To speak or not to speak to him again until he apologizes? Opinions
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@Macdalia he can’t have a peaceful conversation to save his life. He doesn’t know what peace is. He thinks everything he does and says is right and I’m just not about to go back and forth with him all the time, it’s draining. He never sees no wrong in what he does and feels entitled if you can’t tell from the messages
I get it. My baby daddy is the same way. In some cases, I’d say was, but it’s still there. He just expresses them a little differently. But I had to be the bigger person and change first (though he denies I did). I take time away from him when needed where I just don’t respond for some hours until I’m ready. I try to deescalate or avoid all negativity. He’s had some times where he doesn’t talk to me for some time as well. Come back when the respect can be mutual and you miss your baby. Otherwise, stay away. Simple.
But you don’t ask him to get these things you tell him you’re going to the store to get it and expect him to say it’s ok I will… if you need it , ask and be straight up and if he denies to then there’s your problem. Also you said it took a lot out of you to respond nicely so I assume you would of cursed him back, so what makes you better than him? I think you both just need better communication and you not picking up his calls constantly is clearly getting to him and not helping the situation. I don’t think he’s completely out of line here he just wants to speak to his son… But then again there may be more to the story than I know.
You better than me! I literally don’t even ask anymore but he be having the audacity to think I’m supposed to help him all the time the epiphany of selfish.
I wish i could respond anonymous because i know someone is gonna bitch me out cuz idk the situation, but here goes. Honestly he doesn't owe you anything as far as his behavior just like you dont have to be nice back. He just wants to talk to his kid & that's upsetting him. Yes, it would be nice if he treated you with respect& made time to come/go see him in person, but if yall aren't together you can't expect him to do anything. If you ask him to buy stuff for your kid & he refuses, then yes, that's a problem, but expecting him to is just as disrespectful. Saying you're only being nice for the courts view is pretty manipulative. To say you've done nothing wrong is a lie because the courts too will see that you are doing nothing to assure he is able to speak to his kid & holding it against him when he is getting upset. I understand how much you do for your son & you want to feel appreciated, but youre seaking it from the wrong person. Using your son as a way to get at your BD is going to hurt your son too.
I think y’all need to have a peaceful conversation. You do not need to get out of character and once he starts getting out of character, tell him you’re not there/talking to argue with him, but for you both to get a better understanding.