I have sole custody of my son and we live abroad

Did you ever get granted permission to leave the country with the child?

Of course, I have sole custody. Legal and physical.

That isn’t what that means. Legally even if you have sole that doesn’t mean you are allowed to move out of the country without the permission of the courts where the custody order is

@natasha, the court did allow me.

I think he will be able to get video visits, calling rights, and then he might be able to get vacation time. However the moving parent would be responsible for all travel

Thanks for your input. Do you know how he could possibly find me ?

Do you get child support? Have you ever told him if you had family out of the country and where? Could he afford a private investigator?

Yes and child support services made me file and sign a form in order to keep my personals informations confidential. for my safety. He knows my mother address in my home country but I don t have any contact with my family. They don't know where I live or what I do. I doubt he can afford a private investigator nor a lawyer, unless his family help him. Which is a huge possiblity

But realistically, our child who is only 2 won't be travelling by himself until he reach -at least- 12 years old. (I mean even with an assistance on the flight for example. Airlines companies request that minimum age for minors more or less on long haul)

So except request at distance contact like you mentioned, I don t see what he could get

Unfortunately he can request to use your parents address to serve because parents normally will reach out and send it to their adult child/children. After your Restraining Order is lifted they have no reason to keep your information confidential. If he has family money and they would help him don’t assume anything

The form that child support services made me sign for confidencial purposes have nothing to do with the restraining order. Already ask them. It is regarding "family violence history". For the safety of my child I will never let him go with his dad. Never. My son will do whatever he wants when he will be old enough to decide by himself and defend himself.

Anyway my ex will have a hard time finding us (plus because of my job we re living on the road half of the year) and all this work will be in vain for him. Until then, as I know him, he might have found a new victim which will keep him busy.

You would be surprised what the courts will allow. Unfortunately, the courts make the decision on the visitation schedule. For long distant plans he could eventually get all summers as soon as possible. Normally the courts will do it at the age of 1 sometimes sooner.