How do I change my mind set when it comes to shopping
I am in IVA,I work but I m behind on rent so I don't have any spare money,everything goes on my daughter and bills and food.I m single mum,I don't have any acces to credit,I just want to buy some new clothes,or book a trip away,I hate it so much that I can't buy anything I want,I barely have money for bills and food and some entertain for my daughter.I m so sick of it
Struggling with newborn and toddler
Some days are good and I feel like we're on top of things but then there's days like today when I just want to pull my hair out!
My baby is 2 weeks old, my toddler is nearly 3. Honestly I feel like I need to be in like 5 places at once all the time. My husband is amazing and we're working great as a team but even still it feels so overwhelming.
My toddler needs help with most things, and he always wants me. If his dad tries to help him then he just starts crying and tantruming. He'll accidentally wake the baby up and she'll start crying and my husband and I will often just find ourselves looking at each other, both holding a screaming child, like what on Earth have we got ourselves into.
Baby's sleep is obviously all over the place, and neither of us can get any time to catch up and nap because one of us always has to be with our toddler, and he's so demanding at tye kinute. Constantly wants snacks, cannot play independently, constantly wants something put on the tele, or a new toy set up, a book read 100x, of he'll want to go out the back garden, or for a walk or to the park. It is just relentless. Adding a newborn to the mix who is sleeping in short bursts, cluster feeding, impossible to burp, its just so stressful.
And I can't even get time to wind down in the evening once toddler is asleep because I feel like I NEED to sleep as soon as newborn goes down to bed too or it's a waste of sleep.
My husband and I took our newborn in shifts at night for the first week and it meant we both got a good stretch of uninterrupted sleep and we're debating doing that again, but it just means we don't get to relax together at all and it's quite overwhelming.
Husband is a jerk
Tell me if this is ridiculous.
We took our son to the park this morning because I wanted to get out of the house. My husband is always starting at his computer, he woke up late (it’s a Saturday), I made breakfast, got my son up, changed his diaper, cleaned the kitchen.
We made plans with my sister in law to meet up an hour away to get our kids together. After we get home from the park, we have 25 minutes until we need to leave. I’m packing snacks, feeding our toddler, trying to get everything ready to go while my husband sits on his computer and makes himself a smoothie. I have to tell him to let his dog out and to pack the diaper bag. Mind you, I told him I needed to get my makeup on and pack up my lunch.
He doesn’t care he goes to the bathroom and gets himself ready.
I’m pissed. I’m tired of delegating and mothering. I said we just wouldn’t go. And he says he’s just going to go without me even though I’m the one who wants to get out and see people, packs things up and gets everyone ready.
Am I the asshole or is he?
Married single mom 💔
Hello all, im a SAHM to twin boys, I have a husband but feels like i dont.. idk what do anymore, hes a nurse, works at night i dont bother him when he sleeps for 12hrs+ i know he needs rest but when hes off and his sleep pattern is back he doesn't help me at home, he moves from the bed to the couch when hes home and when I ask for help he says how tired he is and gets defensive and tells me how " my attitude is ruining our marriage" and tells me how we need to play our parts like its the 1800s, mind you he stayed out late the other night until 1am with friends...he has energy for that, i have 0 help, even bring the boys with bags in the house, i clean, i cook, i do laundry just everything! he is just financial help, and i say just because i will be working at some point as well then i will feel like whats the point of staying in the marriage when i do everything, he told me the other day how he wishes we can switch parts and how good i have it and just stay at home with the boys.. its heartbreaking that he cant see the truth💔 im so overwhelmed I cry all the time sometimes I feel like this life isn't meant for me, idk how great of a job im doing being a mom, I feel like going to my doctor to put me on meds because I have so much anxiety ill hyperventilate, im constantly overwhelmed idk what to do i have no support I feel so alone..
Conflict with my partner
My 2 boys thought it would be a good idea to poo on our balcony this afternoon and then ride through it everywhere, spreading it everywhere.
When I spoke to my husband and was telling him about it (he is away for work) in the middle of telling him, he asked “well, did you clean it up”? To which I snapped and said no I left human poo all over the balcony.
Bit of back story, I am 13 weeks pregnant and have been struggling with extreme fatigue and struggle most days all day.
He got upset at me snapping at him which I apologised, but when I explained how a question like that made me feel (pretty useless, and how disgusting I must be not to have clean it up) he said he didn’t do anything wrong, he didn’t care how I felt and wasn’t going to apologise and that was that. He also said that he asked because he would understand if I didn’t clean it up because he knows how much I’ve been struggling with the pregnancy lately.
Am I in the wrong for being upset at what he asked?
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