Inviting his siblings, expecting me to cook?

Today we returned from our vacation with our two under two kids. It was a morning flight so we woke up very early, and toddler was being a nightmare as you can imagine. One of his siblings collected us from the airport and dropped us home thankfully. However when my husband called another of his sibling, before we even got to the house he started inviting him over and saying for him to come and eat. And… he won’t be the one cooking, or emptying luggages to wash etc etc. Am I wrong to be annoyed?

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last month

Any time we come home from a vacation or road trip, we always order in. If he wants to feed them, he should cook or get food for the family. I would be SO annoyed and feeling unseen if my husband recommended that.

last month

Tell him to order pizzas lol

last month

I would just get on about my day and not even offer go cook. He invited them he can sort it out.

last month

You can try communicating your frustrations instead of locking off entirely. You can try directing him and say eg you handle the kids and this and that, and I will do this and that." It's family, don't block it, but rather enjoy it. It's a once in a while stuff, not an everyday thing.

last month

Yeah, I would be fuming too. Especially with 2 children under two. I think the sibling is wrong too. It’s common sense that when people return from a holiday, they’ll be exhausted and need some rest before seeing anyone especially with kids.

last month

No you are not wrong,when you invite someone you should cook and no expecting from someone else to do that,so i guess he is the one who have to cook lol

last month

I wouldn’t be cooking just on principle. Let your husband handle it - he’s the one apparently hosting. I’d just do my thing and make sure the kids were ok. I wouldn’t drop it on him publicly or anything, I’m not a passive aggressive monster 😆 but once he hung up after inviting them over I’d ask what his plan was for dinner!