybody to be strong and take good care of you .

I’m praying it sticks! 🤞🏻

I had a miscarriage last September, and now I’m pregnant again. I’m only 4 weeks 5 days. Last time I miscarried I was 5 weeks and 3 days. I’m praying this one stays. 🥲

I’m not telling anyone right now besides hubby, so I figured I would share here!

Say some prayers for me! 🙏🏻🙏🏻

Pregnancy test after miscarriage

I found out 17 days ago that we had had a missed miscarriage. 16 days ago I had medical management to pass the pregnancy. I’ve taken tests today to see if my hcg is dropping and the tests are still extremely dark!! Is this normal after over 2 weeks?

Miscarriage and then chemical pregnancy

Hi all,

I miscarried at the end of April, I didn't wait for my next period to try again. I started ovulation strips to confirm ovulation. I got a faint positive on a first response test a couple of days ago. I then started getting cramps and started bleeding today. So the faint positive must have been a chemical, as it completely disappeared. My question is, would I be entitled to some support now? I will message my GP tomorrow, I just wondered if anyone had a similar experience. Thank you in advance x

Reffered to gynaecology

Heyyy everyone

I’m looking for information / help. I’ve over the years had 6 miscarriages, 1 ectopic pregnancy and a live birth to my son who’s nearly 3. I have got in touch with the gp who rang me today and has referred me to a gynaecologist to look further into what’s causing me to struggle staying pregnant.
Has anyone been through this before and if so can you give me a heads up of what to expect?
I’m really excited to find some answers but also really scared🫠.
If anyone has any advice it would be much appreciated xx

Ovulation after miscarriage

I had a miscarriage at just over 9 weeks. This was a week and a half ago. When did people ovulate again after a loss? Were your cycles irregular? Keen to try again as soon as we can

Pregnancy after miscarriage

Hi all. I had a miscarriage in March and got pregnant the next cycle. I’m currently 9 weeks. My anxiety has been so high the past few days! I’ve been having period like cramps and tightness which is freaking me out. For the last few nights, I also have this nightmare that I’m bleeding as a sign of miscarriage. I’m even scared to get intimate with my husband in case that’s going to cause a problem. I honestly don’t know what I’m looking for with this post, but wanted to share this in case someone is going through a similar thing…

11 weeks miscarriage

It was my 2nd miscarriage within 4 months my first one lost baby at 4 weeks but this one lost at 11 weeks and hit me so hard… I never thought miscarriage can be delivering your mini baby like giving normal birth but unfortunately not alive baby i honestly can say this was the most traumatic moment of my life. I saw the little baby in a sack and i am keep thinking about the baby and see that baby all the time. I have 3 children already and although they are small all under 4 years old they keep me busy all day but I just can’t forget that moment and that little baby. We are happy family but I am living in misery and keep thinking if I ever forget this feeling and be normal happy again does that sadness feeling ever go away ? I just want to cry all the time and see that little baby everywhere I go

Evap lines.

How common are they? I miscarried last cycle, very early on, and we are trying again, because I feel ready. It’s prob way too early to test but I couldn’t help myself. It appeared blank but after going back I had a super faint line. Although as I take this picture I feel like I am clinging onto something that’s just not there.
Brutal honesty only please.