Brushing teeth is impossible

My son will not let me brush his teeth. He puts his tongue against his lip and i physically can not get the toothbrush around it for longer than a second before he does it again. I’ve been brushing since he was 7 months old & hes now 13 months and not getting any easier. What the hell can I do? Im worried they’re not getting clean with the botch job I’m managing to do.

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@Helen how do you stop her from grabbing the toothbrush too? He just grabs and throws?

Let him brush his own and help where you can! We have a vibrating toothbrush also which really helped as he thinks it’s funny. We also sing the same song and do it along with me or dad brushing our teeth so he copies x

My hubby brushes his, whilst I pretend to brush mine. Works really well

We sing the “this is the way we brush our teeth” song, give lots and lots of praise, if he’s distracted in the bathroom we sit on the bed and do it or in the bath at night. We’ve brushed alongside him, pretended to use his brush on our teeth which he finds funny, allowed him to take the toothbrush if he wanted and again lots of praise when he put it in his mouth. We’ve had a couple of occasions where he hasn’t wanted to because he’s had new teeth coming through but we didn’t add any pressure just kept it consistent and he was soon back to enjoying it again once they cut through x

We were the same and found switching to an electric baby toothbrush (£9 or something from boots) and doing a “mammy brush her teeth” pretend to brush mine for a few seconds with her toothbrush then “baby brush her teeth” brush her teeth works for us. And making sure we’re positioned right to get a good hold (baby with their back to my chest or lying back against my legs / upside down

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