WHY WONT YOU TELL ME WHAT YOU FRIKIN BUY
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Uh yeah. I would have a respectful conversation with her and have your husband present so she knows you’re both on the same page
Oh I could’ve written this myself 😂 my MIL bought my husband and I a used bassinet at a garage sale and then got soooo upset when we told her we had already planned on purchasing a bedside bassinet…. She also bought my baby clothes (before she was born) in 6 month and 9 month… baby is currently 3 months and my MIL asked “why hasn’t she worn my clothes yet?!” Like… girl they don’t even fit yet. 😭🫠 I haven’t spoken up to her yet but at some point I’ll have to 😅
Oh god, sounds like my MIL and SIL. They both took over my daughter’s first birthday party decorations and food. Nothing I got was good enough. SIL got her a trike that she was too small for and her first pair of earrings (even though she doesn’t have her ears pierced and don’t until she’s older). I’m constantly feeling overtaken by them acting like they are superior. I started planning her 2nd birthday and her younger sisters 1st birthday way back in December and their birthdays are in June and July so there’s no way they can make me feel so shit this year.
My mom always talks to me about what she’s trying to buy for my kids before she buys it , it’s out of courtesy and makes plain sense because what if we already have enough of that item or we were going to buy it , your MIL needs to understand how it’s very conflicting to not communicate with yall regarding buying stuff for your baby. I would start by saying thank you for everything but just let me know before you see something you want to get for the baby because his size is always changing and we shop for him often, I like to order his bday stuff a couple months ahead etc something like that so she basically knows she’s waiting her money and time not talking to you before she gets something
Also , maybe get a box and put all that ish in there and give it back and be like oh thanks but we really didn’t need it , it’ll teach her to keep her receipts
Thanks all! Im due my second in September (2 under 18 months 🫠) I am thinking after my sons birthday, next time we go round, I might tell her our plans for Christmas presents etc so at least I know I told them and so does my partner and he can back me up if they get them something we told them we was going to buy. I wouldn't mind too much what they buy if they didnt buy everything second hand, or online at cheap stores or things that just looks horrible (they wanted to buy the bedside cot and bottles of Ali Express or Temu 😭)
Haha yeah it’s a struggle I would tell her if she wants to use her decorations or things that she could use then she needs to tell you before she buys so you can say yes or no.