🗓️ ☀️ ☕️ Mom Meet Up - Walk and Coffee on Sept. 2 ☀️☕️
Looking to connect and make a new friend?
Join us for a stroller walk and meet up on 9/2/26—send me a dm if you’re interested.
This is targeted to moms on the south side, such as, Tukwila, Des Moines, Federal Way, Tacoma and on, plus anywhere in between. It is not limited to, but probably most convenient for anyone in those areas.
Hope to hear from you! ☀️
FTM - productivity
FTMs, however are we getting things done around the house? Especially with a Velcro bub, who will only take contact naps (not complaining, I love it, in fact), and having to pump on top of taking care of everything else:[
I have always been a planner, with multiple lists and whatnot - so kind of losing it now with the lack of routine 😅
Do you expect your spouse to text you all day while at work and or respond right away.
I’m a teacher and although the kids don’t come back until Monday, I have a lot to do and a lot to prepare for. My husband is getting upset that I sometimes take 1-2 hours to respond (to non urgent messages) while at work.
Also got mad because I said I don’t always have my phone in hand and that sometimes I just get really focused on my task (cutting, laminating, glueing, taping, doing trainings, etc.) and said it was a bullshit excuse and that I have an Apple Watch.
AI use in schools
Okay. So we just had our opening day for my district recently and they brought up the topic of teaching kids how to appropriately use AI for class work and homework….as well as teachers. I was mind blown 🤯
My very first thought was inappropriately photoshopping an imaging using AI and sending it around school (bullying). We have SO much bullying as is…the thought of showing them how to use AI scares me more. Yes I understand they want to show them how to use it APPROPRIATELY but the ages I work with…I really don’t think they will. Our kids are at the age were they are HITTING puberty in our building (I’d say 10-12)….we get ALL the hormones, uncertainty, drama, bullying, etc.
We had a WHOLE year of “Ship or Dip” 😑 drama with parents screaming, students threatening others, etc. It. Was. A. Mess.
Am I wrong for the concern?!
Do you think they should be teaching AI use at this age?
I really really don’t….I just foresee sooooo much more bullying….
Partner half arsing support
My health visitor has told me that I have PPD, my little one is 3 months old. I’ve been having a hard time with my partner, best I can explain it to him is that I just needed him to choose ME more during this vulnerable period. He hasn’t been awful, but he’s really shown how uncaring and thoughtless he can be. He says that he just doesn’t get it, and now he’s saying that he just wants to give up and has even mentioned co parenting because me telling him how he’s let me down is making him feel low and that there’s nothing he can do to change himself. I told him that I can’t wait for this year to be over, as much as I love my baby being small, but I need an equilibrium back so I don’t feel dependent on his care (or lack of). Fast forward to tonight, I told him of my health visitors suspicions of PPD. And he barely looked at me and just said “well…YEAH?! I thought it was obvious”. He then proceeded to ask me a minute later where I bought the towels from because he thinks they had changed the colour of his socks to grey. Just, wtf dude. Like I say, he’s not awful, just often cold and uncaring and now I feel stuck as though there’s no point talking to him. I cried in his arms the other night because I had nowhere else to turn and told him that I feel like he just doesn’t understand me. I guess that’s PPD, but how he can be so detached from my experience? I don’t know. I know what I’d do if it was the other way round.
Can someone please tell me I’m not a bad mum? 🥺
Does anyone else let their children cry sometimes? 💔
I’m feeling really guilty tonight and I think I just need to get it out somewhere where people might understand.
I’m absolutely exhausted after a really long day. I sat with my 2.5-year-old at bedtime for about 40 minutes. I sang nursery rhymes, patted him, stayed quiet and tried everything I could think of, but he was so excited that I was in the room and was just really hyper.
Eventually I walked out because I know he will usually settle when I’m not there. He cried quite a lot on and off for the first 10 minutes, then went quiet, played for a little while and eventually fell asleep.
Does anyone else ever let their children cry like this when they know they’re safe and you’ve tried everything? I feel so guilty about it, even though I know he was okay and eventually settled himself.
I was also absolutely starving, so I ate my dinner and somehow I feel guilty about that too. 😭
I think I’m just completely exhausted and struggling with the guilt tonight. I know I can’t pour from an empty cup, but sometimes actually looking after myself feels like I’m doing something wrong. 💔
How to break a trauma bond when no contact isn’t an option
I need to save myself and get away from this man. No contact isn’t an option because we share a child and he bought the house next door in the “break up” that never really happened.
I’m so miserable and angry all the time and a shell of who I used to be. All he does is put me down, knit pick, and criticize and it’s turned me into this extremely hateful person and I’m so burned out all the time. My body physically hurts from stress, and I don’t enjoy anything anymore. He calls me constantly. Like 30 or more times a day. And if I don’t answer he accuses me of sneaking around or cheating on him. He tells everyone that I call him constantly and I’m the controlling one, so his whole family/friends all hate me. But my family and friends hate him because they know me, so obviously im not allowed to talk to them. And he knows. He goes through my phone, but his phone changes passwords daily (I’m not stupid. I know there’s other women, and I’ve talked to a few of them). He’s verbally and emotionally abusive, everything is my responsibility and even if it’s a task for multiple people, and if I don’t do it then I get screamed at.
I want to leave so badly. Some days just being around him makes me feel anxious. When he’s in a good mood, it’s great. Perfect. But it’s also quietly just waiting for the other shoe to drop. I can’t communicate any of my feelings with him without him manipulating me and making it my problem/fault or a comment on how I don’t try enough, or just woman hating in general. Everything I say about my day/hobbies/tv shows I watched are ll stupid and a waste of his time. You would swear this man hates me, but then he won’t let go of me and as soon as he tells me he’s done with me and he’s gonna find a better woman, I feel this sense of relief just briefly enough for him to be freaking out that I’m ignoring his calls and he didn’t get dinner. He tracks my location and questions everything down to “why are you in a different office today” when I’m in meetings, and calls me every minute I’m in that meeting. He’s ruining my career, self worth, confidence, and joy.
But I feel stuck and like I can’t go anywhere. I try to reach out to friends and family, but they all only have judgement and criticism which I frankly just can’t handle when I feel so small already. It ends up pushing me further away and further into him, which I know is stupid but in that moment it makes leaving my bubble feel extra exposed and uncertain and not safe. It’s scary.
I just feel so hopeless and stuck and scared and depressed and I’m so broken. We got pregnant with our baby 2 months into talking, and I wanted to stay because he is an amazing father, to our son but also to my daughter from a previous relationship. I thought we’d be this happy family, but somewhere along the way he gave up. He stppped trying so hard and his true colors came out and o realized I’d been with who he wanted me to see and not go he was, but at that point it felt too late (kids, living together, engaged). It all came out the first time he cheated, and that’s the first time I started seeing his differently… and then because I forgave him and decided to move forward, he did just stop being the man I loved and became who he was before me.
Sorry I didn’t mean to trauma dump about my relationship, but I really just need help getting out. Not physically but the mentally and emotionally when I am mentally stuck and attached to him.
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