Husband spanked 1 year old

Physical punishment is abuse. Whether it's "light" or not. It can lead to increased aggression, behavioral and emotional problems, and resentment, as well as physical harm. It is not okay. It is never okay. And if your husband does not understand that, I hope for everyone's sake he will accept to get the therapy he needs. 😭

Honestly this is such a red flag! He should have just walked away or told him we don’t bite but the fact a grown man put his hand on him over it as a first reaction is not a good sign. I would stand your ground and let him know it was not okay even if it was a “light” spanking. Thankfully me and my partner share the same mindset when it comes to spanking but I have told him point blank if he puts his hand on our kid I would leave and take the kid with me and I don’t care how light or what the reason was for. I definitely know that’s an extreme view and not everyone would do the same thing but In my mind there is never a reason to hit a kid.

I think I would have freaked out . “ like don’t ever touch my son again.” He is ONE. A literal baby!!! I couldn’t imagine putting my hands on my baby to cause physical harm . I tell my child no, but also he bites my shirt all the time, doesn’t bother me a bit. I’m sorry that happened to you. I would be pissed .

I’m sorry that happened. Explain to him why it’s wrong and show him an alternative. Give him some time to process it but if he doesn’t want to listen, there has to be a bigger discussion there. Set a boundary about no more hitting. It doesn’t teach them that anything is wrong, it just leads to mistrust.

Man I get bit all the time while nursing and can't imagine spanking because of that. Have you had a discussion beforehand about your stance on spanking? If not I'd have a serious discussion separate from this instance about why you are against spanking and what coping tools you yourself implement when you get frustrated or hurt by your child. Give him the opportunity to tell you why he thinks it's not a big deal as a lot of us grew up being spanked so see it as normal (not realizing the reaction to hit for bad behavior was learned by being spanked and continuing the behavior for generations)

I understand your hurt completely. However, keep in mind that men do not come genetically predisposed to nurture children. In his brain he thinks he’s doing the best to teach your child right from wrong. I’m a little disappointed in all of the “just throw the husband out” vibes I’m getting. It’s coming from a place of emotion since we all have babies that age and no one wants to see them harmed.

I would simply and calmly show him a researched based article that supports your claim. And just let him know (without emotion) that that’s not the best solution and what he should do instead. Don’t point blame. Don’t accuse. Don’t come at him in a negative way. You catch more flies with honey. 😉

So the conversation has evolved and now he says that he will spank him when he gets older so he doesn’t turn out to be a “spoiled little brat”. I’m against all kinds of physical punishment for children. I know his dad hit him well into teenage years so he thinks this is completely normal. But to me it’s completely unacceptable. I want to cry 😭

Ugh I am so sorry 😭 hopefully he will recognize that he is wrong. He shouldn’t want to hurt the baby. I would say maybe you need some space to think

That’s awful I’m really sorry. That fact that he is planning on it is so sad and maybe he need to look at some therapy? I don’t wanna just be like leave him but the who to say this doesn’t turn in to full on abuse to the whole household, if he’s already thinking about spanking him harder in the future.

Where do you live? It's literally illegal in most countries!!!

Therapy really helped my husband process those thoughts. Wishing you the best!!

I personally am not fully against spanking however for a one year old is crazy. I feel guilty even having a tone in my voice with her because i know she does not understand what she has done. I would tell him that’s a non negotiable and y’all have to sit down and get on the same page for now and the future on how you will deal w consequences

spanking by teacher being legal is insane. I’m in Ohio and i would raise hell