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From the community

Recent discussions

Sahm rant

I’m sick and tired being told “you choose to be a stay at home mom”. Just because I’m a stay at home mom doesn’t make have to take care of our baby 24/7 with no breaks. I shouldn’t have to beg you to change a diaper, I shouldn’t have to ask you to feed our baby. I shouldn’t ask you to spend time with our baby while I leave the house to get groceries or even just have time for myself to breathe. You wonder why she doesn’t take bottles or the spoon good from you or why she’s looking at mama all the time. YOU choose to come home after work and go straight to sleep or go on the game. Do I not get freedom either? Or leave the house without you saying “take the baby with you”. Don’t forget when I argue with you about all this you like to say “I’m sorry I’m a shitty father”. Out of the weekend you actually spend a few hours with your kid but that’s because I’m there with you. Sometimes I think did I make a mistake having a kid? I love you and our daughter but we aren’t the same anymore.

Resent my partner

Is it wrong to resent my partner since having our little girl? I’m so tired of having to think for him aswell, he just goes to work, has a shower or chills, has a lie in etc, whatever works for him. But if I ask for some help around the house, with her or to go and do anything for me it’s like a massive favour. Or at least that’s how I’m made to feel.
I’m starting to feel it would be easier doing it on my own rather than having to think for him aswell. At least if you no you’ve got to do it all you get on with it rather than waiting or hoping someone else will help you.

Leaving my 12 month old with my 75 year old MIL for 4-6 hours…

Husband bought us tickets to see a movie and get lunch with some other family members. He enlisted his mom (she’s 75) to watch our very active/fast 12 month old. He says she needs the challenge/activity and can handle it, but admittedly I’m nervous. She’s pretty much our only unpaid option for childcare and she’s managed him for a couple of hours on her own and once for 6 hours when he was younger/not quite crawling yet.

We’ve been to one movie since my son was born and honestly 4-6 hours without a baby sounds great but part of me is tempted to just stay with my son so I don’t have to be worried 🫠 am i just being paranoid? I’m worried she can’t keep up,

50/50 in parenting

I am a first time mother of a 5 month old and I’m struggling to make my husband understand that he isn’t doing enough. He does a lot so thinks that’s fine but when I ask him to do one thing off his ‘dad’ schedule, it’s always done with reluctance. I’m sick of repeating myself of how unfair it is so I have told him I will not say it again as I’m done feeling bad about it. Now how can I actually fix this.

Past time investment, what's too much...

My partner leads a large band and it's doing very well but I resent his success. I'm proud of him but also angry. It means more days away. We had a baby 4 months ago and have toddler child. He says he would support me if it was me in this situation. I just can't imagine being so invested in something else than the family especially with kids being so young.

He is hands on with the kids, often makes dinner, groceries. But he does neglect some things at home.

Our family often goes and supports him, including overseas. He spends a lot of time to plan and practice. He has events at least once a week all day. The drama of the band makes him in a mood. He stresses when he is a home leading up to events. Always on his phone to respond correspondence for it. This is his past time not his full time job.

I want to support him but I also think it's unfair because my world is small right now. He is really good at it, too. Living his best life. I don't have a question but am hoping to get some retrospective.

Husband only wants two kids..

We just had our second baby boy and my husband has told me that he thinks he only wants two.. before we got married I wanted 5 kids and he wanted 4, I told him id be okay with only having 4 but I didnt want any less then 4. He agreed that that was fine with him. Idk what to do or how to express how I feel about it to him. I don't only want two kids, I dont want 5 anymore but I want at least 3. Every time he brings up how he doesn't really want anymore I just kinda go quiet and feel this overwhelming sadness that I dont know how to explain.

What do I do? I still want more kids, but he clearly doesn't 😔

I need to vent..

My husband is the dumbest person I know! And he plays off that he’s super smart and makes me feel like I’m an idiot.

The thing that makes me say this is that I want to make ready to bake meals and dump bags to make it easier on me. I work full time and I’m constantly being pulled in so many directions.

He says that if you freeze the meals, it makes them unhealthy and they go bad. I told him that is not the case and even showed him studies and evidence that prove that the nutritional value doesn’t get affected if you freeze something. It preserves it.

And then he goes, well I don’t expect the internet to be on the right side. Like wtf do you mean???

I showed you literal proof and you still think you’re right. Honestly wtf.

She said “if you put the fear of god in a child at 4…”

She has no children but she said if she did she believes in spanking them when they’re little so that by 7 they’ll remember the fear. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Feeling done.

I have a 10 month old little boy, and my wife's family keeps trying to give him things to eat and drink that we don't allow. When we say no, they bully us and poke fun at us for our choices. Today, I came in from grilling supper and found a bottle of apple juice on the counter. I asked my wife who gave it to him, and she said it was her. Now, I know she didn't just decide to. Her mom pushed and she gave in. I'm so angry, because when I asked about it, she told me "I knew you were going to react like this!" I didn't get mad. I didn't raise my voice. I didn't name call or insult her or her family. I simply asked why I wasn't part of the decision. Her reasoning is because he wouldn't drink his water. SOOO WHAT!!! HE ISN'T DEHYDRATED. I feel like I have no control over our child. If I say something, it's not important. It's taken as a joke. It's irrelevant because it came from me. Now that my mother in law has had her way, there is no going back. She will assume it is fine to do anything she wants, now that my wife folded.

My wife told me it was just 2 oz of juice with 4 oz of water. It's no big deal. "He is going to have cake on his birthday..."

But that's not fair. Yes, we were going to let him have some cake for his birthday. That was a decision we made together. I wasn't even asked about the juice.

This is not the first time I have been excluded from decisions. MIL gave baby boy his first solids, without discussing it with us/me.

Taking toddler out

I feel bad for not being able to take my toddler to toddler places unless im with my partner or my mum. Everything hurts, im too hot and i just genuinely dont have the energy too. I still take her out nearly every day even if its just popping to the shops etc we live in a flat and im a stay at home mum but literally up until 2/3 weeks ago when i felt it taking a toll on my body we were going to country parks, splash parks all those kind of things now i feel bad😩 may i also add she is very energetic and a runner so i find it more difficult 🤣

Partner working nightshift

Hi

Is anyone else’s partner a nightshift worker? I’m so stressed and solo parenting 24/7 it’s really getting to me

Do I have a right to be angry?

I just finalized my divorce after three years. It was long and painful. I have a child with special needs and I asked to move in with my mom and stepdad for two weeks so I had time to look for a place at the beginning of my divorce. They said they were not comfortable with it. I had to take a less than ideal place and whatever was available because I needed to leave quickly with my kids so I moved into a small place which was all I could afford. My mom and stepdad said that when the divorce was final they would help me find a more suitable place and promised money to help with the cost. Today I told them I found a place and was excited and thought that I was ready to make a move into a more favorable place for my kids particularly my special needs child. My step dad said “ well we are only giving you that money if you match it”. Granted they don’t have to give me anything and I am grateful but for years they made this promise and for me to find a place, them take back the deal is disheartening. I am really angry. Any thoughts? Am I overreacting? I don’t have the money to “ match it “ and I just feel like I have taken 5 steps back. I have tried so hard, working 2 jobs but as a single mom it’s really hard.

Peppa pig world for a 5 month old

I need an opinion, please. I want to know whether I'm being selfish.
My daughter is 5 months and 3 weeks old. My partner has two other children with his ex a 7 year girl and a 3 year oldboy. He wants to take the children to Peppa Pig World next week, but it will be the last week of my maternity leave. On top of that, I think my daughter is still far too young. She's formula-fed, enjoys having her naps during the day, struggles to sleep in her pram, and much prefers a calm environment. I feel really guilty about taking her somewhere she won't even enjoy, and I honestly think she'll end up struggling for two whole days afterwards. We're also taking the children abroad in September for 7 days to an all inclusive hotel with lots of activities specifically for children. I'm worried about that as well because I'll be introducing purées to my daughter and I don't know how I'm going to manage her food while we're there. Even so, I agreed because I also want to see the kids happy. Do you think it would be selfish of me to say no to him about going to Peppa Pig World? I told him he could take the children on his own and that I'd be completely happy with that, but he wouldn't accept it.

2 year age gap advice

I’ve only just found out I’m pregnant so excuse me mildly crashing out out of pure fear and anxiety.
Of course I’m over the moon and so blessed that I get to do this all over again and make my son a big brother but it’s really just hit me how the hell am I going to do this. I know people do very often have more than 1 child but he’ll be just over 2 by the time this baby is born and he’ll still need me so much I’ve got so many thoughts going round my head of how I’ll cope as I know how time and life consuming newborns are and I don’t ever want him to feel left out. Please tell me these are normal thoughts and it will all work out somehow 😅

Feeling Drained

You get really tired of everything. My Bd lives with me and me and my mom split rent but my mom is barely ever at the house so it’s really just our house when he first came. He decided that he was never gonna help with anything around the house because that’s not his house and I don’t blame him, but sometimes it can just be really inconvenient. I work 3 12 hour shifts and he stays home with the baby. He has a tendency to ask me for things right before I leave and he thinks that I should be breast-feeding my baby right before I walk out the door so that way he doesn’t have to feed her it sometimes really frustrating when he asked me two minutes before I’m supposed to walk out the Door the baby’s hungry instead of just getting out of bed and making her a bottle so I bring her a bottle warmed up with breastmilk and I handed to him and I said I gotta go. I’m gonna be late for work and he gets upset with me like if you didn’t wake up so late you would be able to feed her etc. etc. I’m just starting to get really tired of it because I’m the only one who cleans I’m the only one who cooks I’m the only one who brings in money but anytime I ask for help. It’s a problem I’m getting so drained bro

Argument with husband

Would you be annoyed/upset if you were meeting some friends for a drink and you’d got yourself and your son ready and as you were putting your shoes on and getting your toddler’s bag of things together, your husband just left the house with your son and didn’t communicate he was going to start walking ahead? I phoned him and he said he was on his way to the pub. I’d got our son ready and was getting my own shoes on and his snacks and bag together and he didn’t have the decency to wait for me so we could walk to the pub together, or even communicate he was going to walk ahead.

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