Advice on leaving baby

@Elizabeth I wanna trust him it’s just difficult because every time I ask him to do anything for baby when I’m here there’s always an excuse as to why he can’t and he doesn’t have the most patience and doesn’t seem to click when baby is tired or hungry etc

@Elizabeth I agree with your statement, leave behind notes for him and instructions/tips, like guides for him so he can learn about what his baby like and dislikes because regardless your gunna have to go back to work eventually, babies and life is just too expensive, And he needs to know how to take care of his kid too because in reality it is his kid too, Meaning he’s gunna have to grow up so just be his teacher along the way 🤍

It’s a one off shift for now through a friend which is offering a decent amount of money that I can’t really say no to as it would only be work now and then but well worth the hours and if I say no he’s unlikely to keep offering it to me😕 I’m thinking I might do fridge method for the bottles etc and get clothes and nappies etc easily accessible so he doesn’t struggle to find anything he needs. I’m desperate for him to be more involved in looking after him so I can have time to work or even have a shower on my own more often…. Normally he moans if he try and keep telling him how to do it all but when he’s never done it it’s hard not to micromanage and worry😅

I completely get that and honestly, I’m scared to let my partner watch our baby on his own, but sometimes we just have to give them that room to grow and learn and so he has a relationship with his kid besides, having just a little bit more time to ourselves would help so incredibly much

@Nicole I’m actually relieved someone else is the same 😅 I’m hoping if he has baby he will be slightly more understanding when I ask him to have baby for 10 minutes so I can shower or have a minute to myself. Just nervous it’s gonna go horribly wrong and I won’t be able to just come in and help. But I’m also hoping that because he hasn’t got me to just pass baby to it will give him chance to bond and realise he can do it on his own. Just would be nice for him to give me reassurance or even say he will keep me updated but he doesn’t see the point in reassuring me which has made it so much worse 😕

Well I can assure your doing great, try to worry less, I know that’s easier said than done But please try to worry less Anytime you wanna talk come to me, we’ll talk, I’ll tell you my opinions on things but definitely talk to him about reassurance and communication and try to come to an understanding

I agree with that you should trust him more and have him more involved, it’s gonna strengthen their connection. Man love what they invest into (time, energy, $, etc.). But leaving them for 12 hours straight unprepared.. idk.. you decide if it’s worth it. Baby may really be stressed and want mama. Honestly, how you describe your baby dad sounds just like my ex who’s a narcissist. Idk if this helps, sorry. Mine played with my daughter 2hours max and then had a mental breakdown lol.

Unless he’s given you reason to believe he isn’t safe, you just need to trust him. I understand you saying he’s not done much but when it’s just him he’ll have to. It might do him the world of good to have that one on one time. He’s dad, he has to do it eventually so I’d just get to done now. I think finding someone else instead would be telling Dad that you don’t trust him and cause even more problems.