Being too sensitive?
I wanted people’s opinions on this and wondering if anyone else is in a similar situation! My husband is being super sensitive over friends and families opinions on who our new born baby daughter looks like. I think it’s ridiculous we are even bickering over this and having heated conversations. A lot of people have said she looks like her dad but some are saying she looks like me and just because he can’t see it, he gets annoyed with them for thinking it. I had a friend that came round to meet her and she said “she’s 100% ALL you” (me), he found this rude and disrespectful. I don’t think it is at all! Everyone sees babies differently and everyone has an opinion. I for sure don’t get upset if someone says baby girl looks like her daddy. It takes 2 to make a baby and she is gorgeous so it doesn’t matter, I’m the one that grew and birthed her but I don’t take offence! We then had a deep conversation and he opened up to me and said because he didn’t have much growing up as a child, he just would have loved our baby to look like him and to carry his features, considering she’s his biggest achievement. He’s convinced all MY friends and family just want her to look so badly like me and not him. (He’s very good looking may I add). I just get anxious every time someone comes round now as I don’t know what they will say regarding who she looks like! This is something I cannot control. He should be proud she’s gorgeous, happy and healthy. What are your opinions on this?!
Anyone else about to completely burn out or breakdown?
So I am at rock bottom.
I have no job, currently don't drive (working on both), live with my parents (cannot move right now but working on it), and am a SAHM to an AUDHD 4 year old.
I am drowning with everything on my shoulders. Grief over my beautiful pet that I had to let go to rainbow bridge 2 weeks ago after a rapid decline in her health likely due to an undiagnosed illness. I am dealing with 3 different therapists for my kiddo, have to deal with NDIS to approve funding for the 3rd, I am struggling with his swimming (we pay $22 for 30 minutes but his behaviour is shit ao we have had to leave after 15 minutes every lesson this year bar one) and have to look into getting him into a specialised swimming school but with me not driving that is not easy.
On top of this I am trying to get him into care and trying to organise school for next year, so have to ring schools, apply to schools, sort out support unit or in class support (we have applied to 1 school already).
Our kiddo is also struggling with toilet training which is beyond fucking exhausting.
I feel like a complete failure, like I he deserves a mum who ia on top of all this, who can drive and isn't terrified (literally debilitating fear) of doing so. Who has a good job and can afford stuff for her child.
I basically have a very limited wardrobe and no funds to get anything new; multiple pairs of the same jeans, 2 white shirts (only shirts I wear out), 3 skirts, 2 dresses and 2 pairs of shoes that I rotate between. I had 3 pairs of shoes but my thongs broke and I can't afford to replace them.
I have had to stop having a social life (unless what we do is free) as I can't afford it.
My partner and I need couples therapy but can't afford it.
I try to clean the house but I just can't do it well enough. I apparently am completely incapable of organising our flat.
I owe my parents nearly $3000 for vet care for my pet.
I am just beyond exhausted and I feel like I am at rock bottom. I've honestly considered taking my own life.
Everyone would be better off.
Yes I am in therapy but despite just finding a new therapist after a over a year, I will likely have to stop as we can't really afford it.
Yeah I am a fucking mess.
what to do?
lately my boyfriend and I have been getting into these small, not worth it arguments…and it’s mainly him starting it.. i try communicating ever so calmly,
he lashes out, i don’t talk about my feelings, he lashes out. just last night he was talking to me as if i was child, for example, “get your ass in the bed and go to sleep” i asked, please don’t speak to me as if im a child, most importantly im not your child, he told me i was being foolish… this isn’t typically like him but the last time he started acting out he was cheating..thoughts on what i should do?
So frustrated with my partner
My boyfriend is a part of a bike club which is a hobby for him. I’m okay with that, but it’s honestly going a little too far. They have to go to other people’s bike nights and their own. He has been gone on Monday (not sure when he came home bc I found him face down on the floor drunk), yesterday, he has his own bike night and came home at midnight, and now (I’m on east coast time) is out with them and when I asked when he will be home, he ignored that.
I’m work from home and unfortunately am the breadwinner which causes extra stress for me. My 15 month old stays home with me and I’m currently 28 weeks pregnant. I’m TIRED and honestly ready to leave the relationship. He is a good father, but that’s not enough. I’m just tired of being accommodating.
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