How do you deal with jealousy of this?

I am jealous of pregnant women. I love being pregnant. I love the newborn/baby phase! I want more kids but trying to space them out a little. So itll probably be two years before we try for another. I envy pregnant women. I literally cant stand seeing other women pregnant. It makes me so angry and jealous. Of course two of my partners cousins are pregnant and due back to back. I literally cant stand it.

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I can understand if you want more kids you’d possibly feel jealous seeing pregnant women. But, angry? Sounds like you might need some CBT/therapy?

I would speak to a therapist. Feeling angry, envious and jealous of other women for being pregnant when you aren’t struggling with infertility but are choosing to wait sounds like very intense emotions and major projection. You are choosing to not get pregnant right now, they choose to get pregnant right now.

Logically think about it, do you expect the whole world to wait to get pregnant because you aren’t trying again yet

@Ciara we did struggle with our first. Took us 5 years after a MC. Then we got surprised with our second. As much as I would love another right now, I want to spend time with my first two. I would love to be pregnant now. I would give anything to be. But it wouldnt be responsible.

This is is weird behavior

I’m sorry to hear you struggled to conceive your first, that is definitely hard.

I understand you think it would be irresponsible for you to have another right now but that is still a conscious choice that you are making. Im struggling to understand why other people choosing to be pregnant when you are choosing not to be makes you so angry. Everyone makes choices, if you want to spend time with the kids you already have then you should do just that. You can try for more later down the road, but don’t spend your energy being miserable because other people are choosing a different route. The people around you can sense that, you don’t want to spoil their pregnancy experience for them

Not to be disrespectful or anything. But this isn’t normal behavior. I mean for you to say , you get angry & jealous when you see pregnant women . Girl you may need to tlk too someone professional hunni. Because this is definitely not normal behavior at all . You’re going to the extreme with it .

my sister in laws were pregnant my sister my best friends were pregnant and I was trying for infertility treatment but I never felt jealous and was happy for them and good gave me without and medication after two years so what you saying it’s not normal ☺️

I feel the opposite and when I was pregnant I was jealous of non-pregnant women cause I hated it. But I agree with the ladies, it’s a tad bit weird to be angry about it. There’s-in my opinion no reason to be angry about when you know you’re waiting to try to concieve again

Is this something you want to work on/improve?… Because you must know it’s not normal.
I strongly believe in energy, and I wouldn’t want you anywhere near me if I was pregnant.
I don’t think you’re going to intentionally do anything evil or anything but my fetus doesn’t need to be around anyone that hates that I’m carrying them. Nope, no innocent baby needs to be around negative energy like that.
I would seek therapy so you could be around people, as no woman has to wait for you to get what you want in order to live her life and expand her family.
Even if it’s just for your own sanity you should seek help.

Ya this isn’t normal. Maybe just try focusing on your current child and get excited for your own future?

Idk I had a colic reflux cmpa high needs baby so I'm good off newbors

I hate pregnancy. I love the outcome, not the process. It’s horrible and so uncomfortable. I miss being able to eat normal, enjoy my coffee, sleep properly and not be tired all the time. I want to just be able to sit comfortably on the floor and not be bothered by my body.

Oh my word and the acid reflux is horrible too. I remember with my first just feeling so much better after my daughter was delivered and I had my body back. So relieving.

Having a newborn is sweet. The sleep part isn’t. But everything else is so sweet

I’ve been trying for baby #2 for years. Had a couple miscarriages. And then I hear yet another person in my life is pregnant with their third or so baby and yeah I get jealous at times. But I just pretend like that jealousy feeling isn’t there and that usually works. I am genuinely happy for everyone who is pregnant in my life. But I have that tinge of sadness and jealousy creeping up and I just bury it deep down inside until I don’t feel it anymore.

I think having weird feeling about pregnancy can be a hang up from having had a difficult journey. I have a daughter but pregnancy announcements which I used to find really triggering still make me feel odd. I guess it depends how angry you really mean? Jealously I get. You can want something you can’t have even if that’s your decision to be sensible. Having a safe space to work through those emotions however is key.

No offence but this isn’t normal

I like how I ask how other women deal with this and instead im just attacked in every way. 10/10 ladies.

Kinda weird. I currently pregnant but I never feel this way. If I want to bad enough,I just ask my husband to knock me up, but there's a solid line between being responsible and the baby fever I guess

I don’t think this is unusual. I imagine you love being pregnant so makes sense. I just think a lot of women don’t enjoy pregnancy.

Why don't you direct the jealousy into just being a support person for them? For example a doula? You get to still enjoy the baby shopping, the prepping, the helping with the baby when they are new so the mum can have support when dad is at work, especially if they have a c section l.

I don’t think anyone has attacked you. Some have given helpful advice of seeking therapy. Others have said that it’s not usual behaviour/thinking to feel like this.

A lot of us are not attacking you hunni. We just want you to know, in our opinion what you’re saying isn’t normal behavior. When you see pregnant women, you get extremely jealous. That’s not normal hunni. You can’t possibly post this & ask our opinion,& then get up set when we give it to you girl

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