BF cheated on me w the neighbor

That is foul , I’m sorry you have to experience that . I don’t think it’s worth it , he cheated with you with a neighbor- you just to have trust issues , anxiety , all the above .

Is this real? No you shouldn’t tolerate that

If you have talked to him and he doesn’t seem to care if you leave. I would say to leave. Bc if he doesn’t care, he could do it again. He’s going to think that no matter what he does, you’ll stay with him.

No offence but - Why is this even a question? The guy cheated on you full stop! Not once or twice but probably more times than you will ever know. And to add fuel to the fire he cheats with a neighbour like WTF?! Regardless what the reason was why you couldn’t have sex postpartum, your within your rights not to! He should understand especially as you just had his baby.

He clearly* doesn’t respect or value you, or the baby. Save yourself future heartache and get out while you can!

That’s not love. TOLERATING someone isn’t love. He’s AWFUL for cheating and an even worse human being for cheating while you were pregnant or postpartum.
It’s time to leave. It would be difficult but completely worth it. Your baby and yourself deserve happy, HEALTHY environments to thrive in. You can’t do that if you’re constantly checking up on him and policing him.
He made it obvious what he would rather do. Seems like it’s time to move on.
Prayers that this all works out for you and your baby 💜

No sweetheart, you shouldn’t have to constantly have the fear of being cheated on because he can’t keep it in has pants. That’s not fair to you or your mental health and cheating on someone is not love. You guys can co-parent. It won’t be east, especially with the baby being so little but that seems to be a better option than you constantly being hurt and stressed over this, it’s not good for you and the baby will be able to sense the stress as well. I would suggest separating for your mental health and if he doesn’t like it then it then too bad because it was through his own doing

Girl no. Listen. Let me ask you this with some tough love because I don’t know you but I want you to understand. Would you let your son treat a woman like this? Do you think that if your baby one day acted like that towards another woman that it would be okay? If the answer is no, then you shouldn’t either. That’s not tolerable. You have to love yourself more and respect yourself more too. Of course it’s gonna hurt, and yes you wanna be the best mommy for your baby but maybe the best decision is taking this time for you and your son. He’s obviously got more important things (to him) to do. Then when you find yourself healing and getting better from this, it will be so much easier on your mental health. There has to be some stability even if it means you. It will be so hard but so worth it ❤️‍🩹

I am so sorry this person has treated you so terribly.

Yes, raising children while separated from the co-parent is hard, but it's nowhere near as difficult as raising a child in a home where the mother is miserable, disrespected and cheated on.

Why would he stop cheating on you? You’re not going to leave so he can cheat as much as he wants with no consequence! So yeah he probably will continue to cheat. Unless you do something about it

You shouldn't constantly have to worry and you shouldn't tolerate that because the more you tolerate the more he's gonna keep doing it or make you think he NOT when he IS !! I've been cheated on multiple times but never settle yes y'all have a baby together but right now you need to focus on YOU and YOUR BABY period !! Dont sorry about him unless it comes to the baby , don't worry about a relationship afterwards for awhile , get your own apt. Stack your money pay your bills focus on your mental health and healing.. xoxo

I suggest you leave that man , I understand it won’t be easy so maybe start with getting yourself a man too , a distraction . At the back of your mind prepare to leave , I know how difficult it is to just get up and leave right now , you just had a baby . But seeing someone else over time might prepare you mentally.

I don't think this is acceptable but no one is in your relationship but you. You have to work out what's best for you lovely x

I am so sorry about that. But if I were you I would broke up already. He has not blood in the face to do that to you specially is your have a baby of him. You may suffer at the beginning but later you will feel better and relive because being always thinking that he can hurt you again I not healthy specially when you need to focus on your baby. It is a process and at the end you will feel much better. There are hundreds of mom who have raised their kids by their own very successfully. 🫶

If u can’t forgive and live w the possibility that he could cheat which yeah he really could honestly then it’s better for you to move on. If there’s no marriage involved, you might as well focus on being a mother and knowing your worth. People don’t cheat bc there’s a problem with their spouse, they usually cheat bc they’re greedy and have no self control. I’m very sorry you experienced this… God bless you guys

The way I would leave. You don't deserve that.

If you stay with him he will cheat again… I can’t believe what I’m even reading. A real man that’s responsible and respectful would NEVER do this to his partner. He doesn’t care for you. He has proven that already has he not? Get your stuff together and move on. If you can afford to move or can move in with your siblings or parents I would do that until you get your stuff together. Run and never look back at that scum

so much this. I have learned this the hard way with my most recent ex.

Leave!!!

HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU‼️‼️‼️

I’ve learned the hard way and maybe you should too for to be able to leave for good… it gets worse and don’t stay for the kids

Like Disha said, he doesn't love you.
If he loved you, he wouldn't have cheated. Babies are easy, eo many mums do it so im sure you would manage on your own. He can still have his child and spend time with them. Just leave that boy, don't let your child grow up seeing you miserable and thinking that's what relationships are like.

babies are easy? Lol u can't be serious

My husband cheated on me too during my pregnancy and honestly I’m in the same boat as you. If he doesn’t wanna fix his actions and work it out I’d say fuck him and leave . It may seem hard but set up a game plan and put it in motion. If he’s remorseful and kissing the ground u walk on then the balls in your court for what you want to do and what you can tolerate

This is why I would never be able to fully go back to my daughters dad. I will always have doubt and worries. We even tried to stay together after I found out about his cheating but everything ate at me. I questioned everything our relationship, him, and even myself. At this point I would rather have my daughter see me happy and alone than with her dad or someone else being miserable.