Do you ever feel like a bad mom when you're the default parent and your patience starts to run low?
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Oh no 😟 hopefully you get through this soon.. girl yes definitely go get your mani and pedi, Starbucks and go to Target. Anything to have some free time away from the kids even if it's just for a little while
At least twice a week it feels like lately! I’m spent, emotionally and physically.
no I don't anymore. I remind myself that I carry a lot of invisible load. I've also started sharing that with my partner. I said that I carry a mental load of things like - do kids have clean clothes or is a washing due, do I need to buy any new clothes for upcoming season, do I need to organise a playdate, do I need to buy special food to suit his friends diet, do I need to organise doctor/dentist checkup, do I need to buy any gifts for upcoming birthdays, Christmases etc. all those things are exhausting. So my husband took over bedtime. I get an hour of silence. I don't cook, I don't clean. I shower and take care of myself, take a walk or listen to a podcast. I actively ask for time to be given for myself. and then I take it. it makes me a better, more patient parent. patience still runs out sometimes. but then my partner and I tag each other out of situations 😂
I'm currently in isolation with my kids because my dad exposed us to covid and we can't afford for my husband to have to miss work. We are all hiding out in my 3yos room except when he needs a nap because he won't go to sleep if we are in there. I am definitely getting a tad short tempered and have to leave the room to collect myself occasionally. It is hard. I'm going to need a spa day or something after this