Baby shower heartbreak

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Your situation is similar to mine. We couldn't have a wedding and I didn't get a baby shower. It breaks my heart for you. I hope this doesn't tear you down.

Honestly honey I think you need to speak up for yourself. My sister was a baby showerZILLA! I knew exactly what she wanted alomost too much 🤦🏾‍♀️ If it’s something you want and an experience you feel as if you need for yourself DO IT! It was really nice for her to offer to help but what you want is important!!! I know nobody owes you anything but you deserve to be happy about your baby shower even if you have to step up and do it yourself. It’s no shame in that! Start planning it your real friends will get with the program. You don’t want to look back with regrets.

Absolutely you can throw your own. My partner and I are.
We want see our friends and family prior to baby's arrival so just planning it
No gifts, just presence

You need to talk to your friends! Are they real friends? Is it because of money? No matter what if you already expressed how much you would love to have a baby shower they should throw one! I agree on lower your expectations, but also speak up about what you want and what would make you the happiest to the people who care!

You and your partner could throw one, maybe call it a Baby Bash or something other than a shower. The invitation can say that you want to celebrate your coming baby, no gifts needed ( but you could include your registry link just in case).

Hello beautiful mommy! I hope
Your day gets better! From
Personal experience My first baby shower
I threw myself, so don’t feel like it’s not okay to throw your own 😊

Aww I’m sorry you’re going through this, I didn’t get to have my baby shower either because both I and my partner had COVID so we had to cancel last min. I was so disappointed but everyone still got us gifts and sent it to our house and all the gifts cheered me up! Hopefully it does the same for you. It’s okay mama💕💕

Hello lovely! I’m twenty weeks pregnant with my first and I’m organising and throwing my own baby shower, with a bit of help from a few people but the majority of planning and organising will be done myself, don’t feel like you can’t throw your own!

Omg I’m so sorry. I would have totally assumed she was planning something based on her questions ! At least they were asking u for a registry so theh hopefully get u a tjoughfhul gift !!

I had a zoom baby shower due to covid .. I had my husband MIL and my parents all together at my parents and everyone else was on zoom for an hr .. it wasn't what I was hoping fir but it was still nice to see everyone and feel supported

I felt this! I was in the same boat none of my sisters or friends offered to throw a shower for me. That’s fine I just expected more from my family since it’s the first grandchild. I’m throwing my own baby shower and I think you should too. Tell your SIL how you feel and maybe you guys can work together on your dream shower to make it happen.

I’m totally going to throw my own! No rules saying you can’t - you do you boo! 🥰

Wth is wrong with throwing your own? 😭 I’m pretty sure my partner and I will be throwing our own. We’re already planning our own gender reveal

I threw my own baby shower

I threw my own baby shower. Wanted it done my way 😂 just put one on yourself xx

I threw my own shower. I say go for it. It’s your first baby and you don’t want to miss out on this special moment!

That sucks I’m sorry. I never got a shower at all, none if my friends thought to bother, and I wasn’t going to ask!!

Absolutely throw your own, it doesn't have to be about gifts. I was determined to have mine because, like yourself, we had to sacrifice a lot to have a wedding, we downsized from 120 people to 15 with no after party or anything, so I was determined to have a celebration where I could basically get all my girls together (never had my hen night either). Thankfully my mam and big sister did the planning but I was all prepared to plan it myself if I had to. Some people chose not to go because of covid and that's fair enough, there was only about 18 of us and it was lovely, just a nice chilled afternoon in each others company. It doesn't even have to be a big party, book an afternoon tea or a nice restaurant and invite your friends, have a little get together, tell them it's a baby shower with a twist, wear your dress, enjoy it, you deserve it x

Like people above said there really isn’t anything wrong with planning your own baby shower, but also nothing wrong with having two, especially if one is virtual and one is in person. I planned my own baby showers and had one over Zoom to allow people out of state and those who didn’t want to get vaccinated to still participate… unfortunately antivaxers in our lives didn’t understand that the Zoom was intended for them and didn’t participate, but because I have friends and family across the states and on another continent, it still worked out great.

Did I miss that there is a baby shower police if you throw ur own? 👀
Don’t put all ur eggs in others baskets. They don’t care as much as u do! Have ur own party! With or without them.

Awww bless you girl! Absolutely throw your own! Why would she think you didn’t want it in person? Surely it’s more effort to sort out videos & stuff. Best of luck! X

Oh hon. I had a disappointing virtual baby shower too. Like you it really upset me because of covid and I felt like I had barely seen anyone during my pregnancy as it was. If I could do it all over again, I would throw my own baby shower my way, or if there were restrictions have one after bub is born! Sending hugs. X

I threw my own shower - I could do exactly what I wanted then and didn’t have to expect disappointment from other people so if you can, definitely throw your own 😊

Throw one yourself. I threw 2 of mine by myself. I have 7 children and I'll probably be throwing this baby shower myself since I haven't had a baby in 6 years.

I threw our own in our backyard.
We thought only 20 people would show up, but we had over 50 😱

We had soooo many gifts and everyone had a blast.

If it’s something you want I definitely say do it!

Good luck momma!

Pm me if you want an idea of zoom baby shower ideas. It worked well for me 😊

You can always throw a couples party to celebrate the new baby. My friend did a bbq and gifts went in the house but no one else went in, it was all outside with food and cupcakes. Nothing fancy but a way to still get some things you need and see those people you love and celebrate with them.

I just did mine in February! (See profile photo)
I planned it all myself and just had a friend help me set up decorations the night prior.
I had planned it myself due to covid restrictions and making sure it was still what I wanted. I did in-person half hour time blocks per household at our home and also gave a virtual option for others! Having both options worked out nicely!! Most friends ordered online from our Amazon list and mostly only family came for in-person visits which was nice too.
We did mixed genders as well, not only women so everyone felt included if they wanted to be.
Didn’t do games (because of covid) but did predictions and guest book signing with cupcakes.
I was glad I had planned it myself as I was very exhausted and able to organize it so I could get breaks and not be as overwhelmed.
Hope all works out for you, honestly sometimes just doing it yourself saves a lot on stress and worry 💞

My husband and I threw our own baby shower and it was so fun! We had it in our nearly empty apartment because we were in the middle of moving. We made lots of food and invited 8 friends to catch up and play cards. It was extremely casual but I think that made it more relaxing for us. Nobody cared who planned it!

I’m so sorry. I wasn’t able to have the traditional shower either but I did throw myself a drive by baby shower and it was great!

I would totally throw your own shower even if it’s small! Never regret anything especially something so special. The fact that your in law has a free space for the party is a great start or even do a drive by

I am from Ireland and baby showers are not a thing. I find it so odd, if someone wants to buy something for the baby just buy it. Why does there have to be a big event. They just seem to cause upset and I see so many ppl here heartbroken because they don’t have friends or family to throw one for them.

Awwww mumma!!! You go ahead and throw yourself the biggest and best baby shower ever!!
This is your special time and if you want a baby shower, then dammit, you do it!!

The last 2 years has been chaos for everybody in the world, and now that things are hopefully fingers crossed ending you can embrace the freedom and do it!

Don’t let anybody( including yourself) tell you any different xxxx

Traditionally the host is a relative or friend but who cares! Host your own! You deserve to feel special and loved, no one will judge you and if they do then screw them.

Originally my mother was supposed to be the host of my baby shower but we had a falling out and we don’t speak anymore so my partner and I are going to host our own with the help of his sisters.

Aw mama - try not to cave to much to the pressure of what you think you’re “suppose” to do. I organised my whole baby shower myself & had an amazing day!
We threw all the traditions out the window and had both guys & girls there. I have so many important men in my life that I wanted to invite and my husband also wanted to be apart of the celebrations.

We also had to postpone our wedding 4 times between 2020-2021 due to covid restrictions, so when we had an opportunity to get everyone together again, we took it!

We didn’t do any on the classic games, just a big gathering of food, drinks and amazing company (and it didnt hurt that a few pressies were generously gifted to)

I say you go ahead & throw yourself the beautiful shower you deserve!
X

I'm an Ontario mama too who had a virtual shower because of COVID restrictions and had to cancel our 2020 wedding too. I feel your pain. It's really hard coming to terms with the fact that nothing is how we envisioned it was going to be. Even the pregnancy experience was so different. Cry. Get your feelings out. It's okay to feel sad & disappointed. If your SIL is okay with it you could suggest a hybrid party and give guests the option. Do the virtual shower with people who ship the gifts and offer like a drive by in person thing where people can do a porch drop off, masked if you want to, and pick up a cupcake or something and socialize. Wear your dress & get yourself a cute little mom-to-be sash. You deserve to celebrate.

I organised my entire baby shower myself!! It’s so fine to throw yourself one! People want to celebrate you guys and your baby and anyone loves to celebrate haha

I’m having a super simple budget friendly one too!
Feel free to message me for more information on what I’m doing xx
But seriously just invite a whole heap of your closest people over and just celebrate

Why can’t you do it yourself? If it was between me doing it and nothing I would do it. It’s your life and your little one so why not do what you want and be happy?!
Restrictions are lifting in Ontario tomorrow. I just went to a 1 year olds bday in Toronto and 25 people were there all at once. You do you girl don’t wait for others to make you happy!

Our baby shower was turned into a drive by due to covid plus baby arrived early (stayed in NICU, was born april 2020) and there are still days that I get upset on how covid canceled so many celebrations. A registry is important for people to know what you need and you will be amazed by people's generosity. Maybe host your own drive by meet and greet when baby comes..you can wear your dress and this way it doesnt interfere with your SIL planning.

I second some of these girls. I'm planning and throwing my own shower, bc I don't have a mom and I'm the planner of the group... and as soon as I started a bunch of friends asked how they can help such is perfect for me. I don't feel like I'm taking advantage and I get to have some help. If you want a shower explain to your sil that you were under a different impression, and while do you appreciate her suggestion, you are not comfortable with that. Don't let someone who might not understand what you want make you feel like this. And you don't have to go with rules that don't make sense anyway
Good luck!!!

My husband is throwing me a baby shower - we will be at the mall all day shopping for the baby .. ending in a date lunch.

I’m going to throw mine own - my friends any family are too scared to throw me surprise parties or organise things for me because I’m and event coordinator and that’s what I love. As much as I would love someone to organise something I just know I’ll be the only one to organise soemthing that meets my expectations and it special to me!

I'm a single mom to be and I'm in Ontario as well. My whole family is in another country. I came to Canada by myself 14years ago. Even tho I won't have any baby shower cuz I don't have family or a lot of friends here. I decide to go on a date with my baby bump 🤰🏻 and myself 😍,yes! just the 2 of us.
If you really want to celebrate your special day go for it.😊💞 there's nothing wrong about it! Always do what make you happy plus capacity limit will be lifted tomorrow. 🎉
Congratulations on your pregnancy btw! ✨🤍

Throw your own if you wanted one in person. There isn’t any rules lol I’m throwing my own because honestly I’m way too anal to trust anyone else and it’s my first too.

Stephanie if you don’t wish to throw your own baby shower because your sister-in-law is doing it why don’t you do a super fun virtual sip and see. Send links to everyone and still include your registry and have a few people who you’re comfortable with come over make some cocktails and do it via zoom. You can even send them links to game so you all can play virtually.

There is no shame an throwing one yourself a baby shower is just a time to come together as family an friends to celebrate the baby before their arrival bc it’s to chaotic after it’s meant for food fun laughter games hugs happy tears not a video in my opinion

You can totally throw yourself a baby shower! I threw my own 2 weeks ago since I’m very particular about the theme, aesthetics, and so forth. Invite the guests you want, especially since you’ve already had to go through a Covid wedding! We had all guests wear masks when not eating or drinking and we made sure to have it out in the open patio and backyard. So see what works for you and just go for it!

The virtual one is nice to have for all the guests who are uncomfortable with going in person. That way you’ll have best of both worlds!

This makes me want to scoot over and throw one for you 🥺 I’m sorry love you deserve to have this milestone especially since you didn’t get your wedding when you hoped for. I think you should throw your own! People won’t mind and they know it’s hard to plan a whole shower so they’re probably scared to step up but I’m sure they’d be happy to attend.

Why don’t u organize one or ask ur SIL to do it ?

Just sending you support. I feel like I’ve missed out on a lot of those milestones in life you think you’ll have, and i completely understand how it’s really disappointing and just sad. Especially if you got your hopes up!! Ugh 😩

So I did a larger zoom shower with family and close friends, but then I also had a baby shower with ten ppl or less of just my close and local friends - it was such a great way to do it! You could totally do something little on your own or ask your hubs to plan something special for you too 💖