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Nope not crazy. If y’all can’t work it out keep doing what you’re doing.
Not wrong.
You're not crazy. I mostly get along with my ex but when my oldest was little I lost so many of his nice clothes going to his dad's. And also my mom's lol. So I started buying a lot at garage sales and second hand. And then made sure he didn't take anything nice anywhere else because I might never see it again 😅
My sister has a specific outfit she sends her kid with. My niece knows to go change to leave with her dad. She’s also a thrifter so it’s nothing expensive. It’s just keeps her stuff at her house and forces him to be responsible on his time and provide clothes.
@Hayley he seems like a nightmare to deal with. But you should do what @Salina said and have a cheap outfit that you designate as her “go to dads” outfit and keep the good clothes that you bought at your house
Yes, I am in the same boat with my bd. I have a 5 month, and I take pictures of the outfit before she leaves to watch for pictures on Facebook to also see if there's a difference between when she left my care and when I would pick her up.
@Salina I have been buying second hand clothes but he never send her back in them so I am having to buy more and more and when I ask for them back he says no because he “doesn’t have enough”. He literally has more clothes than me and he has her for 2 and half days a week 😂
I too have the same issue. What more can be done in this situation to ensure we get our kids clothes back? Cause these guys don’t listen.
Send her back in the same outfit he sends her back in
@Regina I think she says he refuses to leave enless she gives it back to him
You’re absolutely not wrong! And that’s why I love it here on this app is because there’s so many moms that go through what I’m going through❤️ I agree on the secondhand clothes I participate in a program that’s going to help me with my daughter until she’s two years old and I get five outfits a month and it could be jackets, shirts, anything so basically I keep a handful of outfits separate from her regular clothes so when he picks her up, she can have something like that on not to be bitter, but just because I spend good money on clothes for her to wear in my household and he only has Wednesday nights and every other weekend. He doesn’t actually financially provide for her either💯 I get her back filthy with missing pieces of clothes, socks, and T-shirts, and those things I need! I’m just glad I got secondhand that she still has what she needs when she goes over to his house and I’m not losing
He’s pathetic
Second time I hear about this and I thought my friend was the only one and I never judged her because he didn’t work so pettiness was only fair. he figured out how to provide for the kids on his part lol. Although no, I won’t raise my kids to think their stuff is not theirs and belongs to mom and dad. They will wear their clothes regardless. He should let you know,.. “hey, I didn’t wash the clothes she came in with” he should return them every visit when done. Regardless.. no excuses needed. If he washes the clothes she came in with, that’s an extra effort and it’s good, nothing wrong with impressing you with how an amazing dad he can be but not use that to talk to you like that either. Everyone loves an extra effort! He doesn’t even have to do it, he should return what you want to stay in your home. Anyways, I wasn’t raised in that situation.. I kept all my clothes not my parents and when I grew out of them.. my cousins had my handidowns
@Anonymous he doesn’t even wash them, he drops them off at his mother’s house for her to clean. And he has plenty of other clothes that I’ve not had returned he could have brought her home in. Not her school uniform that he demands back there and then 😂. I’ve told him to bring her back in clothes that aren’t uniform. Failing that, he can have the uniform “he paid for” when he brings an outfit to swap it with. The only reason he’s talking about the dirty outfit is because I mentioned I had send her in clothes and she returned in none.
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@Makayla I usually buy a bundle of clothes from eBay to send her in but then that never comes back or ironically if it’s from a certain place that I don’t usually buy from he’ll try tell me he wants it back because his mother “bought it” 😂 he doesn’t provide financial either.
@Regina I’m not able too. It usually school uniform that he makes me strip off her so he can have it back because “he paid for it”.
@Hayley these men aren’t shit! My best friend makes a joke at this point. I basically tells everyone that she’s the baby daddy because she provides for her niece more than he does because he picks and chooses to fight over stupid shit like that.💀 I’m convinced at this point that man doesn’t even own T-shirts for the baby because every time he drops her off she only has a zip up sleeper and nothing on underneath😅 he doesn’t even know where to buy sippy pieces for the bottles, but Claims doesn’t need my help and tell me I’m a bad mother, but always tries to ask me for something🤷🏽♀️ knowing damn well shit, right you need to spend time with your daughter every week🤦🏽♀️ It just sucks that we’re asking for the bare minimum and they choose to be bitter and petty about stupid shit😒
That’s probably his real excuse not to return them not because “they still in the wash”. If he cannot return what belongs in your home.. then.. you don’t return what stays in his. And If he still doesn’t return.. then… idk what goes after that because this situation is different than most. It’s already petty enough there’s nothing pettier than that. The issue is him that’s for sure. Because you just asking for a simple request. I ran out of helpful advice. This is still such a unique situation. I’m not qualified to answer further just what would be common sense
Yall should be working together no giving each other a hard time . Single parenting is already difficult
@Anon he has a cupboard full of clothes that I’ve bought. He has plenty of clothes he could have put her in. It isn’t a real excuse, it’s a I cba getting her changed.
@Stephanie Louis-Juste is happily working together with him but I cannot afford to keep up with his habit.
No you’re not toxic he’s being a jerk.