Theft/stealing

My boyfriend of 2 years is constantly stealing, and I think since he's gotten with me and my daughter he's used it as even more of a chance to steal from retail stores. Idk, I constantly tell him that I don't like doing this, it's bad, I have a daughter that doesn't need to witness that. But it's still, anytime we go hes throwing something in the bag. He's made it to a point where it's "normal" for us.

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Yep I’d be saying something about it, telling on him and letting him reap what he’s sown, as well as have him seeing a psychotherapist (psychiatrists assign medications, psychotherapist would be better fit for him if he’s a klepto). If he doesn’t stop more than likely your daughter will start stealing as well so this is something I’d hop on ASAP either leaving him or telling on him and getting him the help he needs.

Report him anonymously to the police or store manager

Sounds like a kleptomaniac. Can you guys afford what he's stealing or does he do it to just to do it?

If he’s not her dad I’d leave him. If he is I’d seek help for him. He needs professional help. It can become an addiction

@Emma he isn't her dad, I gtg. I made another post talking about his porn problems, he gets super aggressive with me sometimes physical. I wish I could help him, I really do care about him but it's at the point where it's tearing me up. I'm only 20

Sounds like he has a highly addictive personality type. Girl since he ain’t your daughters dad, drop him like a bag of rocks he’s such a bad influence for your daughter and will teach her all kinds of bad habits not to mention you’ll show her what kind of man is “acceptable” for her to date and marry when she gets older. You gotta set the example of not putting up with that crap so she doesn’t when she’s older as well.

It almost seems like he’s using you, your daughter (and her stuff) to justify continuing his habits. That’s not love, he’s just using y’all I’m sorry you’re going through this 😔

@Jessica idk, It's things we do and don't need. We could afford everything If he wouldn't constantly spend money on dumb stuff, like a fish tank. We don't even have a car. He'll go up in there with the diaper bag and steal tons of stuff. I'm like we're gonna get caught and imma loose my daughter...

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