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Not bonding?
Since my baby was born I’ve had moments where I just don’t feel connected or like I’m bonding well with him and I’m not sure what to do. There are times where I love him more than anything but times where I don’t really feel anything towards him. I’m trying to just push through in the hopes it will improve as I’m only 17days pp but I’m just struggling with feeling like we aren’t connecting as we should be, how normal is this? I’ve got a history with poor mental health so I know my risk of PND is higher and I’ve noticed some of my BPD symptoms getting more regular and noticeable but I don’t know if that’s just cause I’m overwhelmed by my situation (my pregnancy has been far from easy and situations are still ongoing causing stress). I just look down at my little boy sometimes and don’t feel anything
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@Jadie that’s exactly what I feel like. It’s like I’ve just been given a baby to look after and while I get waves of love sometimes I just feel nothing and I’m in autopilot
Also the lack of sleep at this stage doesn’t help, maybe when baby gets abit older and has better sleeping patterns and yourself, you’ll definitely feel better! My girl is now 16months and I still to this day think the newborn stage was the hardest and ithink that’s because of the way I was feeling at the time but trust me it gets better!x
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I had this too from the moment she was born I felt nothing although I was still being a mum to her and giving her everything she needed, I felt no connection atall like I was just “given a baby to look after” , i went to the GP I was diagnosed with postpartum depression, I didn’t feel that “love” untill she was 6months old when she could smile and laugh at me ect, it’s so common to feel this way don’t beat yourself up about it, it may be a long time but youl definitely get there as we all do! Maybe speak with your GP for now and see what they suggest x