Mama to a 30 week preemie

Omg babe j had mine at 33 we spent 3 weeks in NICU, its completely normal to feel this way!

Mum to 32 weeker. It gets easier I promise. There is a whole lifetime of bonding and love and cuddles ahead and that's what you have to remember. Lots of mums feel that way at first without the preemie situation so go easy on yourself. It almost feels like an out of body experience that's the only way I can describe it. But it will get better and the baby is yours and you are the most important person to that baby. This is just one hurdle to get over. Take care and try to rest when you can.

28 weeker here. I felt exactly the same, even when he came home. It was a few weeks after he was as home that I felt that bond. The bond will be there, just if you can hold them as much as possible when your with them. Don’t feel guilty when you have to leave you have other children and yourself to take care of. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. The whole time he was in the NICU he was out in me pretty much every minute apart from when he was in his incubator being changed or fed (he was tube fed for most of his stay) we’d talk to him take plenty of pictures of him (I pumped the first few weeks and pictures and things helped) But then coming home and it just being is no wires, machines, nurses is when it really hit me and I just didn’t want to put him down and now he’s on my what feels like 24/7

I had a 27 weeker and honestly I felt I had less bond with my 2nd baby who was born at 37 weeks then my 27 weeker. But once your able to hold baby in NICU it will all change. My baby was held so much in NICU by me or nurses. I even had a nurse tell me my baby got meneigitis because I held him to much and we were by the entrance to the room we were in. She wasn't our nurse after that. Just sit and talk with baby and the bond will come. I'm closer more to my 27 weeker then my other son because of the bonding in NICU.

28 weeker here who is currently 3 months corrected and let me tell you it gets better! The first days are the hardest especially when you feel like you can’t be the primary care taker so try to get involved with your baby as much as you can and know that he very much needs you and loves you and knows absolutely you are his mom. Think of it that way…this new environment is super invading and scary for your son as he isn’t supposed to be out yet so any minute he gets to hear your voice, feel your touch, hear your heartbeat when he is skin to skin is a relief for him and makes him feel safe! I couldn’t hold my baby for the first 2 weeks but then daily after that and the bond grew gradually as I got more involved and now that she is home we have an unbreakable Bond because her and I went on this special journey together ❤️ don’t be hard on yourself