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Having narcissistic traits v actually being a narcissist differentiate from one another . It’s possible that he is just a toxic person that possesses narcissistic traits . If you feel all the signs are there , he may be in fact a narcissist but not many people go to a psychiatrist to get diagnosed
He definitely will not go get tested for it, we have been together 7 years. He made me quit every job I ever had due to always always accusing me of chesting. He made me choose him over the military, every job. We have 2 kids and he let's me do all the work with them. Still accuses me of cheating where ever I go and I never go anywhere without both kids usually. He will only watch my oldest which is 5 not my little girl who is 3. He always lies about everything even small things which irks my nerves . He can't keep a job . Allows me to pay all the bills by I can stay at home and work remote . If I don't agree with him he has been very abusive. He has broken 3 laptops and 3 or so phones. A couple weeks ago threatened to break my laptop I needed for school bc I wouldn't show him how much was in my bank acc info. Wants me tk literally tend to all his needs but only acts like he cares when he wants something from me. The other day I didn't agree with him about something and he hit me in the face with a ball
He told me I was agreeing with someone else and not him
He is super competitive even with complete strangers. I can't go around his friends bc if I bend over wrong I'm trying to sleep with them.
Then a couple days before Halloween he wanted me to carpet clean the floor and I chose to carve pumpkins with My son. Almost smashed the pumpkin and told me I couldn't do it better than him. Then we were all outside and i told him I wanted to start working somewhere other than what I do bc I've been a stay at home mom for awhile until the remote thing and I wanted to get out there and make friends. He switched it up told me I wanted to make guy friends and i started naming types of jobs and all I said was receptionist and he out of nowhere go pissed and said I wanted to work for some man and help them and not him. Hit me in the leg and said he seen my true colors and that I needed to leave. He always threatens to kick me out but wants me to pay every bill. He has moments where he is sweet and will do things for me but then he brags about them as if I should be lucky when I do things for him all the time just bc I feel thats what u are suppose to do. I feel as if his I tensions are never true.
He has packed all my things up for me told me I can take my daughter not son and when I was about to leave he told me I was crazy and why did I have her out in the cold. And told me if I left I would never see them again him and my son and said if I left I would be doing the exact thing his parents and family did to him his entire life
Does that sound toxic or narcisstic ?
Oh he will always call our son stupid and a puss for not being into the dirt bikes and four wheelers like he was into at his age and will compare our son to random kids and say why aren't u like him or he rides a dirt bike why don't u? Yells at him for making a mistake or not being the fastest in his class or making him look good
And every job he gets he always starts talking to girls on snapchat and sites I always catch him. Idk if he has actually cheated but I wouldn't be surprised
Girl that’s a lot 😳
Yeah I know
It sound like he’s just an abuser . He does sound like an emotional & physical abuser, but could be a narcissist
I would not let no man treat me like a slave cause from what it sounds like , he feels like he owns you .
What would u say he is
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I would say so tbh from what I read
I believe he thinks he does, another thing I've noticed is idk much about his past but he knows everything about mine. That's another narcissit trait. He said that she cheated on him but idk if that is true. They also use their parents and I've seen him use his mom and then basically say that she owes him for how she allowed all the bad things to happen to him when he was younger
How did your narcissit ex treat u?
Yes that “she cheated on me” bs is one of the main traits of a narcissist. My ex was verbally abusive. Started off with the “love bombing” phase, where he always showered me w/ attention & affection . Once I questioned him about something I saw on social media , that’s when the devaluing stage started . Calling me names, “breadcrumbing” , which he told me he’s not applying pressure because he don’t like me question him about his “friends” , but they where all females .
He hates questions or anything that involves knowing any details about any other females. My ex also told me that his ex “cheated” , which i spoke w/ her & she told me he cheated & doesn’t want anyone or him contacting her about him. I told her I only contacted because I know he’s lying . She told me he’s a compulsive liar & to get away while you can .
Damn I wish I could contact his ex but I don't even know her name
Yea only reason I found out about her cause he wouldn’t stop talking about her a one point… I’m like damn are u still in love w/ her ? Like wtf? Lol
How do you know? I believe the father of my kids is a narcissit but sometimes I question. I feel as if his intentions aren't true. He has all the signs .