People pushing it

People will try to walk all over you. Good for you for standing your ground, because it’s easy to just let it happen for the sake of keeping the peace which creates so much anxiety for us x

I think I worded that badly, I don’t mean walk all over YOU specifically, I mean new mums in general !! Thought I’d clear it up in case it sounded rude😂 x

@Lara no no it didn’t sound rude at all ☺️ I totally agree and I just think why can’t they just relax, listen and give us our place without us having to be so assertive with them. It just makes things awkward.

You know what though good for you for standing your ground on that! They shouldn’t of put you in that position to have to in the first place but you should pat yourself on the back for speaking up I know so many moms who never do and regret it afterwards

It seemed she was being playful and wanted some one on one time. They can get a little overexcited at times. I think if this were a situation where you felt overwhelmed or overstimulated, you would’ve been happy for their hands. Just not the right time

I get that it’s really annoying when people don’t respect your needs as a Mama but it sounds like SIL was trying to give you a break so you could enjoy your meal. It’s so hard not to take things really sensitively when baba is so small but sometimes you’ve got to assume the most generous intention on the part of people who love you and your family. I bet they thought they were doing you a favour letting you sit down and eat a warm meal for once. I’ve found it a lot easier to deal with overbearing in-laws when I take a few seconds to think what their intentions are, and try to attribute the kindest intentions to their actions. Usually they’re trying to help but doing it in a misguided way.

Like don’t any of these people remember what it’s like to be new parents and feeling protective of your baby? I hated people nagging me telling me I needed a break because I never wanted a break from my little boy (no judgement to those who do, I certainly do these days😂)

@Monét yeah I totally agree. I think it was intended to come from a good place but just not the time or place. I just think of it as like if my 5 year old niece was screaming and my sister in law asked her partner to check on her would I sleep in and say “do not check on her” absolutely not because it’s not my place and understandable that they want to check their upset baby.

@Anke I totally get this. I’m not sure about the really sensitive part because I think it’s reasonable to check on your child. The issue I find with my in laws is that without me being firm they never listen.. so I end up having to literally be like.. enough! Which is so annoying (probably for all involved to be fair 😂).

100% yes. Fortunately I also find it easier to do. I finally went no contact with my narcissist mother so she cannot pull her bs on small one.

Yep, 100% I remember we were at my sils wedding, and my baby was only 1 month old, so I was feeling super anxious and just wanted to keep my baby safe. My mil came over and said "let me take her for a walk" (my baby was in the pram asleep and I was just sat at a table) I said no but she asked again "oh come on" so I agreed but said just go to the end the corridor and back and if she wakes bring her straight back she said yes of course. 15 minutes passed, and I was feeling so anxious, so I went looking for her and found her right at the other end the hotel holding my baby right by her face (it was covid and she new I didn't want my baby close to anyone's face) I felt so upset that she basically completely ignored and disrespected me as a mum.