My MIL had skin to skin with my newborn

Id be upset…weird behaviour

I would be absolutely livid not only is that weird behavior but that is soo out of line and inappropriate. That is not normal and I would definitely say something to her and your man

I personally think it’s a bit weird… What’s next.. offering her nipple for baby to suckle on? I dunno, I feel like I would feel differently about it if it was my own mum compared with my MIL.

W.T.F. I would lose it. That's gross. Skin to skin is for mom and dad. What is it with MILs thinking they get to "play mommy" . You should show your partner our responses if he doesn't support you. MIL behavior is not normal and it needs to be addressed.

Naw that’s weird. Skin to skin is for the parents. Not grandparents. I’d be mad if my own mom did that. Only time I’d say it would be appropriate is if the baby was literally freezing and needed the body temp regulation but that doesn’t sound like that here. Wtf that creepy.

That’s weird

I would also say it’s weird. I am obviously biased towards my mom and it would even be a what the hell with my mom. Let alone my MIL, idk it’s odd for sure

In what way? What was the set up?

Definitely NOT normal at all.

Wtf! Did she just take her too off?? This is not okay

Yeah no skin to skin is a mother and father thing that’s to intimate to be and grandmother thing, I’d be pissed if my own mom did that as all the other women are saying, that would make my stomach drop I would talk to my partner about it but he may or may not see your side bc men are clueless and don’t see how much skin to skin effects newborns either way I’d send a message to her and let her know that’s a hard boundary for you and you never want it to happen again….

Ummmmm that is weird as FUCK. I would have screamed my head off at her.

Like no top at all??? I feel like that’s literally sexual assault. I would never hold someone else’s baby on my bare chest??

@Caroline no seriously she’d never see my kid again what the actual fuck

I wouldn’t freak out but maybe mention it to your spouse that that’s not what you guys want? Maybe the baby wasn’t settling and she thought that would work? Idk. It wouldn’t be my first resort lol

I’m glad I wasn’t over reacting. I spoke to my partner and he’s going to speak to his mom and see wtf happened, he ain’t happy about it either. She had a buttoned shirt on & undid the buttons & held him against her 😵‍💫

Eww... was my first reaction. Why on earth would she needs to be having skin to skin with your baby? Just ewww..... I don't know.. it just ewws me ... I'm sorry hon. I would not have patient to wait to speak to my partner if it was me.

Still odd. Like I feel like my mom would try to do this and I would be iffy about that as well. MIL just need to learn their place. Like I’m sorry you had a son, but I am not as comfortable with you as I am my mom. Just like it’s okay for my mom to be in the room but I wouldn’t want his mom in there type thing.

That is unacceptable behaviour, I'd be absolutely fuming and wouldn't let her near again wow shocking 😑

Depends on the culture. In my culture it’s fine.

Nope absolutely not! I would have absolutely lost my shit!! That is so unbelievably weird

So weird

Weird as hell!!!! Wtf!!

It's weird. I wouldn't be comfortable with that.

My daughter was in the NICU and skin to skin contact with ANYONE is actually very beneficial. I had my whole family do it that would visit us because #1 it helps regulate body temperature #2 hearing someone else’s heartbeat helps regulate theirs #3 helps regulate blood pressure #4 helps soothe baby to sleep or keep the baby at peace. I understand if your uncomfortable with it and if you don’t want her to do it I recommend setting up boundaries with her and explaining how it makes her feel and possibly hear out her reasons to why she did it because from my perspective it seems she was trying to be helpful.

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I think different people see these things very differently. Maybe she just always did that to calm her children down and so she just didn’t even think about it. Maybe she read an article about the benefits of skin to skin or is just a bit of a hippie at heart. I myself kind of feel she should have asked if you were ok with it first, but it probably comes from a good place, even if it really isn’t something you want. And in that case she will of course need to respect that.

@Kelsie but that doesn’t mean you go behind someone back and do it while they aren’t around. Nor ask about it. Zero reason to hear someone out about something that made you uncomfortable.

@Caitlin I said possibly… never that she had to but if she wanted to she could. I don’t know why women on here just wanna argue in the comments

That is mother and father only! Very weird, just remind her she's not mum she's nanny...

We had the conversation last night. She said she did it because she wanted a grandma bond with him and with it being my first baby & her first grandchild she did not think I’d mind so didn’t ask. We have set clear boundaries of what we expect. I’m in two minds whether I want her to see him anytime soon. She’s starting to call him her little man (this is what I call my son) and it just irks me. I’m not sure if it’s the PPD but she’s just rubbing me the wrong way since he’s been born

She doesn’t need skin on skin for a grandma bond it sounds like she is totally overstepping her place I’m glad you have had the chat

Good job setting boundaries ❤️

No no and no just no..

Skin to skin is for parents imo. Not anyone else. That is an intimate bond. I also hate when people call my children “my baby” rubs me the wrong way. You need to have a conversation with your husband about anything that bothers you so he knows the boundaries too.

No it’s absolutely foul for her to even think of doing it let alone actually doing it.

Like I would have absolutely flipped my lid if I walked into that