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You’re definitely not overthinking this. This was me with my son when he first started daycare back in July. My son also did his own thing and drifted off. I had a conversation with the director and now my son is doing great. I’ve learned my son does better in small groups versus a lot of kids in one class. Have a conference with the school director and discuss what different options they have.
I have roamer too... he's really independent and likes to do his own thing. My son's daycare sits with them one or 2 at a time to do whatever activity they are doing for morning session or afternoon session. That way he never misses out on anything and while the other kids are doing their activity he gets to independent play. He is hardly ever in the circle time activity photos (usually reading and singing) because he always wonders off to do his own thing. But so do other kids
@Violet this is interesting this could be the approach they are taking. While they were sitting at the desk drawing, I asked for the whereabouts of my son and they sent me a pic of him playing with balls and someone sitting with him. This could be their approach. I definitely need to have a conversation with them though. Thanks so much ladies
@Briana they usually have rules by law and have to follow curriculum you can’t just do sensory play all day there’s a routine! If he doesn’t sit still and he wants to wonder off and play with other things in the class that’s fine but u can’t just choose one child to focus on when there are many things they are required to do at academy’s/preschools! I was a one yr old teacher and I never had a child not sit at the table when it was time to sit and do things so he may just can’t sit still long enough to engage with everyone else! You can’t keep telling them to sit down and tend to everyone else at the same time it’s best to let him explore other things making sure he is in a safe space if he has already been told and sat multiple times! Children get irritable really quickly! I think he’s fine but they should definitely sit him down and get pics when it’s his turn to do so!
@Jazmine whoever was sitting with him should have tried to engage with him one on one with the activity! Definitely see what options are out there for your son especially if they have the staff to work with him one on one during activities! But do keep in mind it’s a lot of expectations for some academy’s, preschools that are different from actual daycares! As long as he is meeting evaluations I wouldn’t be too worried about it! I would just ask them to try to get him one on one! Never be afraid to voice ur concern they will do their best I’m sure
@Angel understood thank you. I am still learning honestly and just always want what’s best for him. First time mother here who works 12 hour shifts all day. Just want him to learn 😔
My son prefers one on one. So a single partner vs a small group and especially not a large group.
If your son is more sensory stuff, they should be doing more things with him dealing with that instead of just not caring he’s wandering off. Yes you can’t get kids to stay for one minute but doing things with him that he loves or will actually make him pay attention for a little bit is what they should be doing. They could even do activities with him that involves snacks or anything it’s not like they don’t know how to interact with kids who don’t have a long attention span because I’m sure they get others that do the same but they still interact with them.