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I finally told my partner I want to spend time with him more like old times,
We used to watch TV, play board games, did tv trivia, but now all he do is go to work, go to the gym & play video games he says I always find something to complain about & we are two different people I get that, but if I'm down stairs watching TV & he upstairs playing the game I feel as though that should be us time. He says I can go upstairs & watch him play the game & we can talk but I would rather do something with him. Am I asking for too much ? Or do I need to compromise?

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My husband did this, there were some reasons.... would he be willing to have a serious discussion to find out what is happening and both of you get your needs out?

For me... Turns out, the things we did before was "what people do stuff the start of relationships" and I tried to explain it isn't, it was who I was before him and I thought he was the same because he did those things with me, but turns out he didn't actually like those things.
Another was we weren't intimate after those things, and well... he was a bit upset after I had a extremely difficult time period at work during lockdown that I came home so late I was exhausted and had migraines and vertigo that I didn't feel like intimacy in the way he wanted and needed, so he ending up taking away everything and just "protected" himself with games. This turned into him saying we were like roommates yet not realising he also significantly contributed to that feeling by playing videogames only.
We fixed it, but it took therapy...

I have no issue with alone time, because I want to read books, we now make sure we first ask about the evening, if we are doing something together to our own individual hobby. But, we must do something together a few times a week.

Compromise has to go both ways, though. He has to drop the videogame and play boardgames with you. Sometimes we will watch a movie together then I'd read my book and to my surprise, this year, he started reading books with me. Then, sometimes, I've sat when he played games and I play my Switch.
But these are just in the evening after work kind of nights. He now started to accept going to the beach or something on weekends.
I don't know fully what the councillor or therapist said exactly, but they did bring out the divorce word and it freaked him out so much at how much he didn't want that, that he began compromising and communicating better

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Your husband's boss has children similar aged to yours and he invited the family over so us wives and children could meet... How terrified would you be

I've been freaking out

Does anyone else’s husbands do this?

We have a two year-old little girl and she has always preferred me. Every time that daddy wants to play with her. She says no I want mom and it hurts his feelings every time and he gets really upset and I don’t know what to do to get her to wanna be with him more Because she was doing good for a while and then we moved and now she doesn’t want anything to do with him again is anyone else’s toddlers like this and it’s so stressful because I hate seeing him get hurt because our daughter doesn’t want him.
And it’s hard on me because I’m a stay at home mom and I’m with her 24 seven so I don’t ever get a break because she always wants me And never wants to go with her dad.

Taking food to restaurants for baby

I’m posting as incognito because I feel a bit silly asking about this 😂 my son is nine months old with a suspected nut allergy. Tomorrow we’re going for a meal with family to a Chinese buffet. I for obvious reasons don’t want him eating from this buffet because of salt,msg and most importantly nuts (which are in A LOT of their dishes). At a buffet there is absolutely no guarantee something will be nut free as cross contamination can happen very easily. Would I be wrong to take my own food for him? None messy things like broccoli pancakes or oat muffins which I make at home for him. I also will be cleaning up his mess as I do at every place we eat at. Most of the time I let him have a little of whatever I’m having but as this is a buffet I’m not risking it.

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I’m a brand new boy mum and just looking for some advice - when putting on his nappy does his bits face up or down?

am i a pos for getting to a point im refusing to let my son play with the neighbor boy?

to preface, the only reason i feel like im being a pos is because hes autistic and i understand there are things he can’t control and things that aren’t his fault but its getting to a point every time they play together hes breaking another one of my sons toys. easter day a toy my son had literally just got that morning they were taking turns with and the neighbor boy heard us telling his mom its pretty unbreakable. the neighbor boy slammed said toy over and over on trampoline springs until it burst open when all of us were busy & nobody was watching him and all the water went on the trampoline. he then hid the toy and lied about why there was water on the trampoline. he only admitted to it when my son found his toy and started crying because he saw it was broken. all his mom did was make him sit on the stairs for like 2 minutes. she said she would replace it, she offered to pay for it and she did neither of those things she offered to do. every time he comes outside he’s pushing my son, grabbing him and stretching out his clothes, banging the shit out of my sons toys on the ground, today he took my sons aluminum bat and beat the shit out of his baseball stand and broke it in half. my son is too nice and laughed when he told me but was holding back tears which infuriated the hell out of me. i told him i cant discipline the boy so he has to tell his mom, he told the mom and she did nothing. she just sat there and continued to let him play, she literally only gets onto him by saying his name and that’s it, the kid has no consequences for breaking my sons toys repeatedly. my son has also had to ask for toys back because the boy will straight up steal his stuff and i guess the mom just doesn’t care or doesn’t notice and my son has to just sneak it back when they’re not home or ask the mom because the boy won’t give anything back without being forced to. im just at my wits end, i feel like im constantly watching my son be bullied and have his stuff broken and hes so nice he still wants to be the boys friend. i could be more understanding if i saw the mom actually cared that her son was breaking stuff but she obviously doesnt.

Am I overreacting???

So I have a younger sister (23yr old ) she has 3 kids , 5,2 & 1 yr old .
She is constantly asking for me to baby sit for free .Which at first i didn’t mind wtv but now it’s constant & I’m tired of it .I have my own kid to take care of and tbh I don’t like taking care of my nephews … I love them to death but I just can’t with 4 kids by my self …. She asked if I can babysit again tomorrow for 4 hours I said “sure for a small golden eagle coffee frm Dutch bros “and she got upset … girl I’m done