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Needing advice

I just found out im pregnat with my partner again

I have other kids that arent his

Is it wierd he says to me he always need to have the weekend at his house with his kids because he needs a break from my other kids, but he tells me he wants to be with me forever and stuff but says he needs a break am i just overreacting

School pick up mums

Trying to work out the school pick up routine. When you have a baby and a school age kid what helps you to be ready on time? Advice welcome

Male nursery worker

Am I being unreasonable? I feel uncomfortable with a male nursery worker changing my daughter’s nappies. I was told he was “helping out” for a day? But no explanation was given. Can I raise it with the head without being seen as problematic? To be completely honest, I found it unsettling and odd he just appeared out of the blue..

Screen-Free

Any other moms doing no screens? How do you get anything done or deal with the crying?? I feel like I never get a moment for myself or to even do things that need to be done like cleaning or cooking. My baby loves to be held all day but hates carriers. No judgement please! We are trying to do no screens for the first two years. Sometimes I have to just let him cry for a bit while I do something for myself and it feels awful. And let's not even get into the screaming in the car...I don't know if it's true and I feel kinda bad for saying this but I feel like screen-free parents just deal with a lot more crying 😞

Childminders

After a bit of advice. My son has been at a childminders since September last year. I'm finding her to be increasing unreliable, so far this year she's had 4 days closed and multiple times when I drop him off she informs me I need to collect him early, sometimes 2 hours early.
This is losing me money as I have a job that I can then not go to, as it's too short notice to arrange alternative childcare.
I've not had a childminder before, so I'm unsure if this is the norm?

Does anyone homeschool toddlers 2-3 years old?

If yes can you share what resources you are using, where you find them etc…

Being too sensitive?

I wanted people’s opinions on this and wondering if anyone else is in a similar situation! My husband is being super sensitive over friends and families opinions on who our new born baby daughter looks like. I think it’s ridiculous we are even bickering over this and having heated conversations. A lot of people have said she looks like her dad but some are saying she looks like me and just because he can’t see it, he gets annoyed with them for thinking it. I had a friend that came round to meet her and she said “she’s 100% ALL you” (me), he found this rude and disrespectful. I don’t think it is at all! Everyone sees babies differently and everyone has an opinion. I for sure don’t get upset if someone says baby girl looks like her daddy. It takes 2 to make a baby and she is gorgeous so it doesn’t matter, I’m the one that grew and birthed her but I don’t take offence! We then had a deep conversation and he opened up to me and said because he didn’t have much growing up as a child, he just would have loved our baby to look like him and to carry his features, considering she’s his biggest achievement. He’s convinced all MY friends and family just want her to look so badly like me and not him. (He’s very good looking may I add). I just get anxious every time someone comes round now as I don’t know what they will say regarding who she looks like! This is something I cannot control. He should be proud she’s gorgeous, happy and healthy. What are your opinions on this?!

Anyone else about to completely burn out or breakdown?

So I am at rock bottom.

I have no job, currently don't drive (working on both), live with my parents (cannot move right now but working on it), and am a SAHM to an AUDHD 4 year old.

I am drowning with everything on my shoulders. Grief over my beautiful pet that I had to let go to rainbow bridge 2 weeks ago after a rapid decline in her health likely due to an undiagnosed illness. I am dealing with 3 different therapists for my kiddo, have to deal with NDIS to approve funding for the 3rd, I am struggling with his swimming (we pay $22 for 30 minutes but his behaviour is shit ao we have had to leave after 15 minutes every lesson this year bar one) and have to look into getting him into a specialised swimming school but with me not driving that is not easy.

On top of this I am trying to get him into care and trying to organise school for next year, so have to ring schools, apply to schools, sort out support unit or in class support (we have applied to 1 school already).

Our kiddo is also struggling with toilet training which is beyond fucking exhausting.

I feel like a complete failure, like I he deserves a mum who ia on top of all this, who can drive and isn't terrified (literally debilitating fear) of doing so. Who has a good job and can afford stuff for her child.

I basically have a very limited wardrobe and no funds to get anything new; multiple pairs of the same jeans, 2 white shirts (only shirts I wear out), 3 skirts, 2 dresses and 2 pairs of shoes that I rotate between. I had 3 pairs of shoes but my thongs broke and I can't afford to replace them.

I have had to stop having a social life (unless what we do is free) as I can't afford it.

My partner and I need couples therapy but can't afford it.

I try to clean the house but I just can't do it well enough. I apparently am completely incapable of organising our flat.

I owe my parents nearly $3000 for vet care for my pet.

I am just beyond exhausted and I feel like I am at rock bottom. I've honestly considered taking my own life.

Everyone would be better off.

Yes I am in therapy but despite just finding a new therapist after a over a year, I will likely have to stop as we can't really afford it.

Yeah I am a fucking mess.

Partner struggles

Has anyone else's relationship with their partner struggled? My little ones sleep has gotten really bad so my partner sleeps in the spare room as hes up at 5 for work and I breast feed anyway. And then in the day he will do the babys dinner if I ask, or have him while I have a shower if I ask etc. But he just doesn't seem that interested. I feel like I'm the default parent and basically just have to do everything and carry the mental load while his life has barely changed. Weve discussed it a few times but nothings really changed. Basically I feel like our relationship is on the edge and I know its just because we're in the trenches a little at the moment with the baby. Not really sure the point of this post 😂 but just wondered if anyone had experienced similar?

Eating

Anyone’s 11 month olds still not overly keen on food? My daughter will be 1 in two weeks and she still loves her milk. She has 8oz bottle in morning and evening and a 6oz bottle after lunch. She just doesn’t seem bothered with food, prefers to feed herself now and turns her head when I try to do it.
She was also down to 50th percentile at her 12 month review where as she was 75th when she was last weighed (that was at 12 weeks though) I don’t want to stress too much as I know that it will put her off even more. Health visitor said to drop her lunch bottle and see if that improves her appetite but I’m reluctant when she’s already lost weight. For context she’s extremely stubborn and sensitive 😆
Anyone experienced the same and have any words of wisdom 😅

Curious about the screen time epidemic

Tell me what your family does

Are there daycares that do one week on one week off?

My kid is not with me for alternating weeks due to coparenting but I’m not sure if I’m still gonna have to pay for daycare the weeks she’s not with me.

Ideas for Activities??

Hi all ! The weather has slowly started to get better around here so we've been able to go out the house a bit more. We do plenty of 1-1 chats and play time at home too. But lately im finding myself struggling to fill the longer wake windows with my 9month old who is constantly wanting to either be on the move but cannot yet crawl, or gets bored after 10 minutes of a single activity. Goes in her walker on and off which she loves, and floor time too but everything ive been doing previously I feel is no longer enough for her if that makes any sense ?? . What do you guys do for instance on a nice day, when alone for the whole day with baby apart from a general stroll around town/park ? My baby is often having 1-2 naps throughout the day, so there's plenty of time to do activities but at the same time I dont really know of any age appropriate things for her to do that I can also do alone with her as I dont have a friend group of other mums to meet etc. And her dad works all day long. I don't drive either. I thought about taking her to the beach on a nice day but concerned that shes yet too young and likely will just eat the sand more than anything 😅. Im starting to feel quite bad/guilty that im not doing much with her . Any suggestions??

Feeling abandoned

It’s my birthday today,and am having the worst feelings ever,my husband doesn’t ever wish me happy birthday we both woke up on the same bed took the kids to school yet no words from him,I plan his birthday and that of the the kids even extended family don’t I at least deserve to be celebrated too?? Even on a special day like this 😭😭😭am feeling really down.

Reading issue - how do I bring this up to his teacher?

Hi all, my son brings home a book to read as homework everyday and he has been on the same band since he started reception.

Recently they seemed to be far too easy for him so I got some of the books online. We have been trying them and he is comfortably 4 bands above at home, 5 at a stretch.

Im a little confused, he’s my first child and I haven’t any experience of how they learn to read at school. I asked one of the other mums to see if the whole class was doing the same books but her little boy is a band above so it’s not that.

What could be happening here? And how should I approach it without sounding like a pushy mother? 🤣🤣

By the way I don’t care what band he’s on or what others are on - I care that this gap in his ability hasn’t been noticed, maybe they haven’t reassessed him?

what to do?

lately my boyfriend and I have been getting into these small, not worth it arguments…and it’s mainly him starting it.. i try communicating ever so calmly,
he lashes out, i don’t talk about my feelings, he lashes out. just last night he was talking to me as if i was child, for example, “get your ass in the bed and go to sleep” i asked, please don’t speak to me as if im a child, most importantly im not your child, he told me i was being foolish… this isn’t typically like him but the last time he started acting out he was cheating..thoughts on what i should do?

Potty training

Just looking at best ways people have potty trained

Trying to potty train my nearly 2 year old, we've managed 2 wees on the potty but thats when she's sat there with a distraction so stays on her seat,

At the moment we either leave her to room around in mornings on front room with no nappy or with knickers or to try and encourage her more, but just wondering if other people tried this and if this worked for them, we don't tend to do full day nappyless as we go out a lot and I also have a baby with medical problems so when I'm doing her feeds ECT I can't continuously get up to wipe the floor 🫠

How to catch him

He’s working out of town, about 6 hrs away, and I am suspicious that he’s cheating. The reason why I need to find out if I’m right and do some hunting is because I need evidence for a divorce in order to get what I’m owed.

Only thing is I have no idea how to find out if he is or not?? I don’t know what to do — anyone have any thoughts? Thanks x

Question

Question is anyone going through the stage where there 16 month old is not eating dinner she has a big breakfast because she hasn’t been eating at dinner going on 2 weeks now breakfast, snack, lunch, nap, snack then dinner around 5:30/6 every night. Is there any tips or tricks I can do to get her to start eating (she is still teething 4 coming in all at the same time)

I NEED HELP

Mommas please help me my 4 year old is having behavioural problems she’s being tested for adhd and autism but it’s not till July … she is finding it hard to follow rules or basic rules . She gets very overstimulated very fast now I tend to gentle parent because I believe understanding the boundaries and understanding how hard it is to be overwhelmed is important but it’s getting very tiring 😩….. she’s throwing stuff she’s not listening she’s destroying her room kicks doors she keeps putting stuff all over her walls etc it’s a non stop struggle I’ve tried being very stern with her making her clean up her mess nothing works the doctors are pushing more to adhd but I have adhd I also kicked doors as a little one but I was NOT this bad 😭… I need advice