Venting

I’m getting married on Sunday and I don’t even know why. I love him. I do. But he’s shown me nothing but inconsistency and inability to follow through. I’m basically his mom. And I don’t trust that he will even be manageable during labor. I just worry it will be all about him because it always it. “My back hurts. I’m tired. My hands hurt.” And I’ll do everything on my own. He is the primary income and acts like my role to be as a stay at home mom is still not enough compared to working and bringing in income. Despite many conversations about how my job won’t even pay me enough monthly to cover daycare and how toxic my work is. I want our relationship to be better and grow but he can’t even manage to clean his f**king side of the room. I literally feel like I’m already alone. We don’t have sex and haven’t since I found out I was pregnant because he started treating me like shit because I was pregnant. He’s finally starting to be excited about it but of course it was all about what he was giving up in the beginning not about what I was too. I’m giving up College and the career I barely just started. I’m giving up my 20s to be the primary parent with someone who may or may not be too tired when they get home from work to parent. Who knows because if he can’t even do the dishes or clean the cat box for me while I’m pregnant why would he do anything for me during postpartum or for the baby. People keep saying to me “maybe he’ll step up”. Maybe he will. But he’s shown me nothing yet.

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5 days ago

Proof is in the pudding if he's shown you his character there is no getting better honestly it'll only get worse from here on out a selfish person will always be a selfish person if you don't feel marrying him is the right thing don't force it men feel even more entitled over you when married.

last month

Run

last month

yeah maybe at least postpone the wedding. You guys need to have a serious conversation and let it all out on the table

last month

Girl do what's best for you and your baby. I've been engaged for 2 years (maybe 3 can't remember lol) and I've straight up told this man I will not marry him till he makes some improvements and helps me out more. Throughout this pregnancy he has stepped up a little but has been unemployed for 2 months which I have a problem with. You DESERVE love, respect, affection, and help through pregnancy and after baby is born. Don't forget you matter A LOT.

last month

Do not marry him.

last month

Girl… please run. Please . For you and the baby sake. Just run

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Run.

last month

I’m ngl just don’t get married , ima ask why haven’t you called it off already if you felt like this ? You know what you deserve and settling for , don’t keep leading him on as y’all finna get married , he honestly should’ve been stepped up it doesn’t take marriage for someone to be a man if he can’t show you that before marriage why get married ? You’re still young live you’re life it’s plently other men that’s ready to show you what it’s like to be loved

last month

Run girl and don't look back. You'll be taking care of two children, not just one. Major red flags.

last month

I agree. You've given up a lot already and no one has time to wait around waiting for someone to step up if he hasn't by now. You've voiced your concerns, now it's on him to take action.

last month

Run. You and your baby deserve better