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After the first six months, I'd say my husband and I got closer. At first it's hard because you can try to prepare for how to handle everything before baby is born but no amount of preparing actually prepares you for the reality of taking care of a baby together. After about six months, I feel like we got back in sync and got to start enjoying being a family
My husband and I have always had a good relationship. We had some disagreements and tense moments after baby was born but that was just sleep deprivation and adjusting to this new life. Communication, honesty and learning to let some things go is important.
I will say having a child taught us a lot about ourselves and did bring up closer together! During the newborn time it's hard but we had to remember to still prioritize our relationship but also prioritize our individualism it's very easy to grow apart and get lost in the world of being new parents but it's very possible to make it through the hardships of being new parents
I know this is taboo to say but having a baby saved my marriage. It made us appreciate each other and mature way quicker. I married super young I'm 24 and we got married at 20. We still have that independent I don't need you mindset. When we had the baby we realized just how MUCH we needed each other. It's all about what you value most, for us it was our family. If both parties aren't putting that first tho I can't imagine it would go well.
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I honestly have to say for me, it did !!! We were long distance all the way up until baby was born.... I had a bad marriage beforehand with 2 kids already..... He showed me what a real man does and I have been in awe with him every since .... We've had maybe 2 disagreements since living together... not arguments just disagreement.... Nothing compared to my husband before..... I absolutely adore this man I'm with now ... he did middle of the night changes, feeds the baby, let's me shower and read, he cooks and cleans... Just overall great man
@Faith I love that because I tell my bf all the time I don’t want to go in an bad phase like that I want us to be happy and healthy
@Emily just remember that there may be a bad day but that doesn't mean it needs to be a bad night. When you're angry or feeling frustrated step into your partners shoes and think how is he seeing this, it's hard but humbling and can really help. You'll make it through and come out stronger on the other side!!
100%, I didn't think we could get closer or feel more for each other than we did but it changes you as soon as you give birth. It depends on your relationship I suppose, we've always had a healthy dynamic and we're really similar in our way of thinking. I think it helps that we were friends for a while before we got together
My fiance and I have always had a solid relationship but having a child definitely brought us closer the first few weeks are rough because neither one of you are sleeping and your trying to navigate baby and learn the baby cries but I gets easier if you two works as a team the tough moments don’t stay tough for long and at the end of the day you made something so precious together and that bonds you for life
Tbh my relationship hasn’t changed haha we don’t argue or anything it’s just perfect in my eyes
The first year is hard! We don’t get to spend much time together much less alone. When we take breaks we hand off the kid to one another so the other can take a rest. It’s not that it’s all negative, there’s a lot of growth happening within our relationship and we love and support eachother the best we can right now. But having a kiddo with no family nearby can most def take a toll. Luckily we’ve been together forever and just realize we are navigating our new life, our new “us”. We are closer in a sense of partnership. I couldn’t do this without him and he couldn’t do this without me. There’s a lot of companionship - it’s just a very diff version.
Yes I feel so incredibly in love seeing my husband be such a good dad, we have our struggles but there's so much love too
It's hard at first- but it gets better and if u make time for each other individually and together then it’ll all work out. Never stop dating just because your parents whether it’s one kid or 18 kids always make one on one time
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We’ve had ups and downs, but overall it’s made us a better team because we really have to communicate, more so than before!
With my exhusband no. But is because we are very different, we don’t agree in a lot of things. But with my husband and my second pregnancy we learned how to be better working around each other and help each other. Is not that we didn’t know how to but with two kids it can be difficult sometimes.
It's hard not necessarily negative. You have to learn how to be yourselves as parents whilst also remembering that you are yourselves in a marriage/relationship too that you don't have much time for. There are petty squabbles cos you are both shattered in the early days but it improves over time.
There was definitely an impact at first, but after the first year or so we got SO much better.
@Faith thank you
I cant say it strengthened in rhe first year after having any of our 3 kids, but we have made it to 13 years together. We keep communication open, we go on dates as time allows us, we spend time together, and we keep arguments from being too heated.