Husband texting girl coworker
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That is still gaslighting and manipulative behavior. If he were truly innocent he wouldnt have blown up and threatened to separate but instead just been like “you know what, you’re right. She isn’t worth disturbing your peace or coming between us” It’s really that simple but no he had to flip it around on you and try to make you feel guilty. I don’t think he’s being honest about there not being a reciprocated crush either.
Yes! That’s exactly how I feel! I brought something up and he blew it up. I was more upset the fact that I found the messages on deleted thread and recovered them. He even told me I don’t want to her her feelings I was like WHAT ABOUT MINE. I am just tired.
Do you think it’s possible he really wants to break up, and possibly use it as an excuse to be with her? Sorry you’re going through this ! 😫
He is absolutely gaslighting you, and in my opinion, he has no respect for you and wants this attention because if he didn’t, he wouldn’t engage. You can do better and you deserve better
I would say let go because if you’ve mentioned this before and nothing has still changed, he obviously wants more with the coworker because he still continues to pursue her. Don’t stay as it can only get worse in due time cause I wouldn’t put nothing past him at this point.
“Yelling at me for just existing”….umm no dude, you just laid out for him the very specific reason you’re upset and it’s not a first time thing lol UGHHHH!!! I’m sorry that’s so frustrating
Girl you need to get out. 11 years is a long time but he’s told you now a few times he doesn’t want to be with you. Find peace and happiness elsewhere
It sounds like he’s mentally and emotionally checked out already. Try counseling and pray
Sounds like my ex drop him life better with out them
He’s gaslighting and manipulating you into thinking you’re the bad guy. If he wants to separate because he can’t talk to her anymore, I’m sorry he’s already with her. At this point he’s just looking for a way out. I can guarantee he will start dating her after you guys get divorced. I’m so sorry this is happening to you.
Leaving is easier said than done. I know I sounds stupid but I have no one. My mom died 2 years ago i don’t have any family, starting from 0 is so scary. What makes me more concerned is I am undocumented and have no way of getting help. You need a SSN for everything. I’m stuck atm.
You can either A make the change start over for the better or you can continue doing what your doing
I wouldn't communicate this over text anymore and see a therapist if he won't agree to that I would be done
If you can leave leave. Otherwise things need to change. He sounds manipulative and can’t take ownership. I’m sorry you’re going through this
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oh this hurts my heart and his reactions make me cringeeeeee. “INTILL” bitch noooo he can’t spell either 😂😩 so so so abusive i’m so sorry you’re faced with the decision to have to leave him. i can’t imagine how heavy it must feel for you.
The whole “existing” statement is my narc ex
Gaslighting. Anyone who says you're welcome like that is a manipulative asshole
Girl just leave his ass. He's not gonna change
Let him divorce you and you’ll find someone better
Give him the divorce!!! 0 respect for you & your boundaries because if the shoe was on the other foot I CAN BET he would be fuming!! It’s not that you’re too controlling, it’s that he wants to be able to run all over you. Don’t think about the history, think about how long you’ll allow him to manipulate and gaslight you if you continue to put up with this.
"I'd be dead" has me very concerned. My husband has said stuff like this. WHEN he files, tell the court you are afraid of him. Asking: this might not be the best advice, she may need to file first. I'm not sure what will happen being undocumented. I'm in a very similar situation. I filed and had to call 911 because he threatened to kill himself. My kids and I spent the night out of the house. I'm am a very sympathetic ear and pretty good coming up with resources if you want to chat
Time to get divorce. No if’s, no buts.
That’s abuse, he’s creating the problem, you can not confront him or he gets mad and then he creates more problem. The only way out is for him to see how he’s being manipulative.
Choose peace the moment they start saying things like you want me to kill myself leave run! That man is not ok!
There are lots of places to go if you are stuck. Women's shelter s will help you get through this.
I’m fortunate to have caught on before it was too late and my daughter was growing up witnessing the abuse her father was doing to me. What he’s doing is reactive abuse. It’s common for narcissists. He will always think he’s right and will blame you for having an issue with it. My soon to be ex husband was engaging with other women in ways I saw as disrespectful (even met up without telling me after our daughter was born, going out of his way to meet her on her work break, but they’re “just friends” despite having slept together previously) and when I was uncomfortable I was the one who was insecure and causing problems between the two of us. It only gets worse. They won’t apologize and think they can do whatever they want. Trust me someone out there will understand and respect your boundaries. I know I’m waiting to find them one day.
He is definitely gaslighting you! Leave his ass
You put up with him for 11 years. I’m sure that took a lot of courage to do. So if you are currently working on your papers with him I highly advise you stick it through till the end. Or else you’ll be in a worst situation after given him so much off you4 life already. But do know and trust you can do way better than him. This is just an inconvenience.
Wow he’s a total gaslighter!!!!! I’m sorry you’re going through this 😞 He’s flipping the script to avoid responsibility, and repercussions. Do you’re self a favor and kick him to the curb. What a shitty thing to do to someone whose loved you for 11 years. He’s a major red flag for even entertaining any female, especially a coworker, especially after you asked it to stop!
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This is Narcissism I’ve been through that
narcissistic people always try and reverse things alllllll the time, especially when they’re always asking if your cheating etc. it’s called projecting, where they ask such things cause they’re basically doing it themselves and they always make themselves the victims cause they don’t want to be held accountable
Girl he is gaslighting you!!! Trying to get you to be all “no no I love you I’m sorry” Fuck that. Tell him he can have his divorce and leave!!!! Have more respect for yourself than this because this is bullshit.