Only fans

So before I was pregnant, I used to catch my boyfriend watching only fans anyway, and at one point it caused us to break up and it made me feel really low. Since being pregnant I felt like the trust was coming back and I started to feel like he was showing affection to me again. Over the last few days, I’ve caught him again. It’s made me feel like utter shit considering my sex drive is low at the minute as I’m 28 weeks pregnant and I’m so tired and find intimacy very challenging at the moment. He knows it makes me feel rubbish and he has apologised but he used to before and he would still do it. Am I in the wrong for being annoyed as I know we’re not sleeping together as much at the moment and I understand he feels like he may need to but surely he could just watch porn or something and not be watching that?

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last week

I would be fuming and you have every right to have strong feelings regarding this. The trust you thought you had in him has been broken and with during pregnancy is when you’re at your most vulnerable it’s going to be very hard to rebuild. It causes all sorts of issues especially when it’s been an issue in the past. Sometimes I think men do things to test their luck and hope they don’t get caught 😳🙄 I don’t agree with onlyfans as it’s a bit personal but I may be a bit old fashioned when it comes to this kind of stuff as I don’t really believe porn has a place in relationships.

last week

The point isn't that he's watching porn, the point is that he is doing the action which caused you to break up in the first place! You are totally right to be annoyed at him! I wouldn't even feel bad about your sex lives because that has nothing to do with this - at this point the trust has been broken. You need to talk to him and establish why he's broken that trust especially when he knows that this makes you feel bad.

last week

Not to be devils advocate here but men’s need for sex and gratification is very different from women’s. I’m quite open with my husband about all of this stuff he said that unless you’re paying subscription on the porn sites most of them just don’t cut the mustard as they are filled with ads or just not good quality, it could simply just be that? That the only fans one is better and he gets more of a kick with the personal touch? But I completely understand how you feel and agree, it’s difficult when you’re this far along to do anything in that department but it might be worth a discussion if that’s the reason for the repeated visit to that site? xx

last week

@Katie yeah I mean it’s not the ladies fault there just trying to make money and fair play to them! It’s my partner who I have the issue with. And through pornhub they still get paid through the company you just don’t pay out of your pocket to watch it. With only fans the money is going straight out of his into there pocket. Regardless with a baby on the way and feeling rubbish I don’t feel like my feelings have been taken into consideration xx

last week

It's a tricky one. I feel like content creators/porn actresses deserve to be paid fairly... but also only fans feels more personal and almost like a relationship so I'd be unhappy too. Also, cost of living crisis, would much rather than money went into running the household. I just wish my husband would put incognito mode on or clear his search so that when I search YouTube on his phone youporn doesn't pop up as a suggestion.