Partners Ex needs a pick up from the airport 🙄

I would look at it as he is doing it for his children that are with her. This wouldn’t bother me but I know if she asked him to do this is would be a last resort.

Why is her ex the first person she thinks to go to? But yes this would frustrate me as well.

I've def felt this way about my husband and his ex wife. That was one of the reasons we broke up when we first started dating bc he was too close to his ex wife for my comfort. Now after 6 years im a little bit more eh about it but it def got on my nerves even if I knew it was for the kids. Like my first Thanksgiving with him he asked if she could come too since her new husband was on deployment at that time. I said yes but I was like you still grrrr with this situation. Idk how long you and your partner been together, but for me over the years ive learned to let it go and be like "its for the good of the kids" for the most part. Sometimes i still rant and rave about it cause it is annoying 😑🤪 like his ex wife called him couple months ago crying cause she was "homesick" and blah blah blah (she moved out of state once her husband got out of military and now lives near his family) and im just like "why you calling MY husband? 🤨

I would feel a way simply because she told us we can’t take them with us to France but when she needs support traveling with them, it’s us that she turns to. It shouldn’t have taken a court order to get her to agree but all it takes is a beck and call for him to tend to her. Hell no. Call an uber. It’s his job to support them when they are with him and the things he wants to do with them. It’s her job to support them when they are with her and the things she wants to do with them. Period.

I feel so seen! Thank you. I believe I have emotions around this airport pick up because literally Friday he gave her the court motion. He even tried to say if she’d like to cooperate he’d cancel the motion but she literally said no, since he started it she’d rather go to court. He’s been open about travel itinerary and waiting for a list of her concerns she just never sends. She says she doesn’t trust him or him being the point of contact for if she needs to speak to the kids while we are abroad. It makes no sense because she trusts him for 50/50. it’s a life enriching experience for the kids, they would get to be with family that loves them, and make memories. She for her own reasons would rather say no. The timing of everything for her to 3 days later ask for a 12:30am airport pick up I don’t understand. When we have had all the kids I’ve taken an uber home after travel with our baby when I’d love a ride from my man but I know his limitations around our blended family. Smh

yes! We’ve been together for two years plus a baby in the mix. I know in a few years this stuff will not bother me as much. I’m already reducing his ex to the size of an annoying gnat fly. 😂 the issue is she also dictates soooo much of our life! We may not enjoy a wedding factuon in the south of France because my partners ex won’t let us go! She has in their divorce agreement that her first week back teaching he will always have the kids, this year it’s a coincidence that it’s also his brother wedding out of the country. We are willing to pay for a trip she doesn’t want the kids to have. We can’t just leave them with a sitter and feel good about that and she won’t take them that week. Don’t even get me started on us looking for a house and how we have to stay within DC or else the BM will get mad if we move 10min outside DC lines to Maryland or Virginia. Ahh I guess over time I’ll be numb to some of this but two years in I almost can’t take it! Love my man tho!

Yeah thats kinda ridiculous that she won't let you guys do this the one time but will call him to do stuff for her. Like its a two way street. And nuh uh lol, we actually went back to court and signed an agreement that both of us can move out of the state of Virginia bc they were both military when got divorced, so she lives in Montana while we're still stuck in VA since husband is stationed here. But she has to pay for one of the kids tickets to travel back and forth between the two.

Ha! Tell her you'll take the kids and she can find her own ride back to her car. I get her not having her car seats and him not wanting his children stranded, but she can get herself and her luggage home herself. He's not her personal Uber and she can "adult" her way out of this situation... I can also see him wanting to be agreeable or have her owe him a favor. I wouldn't think about it as jumping to fulfill her needs. It's more like working to get things he needs from someone who ranges from disagreeable to hostile. It's lame, but comes with the step mom territory at least to some degree.

you are absolutely right. It’s not to jump at everything she ask but to see it as an opportunity to model good co parenting for the fact that sometimes he may need her and vice versa. For him it helps the kids and he hopes that it can set the tone for her being agreeable in the future which she rarely is and he rarely ask for her help. Probably because I’ve spent so much of my 20s and 30s “adulting” I’m used to taking an uber and keeping it moving. If I was in her shoes with three kids maybe I’d feel differently but sometimes it just feels like I’m sharing my man with a women who doesn’t even appreciate it. The things I had no idea about when getting involved with a man with children from a previous marriage! It helps to know I’m not the only one experiencing these challenges in a blended family. It’s common but sometimes feels unnatural or at least takes some acceptance I’m still learning. 🙏🏾

hell nah, atleast i’ll be in the car while we pick them up, or i myself can give them a ride lol. but no that’s weird i would tell my man no that’s not ur concern