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Need advice!!

Posting as incognito as I don’t want to feel judged! I’ve tried getting hold of my health visitor but she never answers the phone.

My little boy is 13 weeks old and is breast fed, he won’t take to dummies or anything like that.

Since around maybe 11 weeks he has point blank refused to sleep in his next to me (he’s not been too much of a fan sleeping by himself in his own bed since birth but would sleep in there for a good 5 hours) at night time so for 2 weeks I’ve only been able to get him to sleep in bed next to me on the boob, now he also has not been able to sleep without boob in his mouth and if I move an inch or even go for a wee he kicks off immediately (he just wants to be on my boob throughout the whole night) nothing myself or my partner has tried has worked, I’ve tried pumping and giving him a bottle before bed but that made everything 10x worse to the point he refused to sleep for 4 hours. I’ve even tried leaving the room so my partner can try patting him off/ cuddling him but my boy screams to the top of his lungs until I come back and then he’s fine. He also sleeps absolutely fine during his naps too with the occasional fighting his nap time.

He’s had a sleep regression at 12 weeks and is now out of that sleep regression and is also teething but I just genuinely don’t understand why he’s is like this now! I honestly feel like a prisoner in/ tied down to my own bed at night and I’m also starting to dread bed time as I’m not getting a full nights sleep from where he’s stirring looking for my boob constantly/ looking to make sure I’m still there and where my body won’t let me be in a deep sleep where he’s sleeping next to me.

It’s genuinely getting to the point where I’m feeling down and emotional all the time and where I’m not sleeping properly I’m a lot more snappy with my partner/ others than usual.

4 months

Is 4 months supposed to be the hardest age? In terms of fussiness and sleep? 😴 😢

Swaddling??

Just curious, who all swaddles their babies and if so why or why not?
Me and my partner don't we never have and honestly think our LO hates being restricted anyway!😆

Naps during the day

Hi!
My 8 week old only really likes contact naps during the day at the minute. When I can put her down she won’t go in her moses basket so is sleeping in a pregnancy pillow. Where does everyone else’s little ones sleep during the day please? I know they are meant to be flat but she will no longer go down in her moses!

Baby fighting sleep

Our baby girl is just over 4 weeks old and we are really struggling with her fighting her sleep during the day then she gets over tired and screams the house down. I start trying to get her back to sleep almost straight after a bottle so within 35 mins of waking up but she will still be awake hours later, or she goes to sleep but then wakes up 5 minutes later. Is it something I’m doing wrong, her screaming upsets me because she is inconsolable!

So we are moving

So my husband and I are moving from an 3 bedroom 1 &1/2 bath apartment to a 5 bedroom 1bath house.
Well there is 3 bedrooms upstairs and 2 bedrooms down stairs with 1 bathroom. The house is kinda small. We have to cool with window units and heat by gas but the upstairs doesn’t have a heat source I have 2 boys and 2 girls this house would give them their own rooms but my husband is so negative. He wants them sharing rooms. But yet I’m home 24/7 with the kids he works night shift and I feel like I don’t get a say.

Also I want to get rid of my daughter’s bunk bed and get them separate beds and he doesn’t want to do that.

We are currently in our 3 bed and my kids are all in separate rooms. My youngest is in our bed my oldest daughter is in her bed and my boys are separated ones in their room the other is in the living room.

My kids are ages 9,8,7,5 I feel like my boys need their own room my daughters need to be separated also they fight constantly

Am I in the wrong for being upset

Struggling with sleep

My little one is a year old. He has never slept through the night. He wakes for a comfort feed 3-4 time and cry’s out in pain if he has wind. Has anyone else had this and overcome it?

Resisting sleep

My 5mo has started to resist sleep again. Yes i’ve tried putting him sleep earlier, also later and exactly when i see his first tired signs.

He will blow raspberries, talk, whine, yell and then shout if i put his head down onto my shoulder to make him sleep.
If i put him down he shouts.
The only way i can put him to sleep recently is physically forcing his head down onto my shoulder/chest and bouncing regardless if he resists and yells. Because after a 2-5minutes he falls asleep. Why does he resists putting his head down???
Please don’t tell me about putting him down awake but drowsy and all of that, he will not sleep like that.

Is this just a phase or wtf is happening? I’m losing my marbles and i’m physically and mentally so fucking tired doing this every nap and bed time.

He has already gone through his 4month sleep regression.

Son waking up too early

Any help would be really appreciated. My son wakes up around 6-6:30am every morning. He naps around 11/12 for a few hours. Bedtime is generally around 7/7:30pm. How do I get him to wake up a bit later? It’s really exhausting me with the 6am wake ups

Fighting naps

My baby just turned 3 months and she just started fighting naps again😭 is anyone going through the same thing?
I can’t keep rocking her, my back hurts from having to stand up and rock her every single time, and now she’s resisting that too! . Am also trying to get rid of this habit! 🤦🏻‍♀️

Not sleeping during the day

Does anyone else’s baby not really sleep much during the day? The only way he’ll sleep is on me, which is great, but I also have a 3 year old who needs me too. Every time I put the baby down, he wakes straight up but then becomes really overtired!

Losing the will.

I’m losing the will to live. Toddler used to go nap at 2-3:30 and went to bed at 8/8:30 all fine. After potty training, she would refuse to go sleep by that time so I have started putting her to nap at 1-2:30 and it’s still a struggle for her to fall asleep at bedtime what am I doing wrong. I have tried to get to have a nap earlier but she won’t. Also I’m 13 weeks pregnant and she still feeds to sleep that’s all she has known. Could it be that my milk is not enough anymore and she’s struggling to sleep because she doesn’t know another way of falling asleep

Concerned

My baby just turned a month and she woke up from a nap today with her right eye just covered in eye mucus. Is there anything I can give her or anything I can do to help her?

Help

My 10 week old is still waking up every 2 hours because of wind. I’m struggling and don’t know what to do. Tried 3 different formulas.. bottles, all the stuff to do at home bike legs, holding upright etc etc. I’m so tired and I’m so sad and I don’t know what else we can do.

Stopping feeding to sleep

Has anyone successfully moved from feeding to sleep at bedtime (ideally bottle feeding rather than breast) and have any tips? Currently on day 3 and it’s taken nearly an hour most nights, which have ended up with us rocking her to sleep. Not sure whether to persevere or go back to feeding to sleep and tackle again when she is 1!

Any help appreciated, my eldest had no issues self soothing so this is a minefield for me!

Help - sleep

My little one has been going through a sleep regression since 3.5 months. Before that she’d wake up 2-3 times max. For 2 months now she’s been waking up every 1-2 hours and everytime she wants to suckle to sleep then be put back in the cot. I’m exhausted. I don’t know what to do :( I don’t want to co sleep as I am always worried about her and don’t sleep properly

Naps

Is it ok for baby to have two naps on nursery day and one nap on non nursery days ?

My 13m old just started nursery last week. We were also transitioning him to 1 nap at the same time but we noticed that when he has a nap at nursery he tends to need another late nap to get him to bedtime as nursery naps can be short. Is it ok for him to have one nap on some days and two on nursery days. Worried it might mess us his routine too much

Baby won’t sleep after 3am feed

My baby is 11 weeks old. He sleeps quite well initially from 9pm to 3am. After he wakes up for a feed I can get him back to sleep but without fail he wakes up 30 minutes later grunting and wriggling. He does this so much he wakes himself up. I’m struggling with my days starting at 3am. Any advice on how to deal with this?

Weening/ sleep training

My 17m son is still nursing to sleep (naps and bedtime). I’m thinking of trying to switch that up next week, at nap time. But I’m questioning, is it too much to ween him off the boob AND try and have him fall asleep on his own in his crib or is it actually better that way?
Also any and all tips I’m here for

Struggling to settle newborn for day naps

Hello!

My newborn is 4 weeks old tomorrow. She’s healthy and growing well, but we’re really struggling to settle her down consistently for day naps. She went down well this morning in the sling after a 1 hour wake window but for 3 hours since she woke up we’ve only managed 3 micronaps. Once she woke up crying and fed, she woke up a couple of times with spit up. Oddly she’s calm and doesn’t cry very much during these wake periods.

I feel so sorry for her as I feel she’s often over tired. There have been days she’s slept well but past few days have been so inconsistent.

Any advice or similar experiences?

Thank you!