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Pooping in a potty

Last night while playing and having some nakey time without a nappy on my little girl who’s just turned 2 said “I want my potty” so I told her to go get it. She bought her potty into her bed room, sat down and went poop. I was shocked because she’s only been playing with the potty up-to now, she’s never done a wee in it and if anything she usually would get nervous whilst sitting on it as I think she was worried she wasn’t aloud to do a wee or poop despite my encouragement.

It’s has been sat in my bathroom for weeks not being looked it never mind used, so for her to actively go fetch it as she wanted a poop AND use it correctly, I’m shocked! 🤯

I gave her loads of praise, big smiles but she looked worried she’d done a “stinky” on the potty and was upset. Yet she’s the one who wanted to do it??? Im confused what to do about it. Personally I don’t think she’s ready to start potty training but the kid just independently took herself off to use it so perhaps I’m wrong?

How would you play these next steps? Or would you do nothing as it might have been just a one off?

Apart from circumstances where the child isn’t able to be, it is unacceptable for a 3 year old to not be potty trained.

Unless your child has SEND, it is 100% just LAZY parenting.

Teething pain relief

I’ve tried the classic teething powders and calpol, doesnt do anything. Its at the point all he does is whine. Takes up to 2 hours to go sleep bc he can’t help but rub his whole face and rub it onto me. Doesn’t eat until starving.

Anything stronger i can give him? I can’t bare to watch him suffer like this :(

Younger Potty Training?

My son will be 18m old next month and I want to start potty training. Any tips from younger potty training moms? Thanks!

Pausing potty training.

I am considering taking a break from potty training.
My son has chronic constipation and I think that needs to be fully resolved before we continue. We started training him 3 months ago and he's still having multiple accidents a day. It is causing a lot of stress. However, my worry is this will make things worse in the long run as he will get confused.
Just wondering if anyone else has taken a pause in potty training and why? Did it work out in the long run? Do you regret it or was it the right choice?

Constant drooling!

So my nearly 15MO has constantly dribbled since he was 4mo and has now got 16 teeth. I know its coz of teething but I dont see any other babies drooling as much as he seems 2. I go thru countless bibs everyday lol. Thankfully hes never had a teething rash under his neck or anything so i must be doing something right lol any1 else's LO a heavy drooler?

At what age do you let your child go to the toilet on their own, wipe themself, wash hands etc without you being present

This is including public toilet. At what age would you let them go on their own inside a cubicle and just wait outside for them?

Daycare teacher

Daycare teacher here. I’m a lead teacher at a daycare and my class is 3 year olds. My ratio is 15 to 1. I have exactly 15 kids in my class. 5 of them are NOT potty trained. They aren’t even in the process of training. I’ve communicated with parents about it. They’ll tell me “oh they’re just not ready” and other excuses. If a 3 year old can come tell me that they need a new diaper/pull up every time they poop then they are definitely ready and can start potty training. The rooms built for 3 year olds at my center don’t have changing tables. I have to change my kids while they’re standing. My director expects me to watch 14 kids while also changing a diaper in the bathroom that’s off to the corner of the room. We have floaters but my director thinks a floater is not needed in a room that’s within ratio. I could get written up or fired if anything were to happen to any of my kids if I’m stuck in the bathroom changing a diaper. I tried having a talk with my director about this and she basically told me that there was nothing that could be done and that we can’t force parents to do anything they don’t want to do. The least my center could possibly do is have a changing table in the room so I can still have eyes on my other kids. What should I do? BTW we do offer potty training but it does not work if parents aren’t continuing at home.

Potty training

2nd attempt at potty training and we are having the weirdest issue. No accidents she is just holding for hours this happened last time we tried for a whole month then reverted back to pull ups. Day 3 trying again and she’s doing the same I could cry.

Anyone else ! Send help

potty training

any ideas on how to start pottty training started a few time but he don't seem interested at all

Shapes on tongue

Why does my 3 year olds tongue look like this? It’s always looked like it on and off and has never caused any issues so I haven’t brought it up to any health professionals but I’m just wondering what it is and whether I should be worried about it?

Nappy and clothes changing NIGHTMARE

Hi mums, is anybody else’s litre one extremely bad at getting their nappy and / or clothes changed? My little boy screams and protests every time! It’s so hard. I literally dread doing his nappy now especially if it’s a poo because he starts rolling around and crawling away and there’s been a few occasions where he’s spread poo around on me and the floor! I don’t get why it’s so bad, I’m always so gentle and try and distract him etc with singing, games, toys, anything! I warm the water to wipe him with too so it’s not that it’s cold wipes or anything. I got him pull ups to make it a bit easier as I found it impossible to get the other nappies on him but even with them it’s a mission!! I just don’t know what to do to make it easier or if I just need to ride it out? 🫣🤣

Potty trained?

How many 2024 June babies are potty trained or have started to use the potty?

Any tips and tricks from those who have managed to potty train?

Potty training

Daughter is just 2 and thinking we will potty train soon. Feel super overwhelmed with all the choices and stuff available as always. Can anyone tell me super simply what worked for them/ what we need? Special potty training pants? Just one carry potty so they are familiar or one to keep and home and one to travel with? Any tips welcome! ❤️

Burn out

My daughter is 3 years old and we’ve been potty training for 6 months now. She’s fine with wees but ABSOLUTELY REFUSING poops. We’ve tried everything but she has a tantrum if we try to get her to sit on the potty to poop. She always pees before she goes to poop so we know when she goes. She will happily poop her pants and hates being touched down there to be cleaned. Her speech is so far behind her peers and is not quite SEN but very on the border.

I’m so burnt out trying to do everything because my partner works full time with 12+ hours shifts. He gives me suggestions but never helps with the output as he’s hardly home.

I feel like she’s regressing a bit being around her baby cousin and as she’s the first granddaughter, she gets princess treatment so doesn’t have to do much for herself. I love her so much but feel like a failure when other kids are so far ahead in her nursery

Potty training help

We really want to potty train our little girl, however she won’t go when she sits on the potty 🧐 she enjoys sitting on the potty however she won’t let herself wee when sitting on it. Any tips would be really appreciated!

Toilet training

People who have done or already doing toilet training please help me understand the science a little.

I see a lot of options for potty’s or toilet seats (which is better and how do I choose?) I also see some parents get potties that sing and flash and dance and all that jazz which feels really excessive.

I assume I start with day training not night? How do I do it? Do I need to buy underwear? Please any advice or reading material is appreciated

Potty training

We've been doing it about a week, making great progress, about an hour between each potty visit now 🎉 but mainly been inside/ at home! Any advise for venturing out and about whilst potty training?

Teething?

When do you know your babies teething?
My baby is 10 weeks and is dribbling a lot, constantly biting his hands or just anything he can get his hands on. I put my fingers on his moulin and felt his gums and they feel normal but he bites down hard on my finger.

Potty training with underwear

My soon is potty trained whilst at home naked with no accidents and always going to the potty, but if we put underwear on him he wees in it instead of going potty or even saying he needs a wee. We haven’t attempted underwear outside yet. Would love to know how to transition from being naked to underwear, feels like his brain thinks it’s a nappy and can’t comprehend not weeing in his underwear