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What to do?

My husband has been getting upset so much he was in the process of leaving work so I was giving him the benefit of the doubt with all the stress and just let it be….
He’s retired now and home with us now but his anger is just on another level. We literally can’t even get in the car and go anywhere because everyone is always wrong to him and he’s the only one that is doing things right and thinks….
We got in an argument today and he left per usual he always leaves when he gets really upset and usually always comes back with something for me (soda candy etc) I feel like he knows once he cools down he took it too far but idk… could be wrong since he thinks he’s the only one to be right.
I’m just so over his attitude towards everything not to mention the helicopter parent he is my kids can’t even be kids because he thinks the worst is going to happen it’s just exhausting…

I know a lot of you are gunna just hop on the comments and say leave I’ve seen it suggested a lot before so I was hesitant to post this and just be told to leave… but it wasn’t always like this and when we’re good we are good I just don’t know what to do at this point.

When is enough or too much? This can’t be what a marriage looks like is it?

Help I am so overwhelmed by my toddler.

My toddler cries constantly if we are home and I am not holding him or playing with him or he has my immediate attention. My husband tries so hard sometimes but I am so overwhelmed. I need to leave the room. A lot. Sometimes it turns into hours. I don't enjoy spending time with my son when hes that clingy. I also hate feeling like that. But hes heavy and I am small and I am exhausted and need a break. I am drowning. Baby will be 2 in June.

Weaning

My LO is nearly 6 months and I have fed her some purée pouches but want to give her actual food, blended banana which she loved. I want her to be able to hold the food as she is super active with her hands, but not sure what I can give her? Shes two weeks off being 6 months.

2 under 2s

Been up all night with my newborn and then my toddler woke up at 6am… I’m completely overstimulated, exhausted, and honestly feeling really frustrated.

I’ve ended up shouting at my toddler all morning because he’s been so mischievous and I’m just too tired to handle it today, which is making me feel even worse.

My mother-in-law has taken my toddler so I can rest, which I know I need… but now I just feel rubbish and guilty for sending him. It’s like I can’t win — I’m desperate for a break, but when I get one I feel awful for not having my own child with me.

Does anyone else feel like this? The mum guilt is hitting hard today 💔

My 8mo plate

A hunk of pear to gum on (he’s cutting his first tooth, the poor thing)
A few tater tots
Approx 1 homemade meatball that fell apart immediately when I made it last night lol

Has anyone asked their pets about serving sizes? Hubby and I can’t find anything about how much food to offer this lil one.

Pregnant and worried my partner may leave/cheat! Is this normal? He has been distant

We have another child and both super exhausted. We haven’t felt connected for some time. When we talk it can be stressful talking about finances, our lack of village which we agree isn’t there but it’s just a rant, our differences in parenting styles, his stressful job which includes a lot of work related gossip and fear mongering. Then the other day he joked about me being a single mum, he doesn’t seem to overly enjoy our life right now, can’t say I do either as some days feel like survival and he can’t wait to have time to himself to doom scroll/read work emails etc.

Help - in the trenches

Hi all

My baby was born 3 days ago via emergency c section I was 38+5

Me and my partner are in the trenches, we don’t know what we’re doing, and we’re struggling so much

He isn’t supporting me as much as I would like and I fear I have now developed depression.

What we’re struggling with is who has him when and when we both sleep. We try to make a plan but it never happens so for example last night he was going to have him for 3 hours then I was. But by the time I finished helping him (I have no idea what I’m doing I’ve not had a child before) I only had 1.5 hours sleep last night where as he has had almost 4

Every time I speak to him he looks so spaced out and keeps taking everything as an insult. I’m worried that he’s not coping at all. He isn’t listening to me about anything and then proceeds to ‘wing’ everything which is causing us so much issues

I’ve asked him just now to get up so that I can get a couple more hours of sleep in which he has done but when I asked him to hold the baby higher up he just stared at me

I’m at a loss and really don’t know what to do. Midwife came yesterday and helped us a lot, and as a result of that I had my first hour sleep in 3 days. So we are making some progress. I just want to be able to sleep a healthy amount for my body and be able to settle my baby properly

What are you feeding your 8m olds?

Hey girls pleaaaaase can I have some advice or ideas on what your feeding your babies?

Ours has just turned 8m and I’m running out of ideas he loves 3 meals a day! I have my little girl who’s 4 but obvs won’t be eating the same beige foods 😂😂

Comment from my partner

Am I being overly sensitive here?

I gave birth a week ago. I was just sitting on the sofa and asked me partner to take a photo of me with the baby, and smiled when he was taking the picture. As he took it he said "why are you making that face?" and laughed.

I immediately felt crushed and really upset and self conscious. I'm already a bit awkward and self conscious about my smile and now I feel like I must just look weird. Every time I try to take a photo smiling with my baby I feel like I'm going to be even more conscious of whether my face looks funny. He aaw I was crying and said sorry and he was only joking, but then said maybe he'd said it because he was frustrated that he wanted to go for a shower and felt like I was keeping him because I hadnt had breakfast yet (I'd told him to go for a shower several times, but he'd said he'd wait until I'd had breakfast and he'd hold the baby, which I hadnt done yet). I know it sounds silly and small, but after he said that it feels almost more like a spiteful comment rather than a joke. I feel so vulnerable right now just a week after giving birth and while trying to navigate having two under 2.5 and it just crushed me a little. I told him to just go and have his shower and now I'm just sitting here crying with the baby and feeling hideous.

Have you ever shouted at your baby?

Feeling like a terrible mother because after trying to get my baby to nap for nearly 2 hours, I snapped and shouted at my baby. He's going through this awful nap fighting stage, and he will pull out his dummy and then scream like it's my fault. He's an absolute nightmare when he's overtired and I've and an awful couple of weeks already, so I'm just so frustrated. He's also got to the stage where he's hitting, scratching, and pulling my hair, so it's not great. I'm obviously very ashamed but I have little to no support and I'm so fucking tired.

Screen time

My 4 month old loves to sit in his swing and watch tv. Mostly miss Rachel, curious George, or honestly what ever it is that I have playing (Dawsons creek lately). It gives me an opportunity to wash bottles or clean up while he’s occupied and I try to keep it at 20 minutes increments but sometimes I do feel bad for allowing it. At the end of the day as mothers I know we all do what works, but what keeps your infants entertained?

Does your partner do the nursery drop offs before they go to work?

My husband works 9-5 and has to go into the office 3 days a week. His commute is just over an hour long. It's his task to get our toddler fed & ready and dropped off to nursery which is right opposite the tube station. But my husband really struggles to juggle this. He can just about get himself ready on time let alone both of them.
I'm not in a position to help atm as I am still in the newborn/infant trenches. My baby has tummy issues and wants to be held 24/7.
Any tips? Am I asking husband to do too much?

Toys

Hi all! My little girl is 16 months old and has had a lot of the same toys for a while, although she loves playing with them I feel like a few aren’t very engaging enough anymore for independent play, any recommendations for new toys that keep your little ones entertained for more than 5 mins haha x

How to get childcare during summer holidays

My daughter is due to start reception in September. Not sure what to do during the school's holidays from next year. I work monday to Friday. Any advice please

Toys for travelling

We’re going away next week with our son and it’s going to involve a long car journey, does anyone have recommendations for toys that will keep him entertained on the trip? 🙏

Moving to NJ - Schools

Hi All,

We're looking to move to NJ in the near future and would love to get any recommendations on areas to look at with great schools or any hacks on how to get an affordable home in a great school district. I don't drive (new yorker) but my hubby does, I'd ideally like to be able to walk/commute baby to school when she goes. I'm starting to feel very discouraged, budget is ideally below 700k, preferably 600k or less.

Fumming 😡

Im not sure if anyone has watched gmb today i am disgusted at the presenters lack of knowledge neurodiverse kids during the school ban on fried food the comment just make them eat you can not just do this with kids who have arfid. It is a struggle to get them to eat let alone things we would love them to eat. Who else feels the same way?

Chocolate?

My baby has been bought a lot of chocolate (mainly white chocolate) over Easter and we’ve had to tell a lot of people he isn’t allowed it yet. We were planning on doing no sugar until at least 1, potentially 18/24months, but it seems like this isn’t the expectation, particularly from older generations? What is everyone else doing?

What helped make the potty training process easier for you?

Hi ladies,

I’m about to start potty training my 18-month-old baby girl. I’ve done some research, but I’d really love to hear your tips and personal experiences.

What advice would you give about the process? Is there anything I should be careful about? I’d love to know how it went for you and what helped make it easier.

My mom told me she potty trained me when I was around 10 months old and it worked really well, so please don’t tell me it’s too early. I’m just looking for advice and helpful tips.

Thank you!