Sean honestas

Hola moms, tengo una pregunta, se ofenderían si alguien cercano a ustedes, sea familia o amig@ que ustedes saben que tiene $ les regala para su bebé ropita de segunda, aunque la persona en cuestión no tenga hijos, es decir que esa ropita no es heredada de sus hijos a los tuyos si no que más bien compro algo de segunda para tu bebé, la ropa en muy buen estado y de marca, pero es mal visto u ofencivo ustedes que creen ???? Les ha pasado o lo han hecho?

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3 months pp I have 2 other toddlers I work 10 hours shifts I do laundry I cook I pickup the slack on bills cause my partner can never pay on time and sometimes doesn’t help pay he says he’ll pay his bill but then doesn’t at times. We woke up this morning when we first met he told me don’t get out of bed without kissing so that’s why I said no kiss

Annoying neighbour! Help!

Since we moved in Saturday 31st May next door neighbour has knocked on the door 4 times. She also seen when we are in the garden and come into our garden without asking to talk to us over 5 times. That’s 9 interactions on day 7 of us living here (today is 7th June). This is not including her coming into the garden to talk to my mum when she was watching our 16 month old. Today she waited until she saw me coming home at 11am from walking the dogs and knocked on the door within minutes of me walking in (I was still drying the dogs) and told me I needed to pick up a piece of poo in our garden. She had obviously been looking in the garden to notice this as it was a small piece that I had missed when I let them both out just before going for a walk with them. When I would have gone to let them out again I would have inspected everywhere again like I do each time. I remained polite and said I am going to pick it up I just missed it this morning and she carried on screwing up her face saying why would I leave it just sat there. I told her it wasn’t her business and to go away. My partner works shifts so isn’t here or I would have sent him round to deal with it. I feel like our privacy has been invaded and I can’t relax in our new home. For context we have a private garden but at the side is access to walk straight in. It is private rented. Any advice welcome 🤣 it’s also an elderly woman, VERY nosy.

Going no contact with in laws, undecided.

Hey. So this is a bit of a long winded situation forgive me if you have to read on forever. Advice is really appreciated. I don't want to feel like I'm weaponising my child or using her as leverage in any way so I really need some honest advice as my concerns are genuine.

Since announcing our pregnancy , my sister in law and her 19 year old daughter have gone from being super close with us, to ignoring us completely. I mean ignoring scans, not asking how we are, ignoring our attempts to make plans for other family members birthdays, nothing. Unfortunately my partner's dad has been undergoing intensive cancer treatment so it has been a super delicate and emotional time for everyone, but everyone else in the family including father in law has been really excited for us and made space for this good thing amongst the bad which I'm so grateful for as I didn't expect it at all. We've tried not to make it seem like the most important thing going on right now and been there for support, meal prepped his parents some food for those days they've spent at hospital and can't make dinner, we've not done gender reveal parties or baby showers as a result of this big fall out / perhaps it not being the right time either.

So the sister in law has a history of making things about her, and upsetting people with her behaviour. It's not the first time, she did it over her brother's wedding because things didn't go her way. So I was semi prepared for a bit of resentment / inability to be happy for us. But I was still really quite hurt when it materialised. My first trimester was spent really upset not understanding what I did wrong to them to deserve them not welcoming my baby. We put our foot down after a few months of being ignored and decided to call out the behaviour, and we just got a complete attack in return. Apparently we are responsible for the fact she doesn't have a partner for support through her dad's cancer diagnosis, apparently we don't show up for the parents as much as she does (she works from home and lives round the corner, we are one hour away) apparently her daughter prefers how my partner was with her before I came along. Lots of things that just show resentment came up and we've had no apology for it, some of it felt like it came completely out of the blue. Apparently they were ignoring us because before Christmas we didn't like a photo of her daughter Infront of a Christmas tree. (We were going through some really sad stuff at the time). We have explained this, and said it's not really on the same scale as ignoring the existence of an entire new baby for months. It just felt like she was clutching at straws and throwing lots of punches rather than telling the truth as to why they decided to become upset with us after we became pregnant.

I've kept quiet, I've been in hospital twice with heart palpitations which turned out to be panic attacks. Had to go on anti depressants which made me really unwell for MONTHS, not keeping food or water in. Like I've not been okay at all and have communicated on two occasions that I need this to stop for the sake of baby whatever the issue is, theres more important things happening. Completely ignored. It's made things tricky in a sense of the family getting together too. My other sister in law (married to partners brother) is disgusted at how she's behaved and doesn't want much to do with her because she's been on the receiving end also.

I've had to scroll my feed and see bitchy videos from my niece about how 'talking to her is a privilege not an option ' with sister in law commenting things like 'damn right' after we were the ones ignored for months. The whole situation is just silly. But it's upset me a lot.

I've loved these girls like my own family for the past four years, but the way they've made me break down and put my baby at risk I really don't feel like I can move past. They obviously have a lot of resentment for me and I just feel like I can't then trust them around my baby, I feel like they don't deserve to get to hold my child or even look at her and I can't get past that feeling. My partner is in full support as he's seen how upset it has made me, he's been as worried as me at times for babys health amongst this.

I don't want any contact, have had them blocked for months anyway but I have a feeling they may try to show up when baby's here. What would you do?

There are a lot of details and things done and said left out but it's the jist of it. I've not spoken to them, I tried to reach out yet another time for this to stop and they ignored me and continued to ignore us revealing the gender too, but went straight on to wishing people a happy birthday in the same family chat the following day.

Is there any way to make space for your child to have a relationship when they've disrespected the mum and disregarded her feelings, health etc during pregnancy?

I've gotten to a stage I've dealt with it and have kind of decided what I think of them after all this, but having to make that decision on behalf of your child is something I've not experienced before.

Anyone else's husband?

I'm 8 days pp with our 4th baby, the others are all under the age of 4. Literally still in diapers, and my husband has the audacity to ask me to suck his dick today. Twice. He mentioned earlier this morning how horny he's been for days and my response was I'm sorry I still got like 5 weeks to go and he made some stupid comment about me having hands and a mouth still. I know he was joking he's not that much of an asshole lol but the last thing I want to do right now is be sexual. I feel like a milking cow and I'm wearing diapers like. Anyone else's husband? He's very open about the fact that he's been like taking care of it himself if you get me but that's been a thing in our relationship and im fine with it, it's just like asking me only a week after having an unmedicated vbac now back at home taking care of 4 kids and as im getting ready to finally go to sleep youre gonna ask me for that?

How do you stop public tantrums

For a toddler.

People keep telling me to explain to my toddler, who is 20months and doesn't fully understand me or communicates clearly, and gently tell them not to do that.

I don't get it? They don't communicate fully, and they are in the middle of a screaming fit.

Scenario 1.
She saw someone get off the train and decides she wants to, so I stop her saying this is not our stop and offer her a distractions. Which she throws and starts running off, so I stop her and say again to her and try to find something else, but at this point she is lost in the tantrum. Kicking, punching, pulling my glasses of, high pitch scream.
I do not want to let her run off, I want to teach her to stay with me in public, so I refused a "1 off" situation, so I tried to keep her near me. She would do this in the pushchair, carrier, anything. Once she decides to do something, it's absolute chaos. I've never spoilt her, or let her do what she wants after I say no, and I refuse to let her go to danger.
Unfortunately, this was during a morning commute and everyone suffered including me.
The best I could do was try to keep her with me fighting me, and try to stop her punching me which was hard as I was also trying to keep her with me and needed my hands.

Scenario 2. Beach, cafe, restaurant, anything. She has no patience, and she wants whats on my plate. Again, I've never given her food from my plate, she has exactly the same food on her plate, so i don't know why she does this. But, I point at the same food on her plate to show her we have the same, and she starts screaming.

Like, how do you stop this?

I kept calm and cool, but the moment we leave the place, like the train, she stops. And then I break (probably from the stress of keeping cool) nd tear up. It's humiliating, embarrassing, and stressful.

My husband is a bit stricter than me in a sense of he just takes the food from her or raises his voice quite loud and he can make a fairly scary face. But, this actually makes her worst and I can see he's about to do it and ask him not to, I say the same thing each time "it will only get worst" he does and it she somehow Shrieks louder and then starts getting everything around her and throwing it and hits her head.

I feel trapped, like I dread going outside, I dread going to the shop with her, I dread everything. I try, because I want her to be exposed to public places, but I'm just getting beaten up by her for no reason, she does what she wants and I am so lost.

Me and my husband wanted two kids, but there is absolutely no way I could look after a baby whilst she is running off or throwing a tantrum.

I'm alone most the time so not one can help me.

Do I send scan photo or do I not?

Me and the baby’s dad split up because he was a narcissist and I wasn’t putting myself through that again, he knows when the scan is, I reminded him over text when it was, it’s not for another 2 weeks yet but told him to let me know whether he’s coming asap which was 3 weeks ago now and still no reply, my aunt is coming with me instead, I asked him for half the money for the initial costs of getting everything such as pram, crib, nappies etc and he’s said no because he’s not paying for stuff at my house when we’re not together 🤦‍♀️ I’m going to be exclusively breastfeeding so there won’t be no overnight stays for a while at least and he won’t be able to have the child without me around, he knew I was planning on breastfeeding beforehand anyways so can’t kick up a storm about that but when we split up I told him that if he wants updates I’m leaving it up to him to ask and leaving it up to him whether he’s involved or not so he knows it’s down to him, my question is, he knows when the scan is, hasn’t told me he’s coming, he knows to ask for updates, do I send the scan photo and due date to him or do I let him ask? I don’t want to come across as horrible and a “bitter mum” by not telling him but also feel where I’ve told him it’s up to him to ask for updates it should fall on him to ask.