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How would this make you feel?

My ex husband cheated badly. He then went on to mentally and financially abuse me during our divorce when I got the guts to leave.

I later found out he’d started sleeping with one of my best friends. Why she went there is still a mystery to anybody because she knew how nasty he’d been to me. She must have lost her mind.

Anyway it’s been five years. I heard down the grape vine that they’ve had a rocky relationship but they did have a baby together. They also just got married too.

Anyway guess what. He’s done exactly the same to her as why he did to me.

Part of me hates the thought of this happening to any woman. Especially when kids are involved but the level of hurt the pair of them have inflicted onto me also makes me feel slightly glad! Karma caught up with her. I’m sad he’s not changed his ways, he’s a truly nasty person.

But I feel so conflicted about being secretly sorta happy this has happened. I could have predicted their ways would come back to bite them. Also I hate woman who do this to other woman. Me and my friend had been best friends since we’re 14!

How would you feel?
Has this ever happened to you?

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How would you feel?

About a week ago my partner lost his night retainer. He had his Invisalign about 4 years ago.

He's spent the first 3 days looking everywhere turning the house upside down and even not sleeping. He's been looking everywhere and not sleeping well at all

He got up at 4am and said I need to find them and I said babe come back to bed and he said leave me alone.

He starts work at 8:30, works from home. It was half 7 and he had our 7 week old and I said I got to her our 3 week old ready for nursery. He only started yesterday.

He was going on about his retainer and I said I'm sorry babe but it must not be here (we think our toddler must of thrown it) he started shouting at me calling .e negative and horrible and went mad. I now have the baby and my son is late for nursery.

How would you react?

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Am I a terrible mom?

My one year has started to scream for everything including going to sleep. I just can’t take it anymore and I’ve been letting her cry it out. Like I try everything I can to get her to go to sleep and as soon as I walk out of her room and shut the door she’s screaming again. The neighbors say they can’t hear her but idk how they can’t. I’m terrified someone’s gonna call cps on us because she screams all the time. I tell her no, screaming. I take something away that she shouldn’t be playing with, screaming. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Feeling guilty and awful

I dropped my little one off at nursery today it’s his second day and he was fine yesterday. But today he was crying and he had to be peeled off me. I feel awful , he goes from 7:30-6pm because I work and I wish I had it a diff way ! Does it get better will he settle ?

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Relationship falling apart

Hi. I’m wondering if anyone else’s relationship with their partner hasn’t been the same since having a baby and is falling apart? My boyfriend told me that if he knew it was going to be this way he wouldn’t have had a baby with me, and that I shouldn’t have become a mom. I should have researched it first. That because don’t want our son crying I don’t know what I’m doing and turning him into a Velcro baby. Our son is 8 weeks old. I’m heartbroken. I feel so alone and miss having a partner and best friend. He hasn’t worked or contributed to the bills in 3 months . He’s supposed to be home helping but all he does for the most part is make me food which he hasn’t done in two days.

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Nesting

Is this something that comes naturally? Or do people just clean their houses and call it nesting? I don’t have an “urge” to start cleaning, my house is always fairly tidy anyway. But is nesting something I should be experiencing?🤷🏽‍♀️

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Anyone relate?

I feel awful all the time I can’t switch off at all since having my baby I feel like I have to be running 24/7 my partner helps but minimally he will sit and play cod while I’m doing all the washing after doing all the night feeds, says I should nap but then says he’s going for a quick shower and spends hours upstairs getting ready so I can’t sleep.. he was in and out during my pregnancy and he came back 4 days before I gave birth I feel like he’s just wanting to be on the birth certificate I’m worried about everything and I can’t rest, there’s been times I’ve missed feeds (she’s slept through) but she’s gone 5 hours without feeding at 12 days old because I’m so exhausted I’m not waking up to my alarm and will wake up to her crying hours after she should’ve been fed, I don’t want to be a bad mum but I don’t understand how people do it I can’t remember anything my head is like mash I can’t rest or sit down I’m worried my stitches aren’t healing because I’m doing so much they still hurt now the whole area feels really heavy I just want to cry all the time.

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Am I being silly worrying?

My LO had her first taster session for an hour yesterday at nursery. When I dropped her off she was nervous but went in fine. Doesn’t really cry just goes really quiet.

When I picked her up I could see through the door and the rest of the group are all sitting together with the 4 nursery nurses and she’s sitting away on her own.

She was excited when I got there but did walk to see me gave me a big hug and was just really quiet and I could tell she wanted to leave. I kept getting told by them she had so much fun and that she was joining in. I tried asking her if she had fun and just kept ignoring me. As soon as she was home she was running around screaming happy again.

She starts properly today and is going for 3 hours I said she’s going to play again and make some friends she just said no, no, no and started making a sobbing noise with her hands over her face.

I’m sure this is normal but she’s always had fun at playgroups so I thought she would like this to socialise now I’m worried I should have listened to my gut instinct and waited till she was 3 😩

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Am I being over the top?

When my baby was about 4mths old he was with his fathers parents (so my sons grandparents) and they fed him and they kept it hidden from me for about 2 months!
My partner found out and said they were wrong not to tell us and they agreed but said they knew that I wouldn’t have liked it.. so then my partner and his parents all kept it hidden from me!!! I feel betrayed by all of them. And now my partner gets in a mood when I say they aren’t babysitting our son…am I being over the top or am I in my rights to feel like this?
To this day have not said what they fed him and he was at the time suffering with constipation.

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Ruining vacation

We went to go to concert in another city and because I denied my husband sex he had a shitty attitude the whole time. He did not get up and dance or sing, he just sat there with a pissed off face and crossed arms the whole time. The reason I denied him sex was because he was trying right before the concert and we were already late so I said and we can do it later. He then said he wasn’t going to go anymore he wasn’t in the mood to even look at me. We ended up going which he later said was a waste of time and money. I just want to know is anyone dealing with this tantrum behavior from their partner?

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Help support partner in the newborn phase with noise sensitivity and lack of structure

If anyone has sensitivity to sound and stress please can you advise on what helped you through the newborn phase

Hi, I’m not sure how to word this or if this is the right group.

My partner hasn’t been diagnosed with autism however has lots of the traits and experiences associated so thought this maybe a good place to ask for support. He is very sensitive to sound and has a very short stress response to the crying ( this shows as depressive and exhaustion stress and drained of energy, emotional etc)with other things he can get angry/ frustrated when overwhelmed. He is not enjoying the unpredictability of a baby and the lack of structure and presence of noise is really getting to him, it sees like he’s being very hard and critical of himself too which makes me really sad as he’s doing amazing

Our much loved and anticipated baby girl joined our family last Sunday and my partner is the most wonderful caring and doting daddy you could hope for.

Since the first night the baby crying really causing my husband a lot of stress and anxiety and emotion in himself. We are getting decent sleep ( though be it broken sleep)
Baby does cry when wanting a feed and having a poo but generally would say it’s the same as your average newborn, I personally thought she didn’t cry much at all honestly

but tonight my husband said he’s really struggling and is trying his best. I keep reassuring him he’s doing amazing because he really is. Nothing is too much and he just wants to hold and love her, always checking in on her and me and is just perfect really.


I can tell he’s feeling stressed and disappointed in how he’s feeling and I would like to know how I can support him.

As I’m feeling very well I said I am happy to handle to tears for now and take that responsibility as it doesn’t actually bother me

I mentioned headphones/ earplugs but he feels like that’s not an answer. The first few nights he did wear ear defenders he uses for his job in construction when changing her nappy if she was crying

Thanks in advance x

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What should I do

is it wrong for me not wanting my son grandmother around him after what she said this how the conversation started the messages will be in the comments

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I need tips from working moms pls

1. I uset the fridge method for my breast pump, but there is no room on the fridge at work. How can I keep my punp cold sp I can actually use it more than once at work?

2. By the time I'm get my baby from the babysitter and get home, I literally have to put him to bed. There is no time for dinner or bath really. How are yall finding time to feed your kids?? He's 6m old so dinner is a whole messy process. I may have to do breakfast instead, but that only works for now since he can have 1 meal a day. Idk how im gonna eventually get multiple meals in.

Any other general thoughts or tips pls. Today was my first day back at work and it was so damn stressful.

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Parents of multiples:why does it feel like im falling so far behind with my second..? I feel like im failing himn😭

My daughter is 3 and my son is almost 8 months. With my daughter I was on top of everything, she hit her milestones, sometimes early. But with my son I feel like im falling behind... I didn't regularly start giving him purees until 7m because It didn't click how much time had passed.. Like I blinked and I missed my que. Hes also not sitting up by himself yet and the doctor said she isn't super concerned but if he can't by his 9m check up then hell need to do physical therapy... I just feel like time is moving incredibly fast and I can't keep up, I'm falling behind..

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Silent for a week and comes back asking for money

Ok see now I’m irritated and he’s got me all the way messed up. So the last time I fully had a conversation with my so called boyfriend and the father of my child was on the 11th of this month. He comes back today asking me for $7, normally I would give it to him but this time after you ignored me for a week and I’m pregnant with your child and you have the nerve to ask me for money is crazy.
I can understand if there’s some personal stuff he’s working on but he still has no right to ignore his so called partner and mother of his child for a week and then come back like everything’s normal.
I texted him back and said before I give it to you, you need to tell me where you’ve been. He hasn’t responded yet but when he does oh he’s gonna here it from me and if I don’t get a reasonable explanation, I’m ending it right then and there and just co parenting because I’ll be damned if I take back someone who acts like this when things get tough

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Insane MIL hacks?!?

My 6m old just got his shots today… he has painful knots on his legs, and was kind of inconsolable. My husband and I worked as a team to settle him down. While getting his medicine (motrin) and a cold wash cloth with ice in it to massage the knots. Please tell me why she comes to my husband and I with tylenol lidocaine and tells me to put it on his knots?!?! UHM?!! We told her no, he’s too young plus he has sensitive skin. We got this. She kept trying to push back on it, then sits it on the counter and says when what we do doesn’t work, then it’s there to use. Then continue to say she wouldn’t do anything to hurt baby boy. Then when she heard him crying from the compress, she says “seems like it’s not working.” We ignored her but it aggravated the soul out of me…

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