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UK families - how much is your weekly shopping?

Even better if you can tell me how many people it feeds in your household.
Our food alone is about £90-£100 for a week, but then I go to cheaper shops for cleaning supplies, snacks for the kids, fruit ect and I think that’s where I keep over spending.
But then I do have two toddlers who just eat so so much fruit.

Whos looking after your LOs while in labour?

Just collecting some thoughts! I've only ever had my mum for childcare, and she's travelling when I'm due, so I'm wondering what alternatives people are using for childcare for the existing little ones when you're due your next! We'd book a babysitter but not sure if we could just call a sitter last min when the baby's decided to arrive!

Thank you :)

Meals

I have no idea what I’m supposed to be feeding my 9 month old. I look online and it’s recipes with loads of ingredients and I don’t wanna spend hours in the kitchen when it’ll probably end up on the floor. Any ideas for normal meal ideas

failure

took my child out of nursery, due to the place being absolutely awful and feeling my child wasnt safe there but now im being told to not send my child to any nurseries and wait til starts school when 4, got just under a year. BUT I feel like such a failure of a mother, not providing my child with social interactions and not making friends, family and friends with children dont really both with us either. am I a bad mum for not trying to put my child back into a nursery or should I just wait it out and keep teaching my child myself and get them ready for school?

SAHM and Working husband

Hi just wondering what everyone thinks of this situation I have and if it's normal or not. Since my husband and me married 4+ years ago I have worked for a year and then got pregnant 3 times in a row (planned of course) and for 3+ years already at home. We have split our major responsibilities into him making all the earning and me doing majority of the tasks with the kids and household. My husband never really feels like going out with his friends even though he has very good friends, he always says he prefers to be with me after his work day. His hobbies he also kind of puts aside, he is full of interests, hobbies and skills and he always says that he can't do anything because he "can't set his family behind himself and he never has time etc" which in my opinion is not entirely true, I think if he wanted to, he could make time for these things. So basically all he does is work all day then come home and help me with the rest of the stuff that needs doing and because I don't drive yet he is doing lots of the things that require a car, e.g I send him to buy things, pick things up from somewhere, drive me somewhere where it's inconvenient to get to by public transport etc etc. Me on the other hand, I do lots of things like going out to have a brunch here, going out with our kids to the soft play there, every week I meet my friends and we do something nice together and he drives me and picks me up and is with the kids during it and besides that always goes out of his way to make my life more comfortable by putting himself last.

I am currently 30 weeks pregnant and have a UTI so am in pain and am going to the hospital. My husband's business partner is very upset with him that he took off lots of time from work to help me with things so I told my husytgat it's fine, I will take the bus (1 hour ride) to the hospital with the kids and he shouldn't stretch his business too much and he told me that he still asked his partner about if he can leave work early and be with the kids and that his partner was angry with him. In the end, one hour before I had to leave he wrote me a message that he is on the way to the kids and I can go to the hospital by myself so apparently he fought for the agreement to do it.

It's very nice and I feel very loved but obviously he often complains to me that he does everything for the family and me and that he doesn't have a life of his own and that he feels so stretched etc etc but I feel like most of the times it's him doing it actively to himself. So I feel very taken care of on one hand but very guilty often too because of his complaints sometimes. I don't know what I am supposed to think of that that he argued with his business partner and does an upsetting thing to him like leaving early so that I am more comfortable in hospital. And tomorrow he will bring me to my friends and he always says how happy he is that I go but what should we do about him feeling the way he feels sometimes?

Anyone started giving solids yet?

Hey all! My daughter is 5 months and I just gave her her first portion of food last night.
It was 2 small potatoes, 1 carrot, 30ml of breastmilk - pureed.
She ate about 1/3 of it, and was super excited to do so lol.
So Im planning on giving her that every night before bedtime from now on for at least a week.
Any one else started yet?
Any recipes to recommend?

Inlaws need alone time with baby to bond

Away from you the mother

When your hubby leaves for work

Does it feel like your day is

Play break

Is it rude if I tell my toddler i don't want to play and need a break. I do enjoy playing with my toddler,but every day I play with her to the point where I need a break. I keep telling her to play with her blocks magnets, eggs or her other toys. But she still wants to play. I can't help,but to sigh in annoys. I just need a hour of no playing. The only way I been able to have me time is to put on the tv,but I don't want to keep relaying on it. Am writing this while she is next to me playing with her cooking toys, I guess that is her playing on her own,but I just don't want her playing next to me because it feels like she is still asking me to play. And she is asking what am doing. I don't want to be rude to her

Concerned

The way these books and videos have yall afraid to take care or do anything with you little ones are insane! Yall parents didn’t have access to none of this and yall turned out amazing!!!! Yall are going to have a nervous breakdown trying worry about what a book say! LISTEN TO YOUR PEDIATRICIAN! And mom (only if she was a good example of a great parent) and SCREENTIME be having yall in a chokehold smh LET THOSE KIDS BE KIDS!!!!

Where to go with baby on a rainy day?

Meeting a friend tomorrow and not quite sure where to go as it will be raining. Last week we went to the pub for lunch with baby so want to do something different this time

Keeping them entertained

How are we keeping our 4 month olds entertained when it’s absolutely tipping down with rain? 😅 I don’t mind a rainy walk but it’s wet-through-to-your-pants raining today so I can’t be dealing with that 😂

She doesn’t want to be held but she doesn’t want to be on the floor playing for too long either.. feel like I’m losing my marbles today. I try to avoid screens completely as she is already far too interested in them (no judgement on anyone else).

Food ideas for 9 month old

Hey mamas 🤍

I could really use some advice/ideas for feeding my 9 month old. I feel so lost when it comes to meals and meal prepping for him, and honestly I’m really scared of choking so I think it’s making me overthink everything. I keep feeling like I’m falling behind on what I “should” be feeding or cooking for him at this age.

What are some easy meals/snacks you feed your 9 month olds? Any simple meal prep ideas, safe foods, or tips that helped you feel more confident would be SO appreciated 🥺

Weaning

Yesterday I gave my little girl Kendamil baby rice and, safe to say, it was a success! I’m thinking of offering it every other day for a week or so, then moving to every day. How often should I give it to her?

Nursery!!

Has anyone had their LO not settle in nursery?! My one is 6weeks in and she’s still not settled and I’m at my wits end and don’t know what to do. Can’t afford to take her out and I’m just blah

Activities for plane ✈️

It’s less than 4 weeks until we go on our first holiday abroad, my little man will be 15 months old. He’s not walking yet and he’s not the type to sit still for long periods of time, has anyone got any recommendations for activities to keep him occupied? Luckily it’s only a 2.5hr flight. TIA ☀️

Anyone who works a 9 to 5 with their child in childcare do you get enough time as a family together? How does this work??

Considering you are home around 6-7pm then you make dinner and go to bed then repeat you basically only get your days off if you and your partner share the same days together as a family

What’s your LO favorite activity/ toy ?

Looking for some inspiration for entertaining my baby . Any good toys / activities you got/ do with your baby??

Not sure how to go about this

I’ve always been independent had a job paid my own bills all that then once I moved different states to live with my husband and have our baby I became sahm and now if I wanna buy simple things like lotion I ask and it’s been hard to transition from never asking anyone for things I would buy to asking even tho I don’t have to ask I could just use his cards but still… did anyone else have this feeling?