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Detachment

So this morning my hormones just went bad really bad and I started “arguing” with my husband and just let my mouth run free. What he understood from that is that he should start neglecting himself and even disconnected his entire pc and brought it in the storage room although that’s his only way of winding down from stress. And he then started doing all these unnecessary stuff around the house that I didn’t even ask him to do. He barely lets me take care of our daughter and now I feel even more worthless and like the villain. And when I tried to make him understand that he misinterpreted what I said this morning he refused to listen.

Idk what to do anymore it’s only day 9 and it feels like the marriage is falling apart.

Frustrated

My husband seems to listen to everyone but me. I could say something and it goes in one ear and out the other but someone else says the same exact thing like his mom or step mom or even the Internet or other family members he listens. Do you think me being a stay at home mom and him being the bread winner can cause this? He's not the type of man to throw it in my face I actually have all access of the money and I pay the bills and spend the money and he doesn't mind me managing but when it comes to him making choices I feel like I'm not heard. Idk. Maybe I'm tripping

Bed Bugs 🤮

My FIL keep bringing bed bugs into my home. Having them has been a huge fear of mine since I was a child. I feel so disgusting. Im too paranoid to sleep knowing they will crawl on me. Im already sleep deprived waking up with baby. Im already overwhelmed with laundry but now im washing every sheet and blanket constantly I cant stop. I cant stop cleaning even though i know that doesnt change their presence. The exterminator didnt find a single one or any signs of them but I have bites so we know there are a few of them hanging out. I pray they will never come back. Im furious that he keeps bringing them into my home. Idk how to move forward besides not allowing him over ever. Im so damn frustrated and tired is an understatement. Ive already had a few meltdowns so I need to vent. YUCK 🤮

Hello, needed some advice pls, since my little one has been born I haven’t had any help from my husband with feeding him or on night wakes . Now he’s 18 months old and still he dosent help. He only plays with him that’s all. Am I petty.

He will see to him if I have an appointment or need a few hours sleep . I cook dinner and do everything around the house . He dosent even help with dishes . Am finding it hard to speak as every time I do he throws a strop. What should I do .

Purees or store bought pouches?

Hi, I’m a full time stahm and was wondering if everyone’s cooking from scratch or giving their babies store bought food ? because I feel so much shame around it and I know the nhs says not to rely on them because the way they’re processed kills the nutrition so I’m worried they won’t get much 😩 and most days I don’t know what to cook and it can get very overwhelming and I never wanted to give my baby pouches but l feel awful especially because I’m home all the time and there shouldn’t be any excuses😩

HOW Often are we seeing our MILS?

For those of you with local in laws within 40 mins distance. How often do we deem “normal” my MIL is coming once every two weeks. My mum is coming over also, i just feel drained by weekly guests! my mum i’m fine with - she’s MY mum i don’t have to clean the house get dressed etc..

I have a two year old and a 8 week old. I fear when my kids are starting school she’s going to want the same set up of 2x a week where i’m imagining a world where it becomes more in frequent. is that selfish of me? i’m thinking holidays/ bdays/ special occasions and when the kids request it. not every two weeks on tap!

context - There has been so much shit go on that we’re not the best of friends but we are cordial.

She drains me, so every two weeks feels so rough on my nervous system.

potty training troubles

i’m at a loss idk how anyone does it. i keep getting the timing of it wrong we got 1 pee in the potty first thing in the morning but nothing but accidents since. i try to think of predictable times but she either goes right before i take her or right after we’ve sat on the potty for 5 min. anyone have any advice??

Parenting advice

I really need some advice, as I am currently at my wits end with my toddler

So I have a three-year-old and a four month old.
My three-year-old’s behaviour has become absolutely ridiculous within the last month. Temper tantrums over silly things, hitting and kicking out, screaming at the top of the of her lungs, sometimes over absolutely nothing.

We thought it might be jealousy of her new baby sister. but we have tried all sorts to the naughty steps sitting in a corner, the gentle parenting, I am genuinely at a loss as what to do with her. She has questioned my sanity in so many ways. I just don’t know what to do anymore

Has anyone experienced this? Can anyone help? Any advice is greatly appreciated

Disney passes? 💓🐭

Hi mamas, do any of you have Disney passes. I would love to plan a Disney meet up with you all.

Come follow me on Instagram at SoCal_Mamas_Collective_ for all of our upcoming meet ups, events, and giveaways.☺️

Lunch ideas

My LO is 7 months old and is starting nursery next week. I need to provide lunch for her but im struggling to think of ideas for her.
She is on soft finger food but im really struggling to think of ideas that will be fine for her to have cold.
Any ideas or suggestions please as im really struggling to think of ideas and Google only gives so many ideas

Infant Cereal?

Im a FTM and my girl is just a tad over 6 months. WIC has just given me infant cereal and im not 100% what to do with it. Ive seen it added to bottles, is that right? The box says spoon feeding. And how much is she supposed to have? We've just started her on purees and soft foods. She drinks about 24 Oz of formula each day.

If you have other children, how are you coping?

I feel like it can't be this hard for everyone and surely I must be doing something wrong? Everything feels like an uphill battle.

I have a 3.5 year old son as well as our April baby and it feels like I may as well have 10 children.

I don't get anything done, yet I'm somehow never sitting down.

And I feel like I'm neglecting my baby because her brother takes up so much of my time and attention.

Weaning has been a disaster because I can't just sit and focus on feeding her. I cannot stress enough how impossible it is to just *sit*.

My 3yo is just constantly in the background "mummy look at this" "mummy I need help" "mummy I need the toilet" "mummy why are you feeding baby" "I want some too!" "Why why why why why I want I want I want" arghhhhhg!!!!

And I truly understand that he is just not used to sharing my attention and wants connection and to be involved. I get that. We always make time for him that's just solely for him and us, no baby sister. But daily life is just a struggle because he is relentless!

Not to mention the neverending to do list that just grows as the day goes on. Making all the meals, bottles, sterilising, nappy after nappy, sick, changing clothes, toddler accidents, toddler crying, toddler hurts himself, toddler tantrum, A THOUSAND snack requests, managing baby's naps pulling my hair out trying to keep her calm and sleeping in her bed whilst dipping in and out making sure 3yo isn't doing something unhinged in the livingroom.

I'm always hungry, I'm not even going to admit the last time I showered, or brushed my teeth, or hair.

And yes my 3yo goes to nursery but he only does half days because he's struggling with it, so the nursery runs just add more on my to do list and it never lines up with naps.

I could honestly just keep complaining all night.

Sorry for the whining but I've just about had enough. My head is spinning.

And with all that said, my husband is very involved when he can be, but he works long hours and is usually only home for bedtime, which is when we both take one child and take them to bed, so we rarely ever actually get any time together.

Any suggestions on how to not argue so much with your partner during the first two years of your kids life? We’re having a lot of issues with responsibilities and it feeling uneven for both people.

We both work from home and are doing different things to work on our careers. Because I don’t work nearly as much as he does, I take on more of the child related responsibilities. I also apparently boss him around, but I also feel like he doesn’t take initiative so I just feel like I’m being a household manager and I don’t mind managing things if he doesn’t mind letting me manage it, but he doesn’t like it but at the same time because he works more than me he does expect me to do more child related things, but doesn’t like when I take over either.

I’m at a loss of what to do and how to fix this.

Childcare / Grandparents

I will be using my mom for childcare when I go back to work, and I want to pay her for this, I don’t expect her to do it for nothing - she keeps insisting it’s fine, but with the cost of living ect, and I would be paying for childcare if she wasn’t available / didn’t work. But I’m not sure on how much I should give her. I will be going back to work in stages, but be doing 08:30 - 16:30 on the days that I’m in.

How much do you think is acceptable? x

Baby Led Weaning

Anyone have recommendations on how to start introducing BLW foods?? My son is more interested in our foods than his purées. Yet, I get so nervous about introducing hand held foods even though I’d really like to?! How was your experience?? Any recommendations please!?

6 month Xmas presents

Any good ideas on Christmas gifts for a girl 6 months old?

Here to rant rq

So I’m a stay at home mom I have 2 boys ones 7 and ones 6 months old,I obviously cook clean do laundry feed the baby change the baby do everything make lunches all the things that need to be done on the daily, I’m SICK runny nose lost my voice I feel like absolute shit! AND the baby’s sick I’m still doing everything tho because I’m a stay at home mom and I wanna make sure everyone’s happy,but… my husband got home from work and he took the baby said hi kissed me told me about his day I told him about mine, he then looks at me and said “you need to shower you stink” like brotha!! I haven’t had time today to fuckin shower I’m dealing with a sick baby and doing everything else like when people are sick they have a stinky smell but it’s not like I smell like rotten onions or anything I just don’t smell like roses and shit, so with all that said… am I wrong for kinda being upset with that. Like I planned on showering when he got home, but he said he was hungry for dinner so of course me being me I put everyone first.

What are we feeding these kids

My daughter is surviving on cheese and snacks these days. Anybody have any ideas for snacks/meals to get some nutrition in her?

Nursery advice needed from parents who’ve been there

Hi everyone,

I’m looking for some advice on nurseries.

My LO will be starting nursery for 2–3 days a week from February 2027, and I’ll be going back to work in June, when we’ll need to increase him to full-time.

Here’s the dilemma. We have two nurseries we really like, but Option A is our first choice and Option B is our second.

Option B has offered us full-time from June.

Option A has told us they can only offer three days a week from June, with the possibility of increasing to full-time from September. This would mean finding alternative childcare for the other two days during June, July and August.

My initial thought was to take the three days at Option A and see if Option B could offer us the additional two days. Once Option A has full-time availability, we could then move him fully across.

However, my husband’s gut feeling is that we need the security of guaranteed full-time childcare from June. His preference is to go straight with Option B.

I’m really torn because I love Option A, but we obviously need some guarantee that full-time availability will eventually come up.

If we went with Option B and he settled there, but Option A subsequently offered us a full-time place, I’d still really want to move him.

What would you do? Would you take the risk with your first choice and potentially juggle two nurseries for a few months, or go with your second choice for the security of full-time childcare?

food

hey all, my son will taste food and chew it, but he tends to then spit it out as opposed to swallowing it. he’s not the biggest fan of purées so he’s still having a full bottle of milk after each meal. i’m just a little nervous that he’s not swallowing the food, the only thing he really seems to consume is porridge. is this normal?