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Me and my partner met last year and I fell pregnant super quick in July. Was not planned obviously. We stuck it out and got to know each other. But in January I found out he was in a relationship with another woman until November (When we moved in together) I should probably add that this relationship was a phone relationship (I know what the hell?) he would have regular phone calls and FaceTimes which lead to phone sex with her. I have found out recently that it was regular phone sex with this woman and whilst we were together. I feel physically sick and this has caused so much upset and arguments between us leading to us both being physically aggressive to each other (baby was not in the house). How do you overcome betrayal? I want to make it work for the sake of my child having a “normal” childhood with both loving mother and father but I’m really really struggling with all of this.

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You should get into therapy. A person who knows about this. And can help u find healthy ways to cope and heal. So you can move forward and trust your partner again. Are you both should try couple threapy.

A mom struggles through so much for her kids, a man don't see the pain a women 💔 go through because they either get s handjob or play alone and gets the attention from someone else. If he has no intimacy with you, he needs to tell you instead of getting it with someone else. It's ok to feel the jealousy but if he has been doing it doe a whole year with out telling you...then he is cheating on you. But then again, men will be men's....they don't learn from their mistakes

When you are betrayed you never really get over it and tbh it will always be there haunting you. We are some what programmed like this and it hurts because you wouldn’t do that to them. Normal childhood - normal is how you make it for your child. Abuse never gets better it just gets worse as time goes on. So one day it might be in front of your child. That has happened first hand myself

@Valerie agree the hurt is something else 💔🥹 That’s the issue he had intimacy with me the whole way through my pregnancy. And now I’m post partum by 5 weeks we have already slept together.

@Zamire I have suggested this to him but he expects me to be over it and stop bringing it up.

@Chan I understand. Thanks x

Yeah . His emotionally abusing u. Look up signs for unhealthy relationships or abusive relationships. And learn about this n if u are. Leave him

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