Toddler tantrums

Don't let him hit you or hell keep doing it as he gets older

Sounds like he needs a bum smack. My 14 month old would NEVER think of hitting me

Keep hanging in there. Mine is 5. He does this exact thing. He will hit me or scratch me. And do the same to his sisters and we spank him over and over and nothing.. boys are SO challenging because they’re stubborn. I feel like it’s a little boy thing as well.. but not sure.

Encourage him to talk to you about what’s upsetting you. I know they’re not super verbal at this age. But tell him we don’t hit and ask him what’s wrong. He may be frustrated whatever he needs/ wants isn’t being met in that moment and hits you as “punishment” my 18 months old does the same when he’s overwhelmed and frustrated not only to me but his cousins that are the same age. It’s taken a bit but he’s now showing me what’s wrong. Like if they take his toy. He tells me vs slapping them. Or if he needs something. He shows me instead of hitting me. Takes a lot of patience and it’s gets really hard at times. You got this mama

I dont have any advice but I just wanted to reiterate that you're not alone. My almost 2 year old is in the slapping and punching phase. It's so bad that hes given me 4 bloody noses and a black eye in the past 6 months. My pediatrician tells me it's a phase but man its rough

Mine is the same way. I have a black eye right now, cause he kicked me in the face. Nothing I have tried has worked. I just put him in time out and walk away anymore. My mom also said to spank him and really that doesn’t work, it just seems to make it worse.

Toddlers are humans just learning how to cope with emotions. Explain to him that mommy gets upset and angry too and that those feelings are normal and ok to have. Just show him how to channel his anger somewhere else. If he feels the need to hit something, tell him “we don’t hit people. It hurts them. If you are upset let’s hit this (fill in the blank)”. You can use a pillow/teddy bear etc. then let him hit it. As long as you teach him that it’s ok and normal to feel these ways and to channel it into things that don’t hurt people he will learn. Spanking isn’t going to teach him anything. He won’t understand why he’s not allowed to hit but mommy can hit him.

My just turned 3 yo tried that on me once. Sometimes they repeat because they like your reaction, even if you’re reaction is negative and they don’t like the consequences, it’s still a reaction. Keep a neutral face/emotion, talk calmly but firmly, be consistent. We only do 30 second time outs but if she feels like she needs to scream and cry longer then she’s allowed to do it in another room by herself. Once she’s done, we cuddle and then she’s happy again.

The thing with spankings that’s hard, is you hit them which in their heads means that they can hit you.

It’s hard mamma but we found our tantrums significantly went down by following these things.

Praying for you ❤️

My toddler doesn't hit me (yet at least...) but I would try a couple things including hugging him tightly and rubbing his back or putting him in a time out. My toddler doesn't care if I spank him but he hates it when I put him in his crib or make him "sit down and stay there." He also calms down quickly if I distract him or just hug him and validate/talk him through his emotions.

My daughter was out of control with tantrums & hit me/bit me a few times. I got fed up quick and was like that’s it I’m DONE being nice mommy! I took away everything, I am the boss now. All decisions (I decide what we do, what and when she eats, etc) and no junk/sweets and ZERO screen time and I’m absolutely exhausted bc I don’t get breaks anymore haha but it worked. She listens a lot better now, way fewer tantrums (she’s still 2, can’t expect perfection). The times she’s had tantrums since I just put her in her crib to calm down and walked away until she was done so we could talk about it.. That was a few months ago and now she gets a movie on Friday night and Sunday and Grammys she gets dessert and I let her have a small freezie pop after nap IF she was good in the morning and no tantrums, ate properly, etc. Also we leave the house almost every morning to tire her out lol. Anyway that’s what worked for our family 🤷‍♀️

So my 4 year old daughter has started slapping me on my face or arms when she gets angry.....what’s been working is me hauling her to her bedroom and giving her a few mins to cool down then we talk and I ask her do you want mommy to hit you on the face and arms and she says no and I explain hitting anyone is not okay especially mommy and she always says sorry......it didn’t stop the behaviour the first time but I feel like it’s been helping it happen less n less

That is hard!! We just started a hitting phase. But it’s seemed to tapper out. My strategy is just getting down on her level, looking her in the eye, and slowing WAY down - like in my movements, my voice, how I speak, and validating her frustration or want (ie. You really want more milk. And you’re feeling mad about that. But I’m noticing you rubbing your eyes. Are you also feeling sleepy at the same time!? Or idk something like that..)Or not even saying anything, but just listening to her vent while nodding just to let her know I’m listening.
Ever since I’ve been doing this, she literally stops and talks to me. And the hitting has disappeared mostly.
I’ve also noticed, when I get low, and speak softly, she also gets really quiet too naturally to be able to hear what I’m saying. It’s magic before your eyes. Seriously. Good luck momma!

Does he have a favourite toy? I ask because role play helped when my 2.5 year son went through this phase. Yelling at him and saying NO when he smacked, yelled only made things worse and made him hit even more. I started role playing with his favourite soft toy. I would grab it, "smack" it and pretended it cried. I would explain to him why teddy was upset and why we don't hit, smack, yell etc. Slowly but surely he understood. I would also talk to him firmly (Not yelling) but would firmly explain why he couldn't do all those things. Again, slowly but surely, he understood and it's not a problem anymore.