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I feel like he knows he can do this cause he has already done it multiple times. For me (someone who was a big cheater but made a 360 change cause I realized it’s fucked up) just knowing you can get away with it, makes you want to do it more. That’s the Sad truth. We will push and push until you can’t take it and then we will promise you too “change” or “stop” to gain your trust again and then we go right back to it. Cause we know you will stay. I didn’t have kids when I use to do that. But now that I have kids, I can definitely see how people can take advantage of each other cause we want to stay together “for the kids”. But reality it’s just gonna break you.. He probably loves the trill of it and attention. If he ain’t gonna change, again I know it’s hard but leaving is the best option. YOUR HAPPINESS MATTERS MORE FOR YOUR KIDS!
I left my first husband for cheating and although we didn't have children together, it was honestly the best thing I ever did for myself. Now I'm in a relationship where i'm treated so much better. I don't think I even realized how toxic my relationship was until I took the hard plunge to get out of it. It's actually a interesting story because my ex and I were trying to have a baby for 13 years but it never happened for us. I leave his sorry butt and get pregnant by my next one 4 years into the relationship with no problem. The universe works in mysterious ways. There's someone out there who wont play games with your heart and you deserve better in my opinion. Especially with kids in the picture. You want to give them an example of a relationship you are happy to be in.
I'm not married but I'm 27 weeks with my first baby and the dad was always so secretive and has cheated on his past girlfriends, and I just knew he was doing the same to me. We always fought, argued and were even physical. things ended very badly and I had to leave his house and not go back. He told me he wasn't having a baby, that I was, and he didn't want to be a part and I'm crazy for asking. That right there was really the final straw for me. this has been the hardest time of my life but I can say with certainty that without him I have such a better mental state and have gotten so much done without him. It's hell but I know it was the best option. Not only for me but my baby too. I don't want her growing up believing what we had was love and then have her end up in the same situation when she's older. I'm sorry you're going through this and especially it being your third together. He clearly has no respect for you or your children . You all deserve the best from him and he's simply not doing that.
Your husband has cheated on you multiple times. He has no respect for you or your family and you need to leave. That is not someone you want your kids to be raised by. I'm usually pretty against divorce unless for extreme cases but to do this so many times? Has he even tried to get help? Couples therapy etc? You can't go through cheating once and expect to heal without taking proper steps let alone during your second and possibly third pregnancy still cheating? Take of you and your kids doesn't seem like hes man enough to be a good husband or father and you and your kids deserve that.