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It does get easier! I was terrified when my partner went back to work after two weeks. Got so emotional that after dropping him at the train station I cried in the car. But after a while and lots of trial and error with the baby it seemed to get more manageable and finding support groups is what helped me a lot. Especially if you’re breastfeeding or pumping. They are golden ladies with so much knowledge to share. Best of luck!
It definitely gets easier as you figure out what works for your baby and get a routine down... but also once you get a good routine they change and you have to keep figuring out a new routine lol. For me with a newborn I wore him sooo much. I wore him while I vacuumed, or cooked, or washed dishes (that one isn't the easiest but I did what I had to do). I just had to find ways to include him to get things done
It does get easier.. I was a single mom for 7 yrs with 2 babies.. u just gotta take a break when you can
Yup my husband went back to work when baby was 3 weeks old it was hard and I cried. A lot. But he came home and was so supportive and just doing everything for baby until he had to go to bed. It was rough but I got into a rhythm and he still comes home and immediately clocks in as dad and takes over.
Thank you all, I needed to hear some positivity this morning 🤍🤍
It's hard, it's the hardest thing I've ever done, but it does get easier. Eventually you find a rhythm and establish a routine. What works for me is I feed my baby on a schedule, so I warm up the bottle while I'm pumping then feed my baby right after, that way I'm never dealing with a fussy baby due to hunger. If sleep is still an issue, I don't know what your partners schedule is like, but if you can still sleep in shifts on their days off that might help. That really helped me when my husband went back to work. Take heart and stay strong, it will get easier
No judgement, just curious. Why are you pumping? I found it a lot more work than breastfeeding. Also know some women get their period back quickly even under more ideal circumstances.
If you're doing nights AND with the baby all day, I hope your husband is helping when he comes home and giving you a break. If he isn't, he should be. He gets a break when he comes home. You get none. If he pulls the "I have to be awake and alert for work because that's our income" card, remind him that you have to be awake and alert to care for your child and that's just as important if not moreso. Keeping a baby alive and tending to their needs requires mental acuity and good judgement, both of which fall substantially when exhausted. Make your husband give you at least one break every day. He can make dinner or something. It won't kill him (he'd have to do it even after a long work day if he was living alone, anyway).
My baby prefers the bottle over breast, he’s very impatient and gets frustrated easily with breastfeeding. He’s also had issues with his latch sometimes. I do breastfeed him in the morning when he first wakes up and he’s sleepy and calm, but the rest of the day he takes bottles
It’s definitely a lot more work 😭
It gets easier! You’ll find a rhythm and a routine that works for all 3 of you. Just be patient with yourself. I always had a really hard time when I would make plans and try and get things done, and then instead I would spend the whole day with a baby attached to me and nothing got done. My best advice would be to find a way to be okay with spending your days being “unproductive” (in quotations because it isn’t unproductive to spend the day taking care of your baby). If you have a rough night and you don’t sleep enough, take a nap with baby. Take it day by day, and make time to do something for yourself. We’ve pretty much always done a trade off. Once my husband gets home, he’s on baby duty and I take 20-30 minutes by myself to reset from the day and that has helped so much. The first year is hard. You’re all learning. It does get easier I promise ❤️
You are not alone! My husband recently returned to work as well and my baby is going through a sleep regression. It's rough! I have just been trying to get through each day, even if that means I snuggle my baby on the couch and watch Netflix half the day and don't get chores done. When I get overwhelmed I remind myself that while it is hard, I can get through this and will probably miss these slow days when she is older. You got this momma!
I hope everything gets better. Going through motherhood has me appreciating mother's way more! Sending an early Happy Mother's Day ❤
It gets easier somedays & some days are rough .. I’m home with 3 kids one goes to school then I have my 3 year old & 6 week old…. I’ve accepted my house will be abit of a mess for now & it’s only temporary. I tidy up when I can when my husband is home & that’s when I pump aswell I try to squeeze one in in the morning, lunch & evening but doesn’t always happen. My husband didn’t get much time off for each baby maybe less then a week because it’s his own business. I’ve just accepted I’m tired & now I go to bed at 8/9pm feed baby then & then I get woken at 2am Have u tried wrapping baby? & some white noise? Also feed right when you go to bed I express & give a bottle right when I go to bed even if he’s already sleeping I give him a dream feed so his tummy is full & will sleep longer Also during the daytime put baby in stroller & head out for a walk it’ll be good for bub & for you!!! Hang in there!
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Sleep is so important! I never realized this until I had my first newborn. My husband went back to work as well. He always did the early morning feedings to give me extra sleep. He also would stay up later than me so he would do the last one and the early morning one. I would do it throughout the night. At that age my first child was easily entertained watching Peppa pig 😂 she did not like to lay down so I always had to try to prop her up. Every time she was laying back or down she was fussy. She liked to sit up. My second was not easily entertained LOL. She had to be with me. It was easier to get things done if I wore her. Even taking a bath she would be in there in her little chair. I remember being exhausted. But for me taking a bath before bed really relaxed me. So that was my one treat for myself I would try to do everyday.
Every day a new challenge pops up with kids, within days you’ll see you’re no longer complaining about one thing but a new thing will start. It doesn’t get easier but you become better at coping. Also when kids grow they are no longer a noodle and become so much easier to manage but then they move a lot so there’s that. Personally my life took a 180 once my kid hit 3.5 month mark. It was a blessing. Try these things: baby wearing, don’t feel compelled to entertain your baby but make him part of your day. Also create a nighttime schedule for him, bath lotion bottle reading and then sleep. As for pumping tbh I stopped and my life became easier. But you do what works best for you. More than anything remember it’s not permanent and secondly that you’re doing amazing
It does get easier you’ll be amazed at the difference you feel in 3 months and again in 6 months, and again in 9 months, also no one warns you about your hormones going wacko during weaning so if you’re pumping less it can really throw off your mental health, just went through it and the hormones can make you so anxious and depressed
If breastfeeding/pumping gets way too hard or fruitless, just ditch them and use formula! That way the baby sleeps longer too. The number 1 thing every baby needs is a sane mother and ideally one with a good mood. Help yourself in every way you can to achieve that without feeling remorse.
Yes it gets easier babies are so hard it's crazy hard but once they hit 6 to 17 months somewhere in there all of a sudden it's easy and the kid starts being enjoyable even
Honestly it feels hard because it is so so fricking hard! It does get easier, you are in the thick of post partum hormones drops, sleep deprivation and new motherhood. You completely lose any sense of normality and it can be so hard to adjust to. It'll get easier, just try to make it through the days and find joy in the moments you can find joy in. Take the pressure off yourself, you are doing an amazing job and finding it hard is not a negative reflection on yourself. Sending love and kindness your way, motherhood is the absolute best but the first year is a crazy crazy adjustment. I found it just gets better and better ❤️