I have 3 special needs kids. I tell them ahead of time in the car what the expectations are. If they start to throw a fit, itās right to the car and home. After a few times, they got it.
@Olivia yeah he thinks thatās the pattern / route to getting his way
Youāve created that, by never saying no. Itās ok to say no and stand firm on it
Pay those people looking and staring absolutely no mind!! š
As Katie said manage his expectations! On the way say this is where we are going⦠you can have one toy/ no toy (if itās no toy then Iāve found explaining why helps, my little boy doesnāt cope with the answer ābecause I said soā if I canāt afford it I say, if itās because heās had/getting another treat say) if heās allowed one day up to the value of x⦠I always find having cash in the car to give him before we go in helps! Ok mine is only 4 but it helps him physically seeing it so I have the treat pot in the car thatās full of odd and sods coins for those days And guys I think mumma knows sheās done this which is why sheās asking for help, which I know itās not easy to do as I found myself in the same situation a few month ago but I think we are getting there! Everything about so far has worked with us and if he cries in the shop I get down to his level, hug him (idc where we are) and remind him of the conversation and remind him of his money