First time mamas, let's have an open chat: Honestly, how's motherhood treating you so far ?

Thankyou for being so honest. I think i feel similar, it is easily the hardest thing I have ever done, but I would do it every day forever foe my tiny little human, I'm so full of love. I'm really struggling with breast feeding, we've just seen the midwife and she thinks he may have tongue tie so we are being referred for that. I also struggle with the lack of sleep! And feel so guilty about struggling. Im also so anxious about leaving the house, we've only managed it twice so far! (We are on day 13). You're not alone in any of your feelings, and i think they are all completely normal! ❤️

I could have written this myself and I not a first time mum but struggling with my second one. I have support too but the lack of sleep is really affecting me.

Love the honesty! I'm having a super weepy day today and trying to just roll with it and let it all out. Totally feel the whole seeing it through someone else's lenses. Trying to stop and enjoy the moments with her while also trying to get a good amount of sleep and keep up and about is a juggle right now. My biggest thing lately is feeling guilt for my dog. She was (and is) my fur baby and hyper attached to me. She's mostly been amazing with the baby though I just feel like I'm not giving her as much attention as I usually do. It keeps hitting me in waves and trying to remind myself it is probably just hormones.

I have felt the same since having my daughter (she’s 5 weeks old now). This last week especially has really hit me hard. I feel constant anxiety. My brain is working on overdrive with questions like “is she sleeping too much”, “why isn’t she drinking much this bottle”, “how am I going to cope when she starts teething or crawling”. I feel major guilt that I’m not enjoying it as much as I thought I would. I know I love her unconditionally. It’s all just mentally and physically draining and overwhelming. I’m hoping it’s just hormones and this feeling will pass in a few weeks or so.

For me it has been a massive surprise. I didn't want children until couple of years ago when we decided to start trying. Even then, I was convinced I didn't have it in me..the famous gene of motherhood. Never liked babies or even held one. And now..I'm just so in love with her my heart could burst. I couldn't believe how quickly i switched into mother mode. So I'm proud of myself in a way. But yes..I do miss my freedom. I miss having proper grown up conversations, or simply drive hours to go and meet my friends. I'm lucky, my girl is super chilled and I have been going out with no issues but I miss my solo time. I even miss my work and work meetings lol And I'm constantly googling things 🙃...but overall I'm really happy ❤️

i saw a meme that said motherhood is like that scene in Harry Potter and The Prisoner of Azkaban, when Ron is trying to interpret Harry’s tea leaves and he says- “you’re going to suffer but you’re going to be happy about it”. and i couldn’t relate more.

@Shallamay This is brilliant 🤣

I’m finding it really hard. I love my baby but he stresses me out and I miss sleep. I’ve fallen more in love with my husband than I ever thought possible watching him become a dad but I think I’ve decided that our son will be an only child. Postpartum is rough and so was birth. Not sure I could do it again. I think I’ve decided to pour everything I have into our boy. I feel like I’m in the trenches and I don’t know when it’ll get easier. I’m holding out for when it does get a bit easier but knowing that is probably months away makes me anxious. I feel like I’m grieving my life before the baby even though I knew life would be different. I miss sleep, my independence and freedom. I’m looking forward to when my baby sleeps a bit more at night and interacts with us and the world a bit more in the day. Motherhood is harder than anyone can put into words.

@Fizzy know that you’re not alone! My daughter is 5 weeks old and I feel desperate to see her smile to get some visible positive interactions. I’m naive in thinking a full nights sleep is just a few weeks away when in reality it could be months. Please drop me a message if you’d like to chat. I’m in the same boat as you ❤️

Thank you for making this post ❤️ currently on week 6 and find it so overwhelming. We have no family or support so when my husband leaves for work in the morning I feel incredibly anxious. Trying my best every day though and glad I'm not alone with these feelings

@Victoria I'm dreading my partner going back to work! I'm sure you're doing amazing though! I'm happy to message, or to meet up if you're local, I'm in Portsmouth :) xx

@Kelly a fellow Saffa! 😁 Yeah it was the hardest part, luckily my mum was still here but she's gone back now. I'm just taking each day as it comes which is hard too as I'm constantly over thinking. I'm in Southampton, not too far!

Absolutely could have written this myself. I feel constantly anxious and asking myself questions, whenever I consider going out I have to think about how long we'll be out and if he will get fussy or need changing/feeding - he's cluster feeding atm so wants it every 1.5/2hours. My husband and other family have been amazing, I just still feel very alone. I try to get out for a walk at least once a day and find that helps but I just feel so hormonal and exhausted all the time. I love my boy to pieces but absolutely can't wait for it to get a little easier.

@Victoria ah, I'm an imposter! My partner is south afrcian and I was juat supporting Springboks 💚 It's nice that your mum was there for a while at least. I can only imagine, although the days seem to fly by with me getting nothing done and never leaving the house, I also seem to have time to think about everything!! Not far at all! :) xx

You aren’t alone in this! I have mixed feelings all the time and going through something very similar to you. I’m hoping after baby is older it will get easier / more manageable, just trying to be patient and to remember to be kind to ourselves as this is all very new!

I had my baby on 21/04 through an emergency C-section. The baby's leg was already sticking out as he was breeched. Since that day, I have been in one form of pain or the other. I have spent more time in the hospital than I have at home. I have not had the luxury of finding out how I feel about motherhood as I am always in excruciating pain. Every test and check turned out well, no one seems to know where this pain is coming from or how long I am going to live with it. Its totally frustrating. I sure hope it does get easier.