Monster in law

Mother inlaw thinks she will take my child every Sunday from 10-2. She is literally insane and I have seen what she does to the other grandchild /my nephew & she smacks him in the back of the head I just don't trust her to watch my child without my supervision. My son also was born at 23 weeks and he had a grade 4 brain bleed when he was first born and he has a clot in his brain from stopping it & I'm worried she will smack him in the back of the head like she does to the other grandchild and my son is only 4 years old. I worry he wouldn't be able to tell me if she does something like that & my son is also Autistic. He has bad meltdowns & she isn't a patient person, so she gets frustrated to easily. The thing is we already visit her once a week as it is. & she is lucky we do cause it isn't a proitiy to visit her once a week. & now she wants to have him alone for 1 day week without me. I just don't feel comfortable with it. & so what she can play mom while I'm gone. I think she just wants to be able to control my son. What do you think? Need advice.

Show your support

You’re his mom, just say no. Tell your husband how you feel, It’s a valid concern. Tell her you’re only okay w supervised visits w everyone in the family so she won’t have any questions.

Why are you even entertaining this ? Is your husband pushing for it?

@Lisa husband is pushing it obviously & I'm not entertaining. If you knew her, you would understand how she can guilt trip you to feeling bad and to do anything she wants. She literally cries when I say no & then I look like the bad guy in the house because now I got his mother crying

Be an advocate for your child if no one else will. As a mom of an autistic child you have to think a lot more clear without emotion bc it involves your child. If you feel like your child’s surroundings aren’t in his best interest then don’t take him there.

Yeah no. I'd be like " what do you wanna do with my son that I can't be present for?"

@Lexi why didn't I think of that? thank you so much. I will be bringing that up later when I talk to her

@Erika yes for sure & my son would not be okay being there by himself because he is very close to me & he would wonder why I left him there and I have never done that before

Some times you just have to be brutally honest to some people I would just straight up tell her I don’t trust you to be alone with my son I see what you do to the other grandkids so therefore he won’t be staying over your house or visiting you without my supervision and if she gets mad then oh well you have to protect your kids at all cost

Hell no, what If something happened

Take it one week at a time. Tell them no this Sunday isn't good for us. Repeated every time until they stop asking.

Lisa’s point was to shut it down now and not continue to talk about it. Don’t let her! My mil let my 4month old daughter cry for 4hrs straight cause she didn’t want to call us to come get her… she hasn’t had a day alone with her since then.. it’s gonna start a fight between my husband and I when I really say why she can’t have her and she tried telling us on my daughter 1st she was just gonna take her for the night without asking and told us we could get her the next day and both were like ask.. and she was like “I’m not asking, I’m telling you” we told her it was kidnapping and peace out. I just recently blocked my mil on my socials lol

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