Help! My baby is 4.5 months old now and from the moment she was born and up until now she’s FIGHTING sleep every single time.

She maybe fell asleep on her own once or twice during all these months. Otherwise She needs to be rocked to sleep in my arms for good 30 mins with a pacifier and lullabies etc. Most of the time she also cries hysterically before finally falling asleep. And during the day we only do contact naps, as soon as I put her down, she wakes up. We tried everything we could find on the internet and I even did a consultation with a “sleep consultant” lol nothing helps. Our Pediatrician and chiropractor are saying that everything is fine with her, they see nothing wrong - “that’s just how she is”
Did anyone go through the same thing? Did it ever get better and what helped?

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What happens if you try to feed her to sleep?

I want to say this is majority of babies specially at 4.5 months they still think they’re part of you till 6-9 months

Babies are not supposed to sleep on their own at the age, they need to be calmed, rocked and maybe talked to.
Mine is over seven months and he never slept on his own

Good luck 🍀♥️

I feed my baby in bed then put him on my legs to rock. Sometimes he goes down instantly, some other times it’s harder

My son had bad sleep regression up until 6 months because he was so eager to see everything and be awake dont try to get her on a schedule until she is about 8 months because it’s very hard and it’s normal for baby to want to be rocked or cradled this is because they are newborns and need all the love so be prepared to hold the baby and actually put them to sleep and watch out for cues fot crying too much may mean she is still
hungry or fussy may mean shes sleepy it gets better please hold her and buy a comfortable baby carrier its so much better my son is 11months and I have to actually put him to sleep now and he falls right to sleep

Yes. I had to give myself permission to feel way overwhelmed and then remind myself that I was not doing anything wrong and that it was not going to be a forever thing before I felt ready to achieve what I wanted (which was for my baby to feel safe/ ready to fall asleep on his own).
For us, I left the house and had my partner get baby down for a nap on his own because I knew if he cried I’d pick him up immediately. After that day, I would sit in his room on a chair and if he fussed I’d immediately go over to him and give him a kiss and say I love you — I never picked him up unless he was beside himself. I really had to learn his “I am mad vs I am really not okay” cries and that helped me feel much better letting him fuss for a few minutes. I did this method for a few weeks (longer than needed because honestly after like 3-5 days he would just fall straight asleep). I started this around 4 months-he is now 7 months and goes into his bed wide awake and is typically asleep within 10min

I’d echo others and say that it is totally normal for them to not be able to put themselves to sleep, and to prefer contact naps. When we started to really struggle to get ours to sleep after the the newborn phase we used Huckleberry and the sweet spot predictor, which really helped me identify (and remember, because my brain simply cannot do it alone!) wake windows. 90% of the time it’s bang on and although we do have some screaming before sleep still, it’s much rarer and much easier to get him down. Could be worth a try! X

This sounds like my baby. You're not alone!

Sounds completely normal that they need help to fall asleep. My daughter is almost 3 and I lay with her until she falls asleep.

Id have a look at wake windows and make sure the schedule/timings are right cos being overtired or under tired will be what's causing it to take so long.

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